person confuses me or makes me feel confused, or makes me think about something. i become enraged and enraged with the person thats confused me, be it in just the way theyve talked to me...
how can i stop this and know my mind?
im a 30 year old borderline personality sufferer
2007-07-19 06:45:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
prehaps it is because you dont want to feel confused u would rather no about it and understand about it rather than being confused...i am the same...i feel angry because you dont understand or are confused about something...
xxx
2007-07-19 06:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kirsty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you often confused when asked a question or when someone is explaining something to you? It could be as simple as slowing down and listening better. Most people only listen to about the first 10 seconds of an explanation or in any conversation for that matter. Studies have found that after 10-20 seconds (depending on the person) most people stop listening and start formulating a response. Pay attention to your next conversation, even an innocuous one, and see if you really listen or if you start thinking of what you are going to say. Also, if you know you have this problem, you will just have to work on staying calm. there is no simple fix for problems like these and it probably stems from your disorder. When you do find yourself getting confused, think of something to make you calm, count, any of the stupid things you always hear and never believe about stopping anger. Even say you need a minute to collect your thoughts...then calm yourself and patiently explain what you don't understand, not just that you don't understand. If you concentrate more on what exactly is confusing you in each separate incident, maybe you will better be able to control your anger. If some one's tone is angering you, it's perfectly ok to ask them to speak to you in a different tone. this is all about control over your own emotions, you will never be able to know your own mind without first having control.
2007-07-19 06:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by mamak2327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try the book: "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay. She basically teaches you how to exchange negative "chatter" in your mind for positive, logical and reasonable words. Your mind is a tool and one that you control. Thoughts don't just come into your mind and you act upon them. No, you can teach yourself what some learn in childhood but others - like me - must teach themselves. How to make choices and create a life and mind worth having.
Pause for a moment and try to focus on your last thought. What was it? Now, after you've found the thought, ask in your mind: "Where did that thought come from?" If the thought is negative and self-depreciating, chances are that you were taught these from other negative influences in your surroundings, maybe parents, schools, television, books, other children, etc.
Now, just because that thought is there doesn't mean that it must stay there. That's right. You can tell that thought to leave and then replace it with something that will serve you better.
For example:
Possible current thought: "That person really makes me angry!!"
New thought to replace the useless one: "That person has their own issues and it really doesn't have anything to do with me. I now live in the moment and enjoy the moment I have". You could also look around you and maybe notice things like the smile on someone's face or a flower or the pretty colour of a double decker bus - anything.
It is a form of cognitive therapy and it works but it takes work to get to a state of calm and relaxation. Just because you've been diagnosed with a disorder doesn't mean that is who you are and how you are defined. You have the choice to make your mind somewhere entertaining and fun or a place that tells you how "bad" you are or how you are worthless.
You can make the change. After you've tried it and seen some results - which you will - you will notice that you "enjoy your own company".
I can remember going home after being drunk and acting like a fool, only to burst into tears with all the guilt and tell myself how horrible I was. It was like I had someone else in my head telling me crap. I knew I had taken control of my mind the day when I woke up and my mind was empty. I had no thoughts and no "history". I realised that bombarding my brain with constant positive thoughts helped me to clear the rubbish and create a clean slate to put my own thoughts AND interestingly, thoughts from what some call the higher conscious. It was like I didn't HAVE to think anymore, yet I could function and ended up in a better job and started my science studies.
This works for any and everyone but you must have trust that you will be safe and ok in life.
Good luck.
2007-07-19 07:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an anger management class. Your GP should be able to put you in contact with one. Its quite a common problem and does have a good reason behind the feelings. You are aware of the problem which is a brilliant start to overcoming it. Good luck. (Hope this has not confused you as I get upset when I think I have made someone angry! But thats a different type of counselling for me!) lol
2007-07-19 06:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to see a professional to help you manage your concentration skills and manage your emotions. Flying off the handle and being confused a majority of the time is no way to live your life. You are suffering needlessly, and you should seek assistance immediately. There are behaviour treatments and medications that will help you get your life together, and make things manageable for you. Do not allow yourself to continue to suffer needlessly like this.
2007-07-19 09:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 16:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by evert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have control issues. When you are confused you feel like you aren't in control and it makes you angry. You should probably seek psychiatric help.
2007-07-19 06:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by myassisdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remain confused and you'll harm no-one including yourself. There's nothing wrong with being confused said -Confusious
2007-07-19 07:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by jayemess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
chill out, reflect more and take it easy.
2007-07-19 06:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋