My husband is going to adopt my daughter here soon. I've been talking to my ex about everything and hes ready to sign off on the papers. The problemm is now i keep dreaming about having sex with my ex. We are not even talking to each other like that just about my daughter and getting this all said and done. I dont know why i keep dreaming it and i feel extremely guilty. because in my dream i hide it from my husband. Even when my husband comes to hug or kiss on me i feel guilty like im hiding my dreams from him..ugh i dont know!! Should i be concerned about dreaming these dreams??? I keep thinkinkg about it during the day because i feel bad. I havent been with my ex in 5 years well we hooked up 2 years ago but it was just for a short period to see if we could work things out with my daughter and we both agreed we were better off away from each other. What is going on??!?!
2007-07-19 06:44:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just make sure you're shouting out the right name while having sex with your hubby and it will be all good.
2007-07-19 08:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is all about dream interpretation, and that is a difficult thing to do. I would take all responses to this question with a grain of salt, as any sane person would do!
My thoughts are that you feel guilty for having your daughter become the child of your husband since your daughter already has a father, and you are reliving the sex that consummated in the birth of your daughter.
You are conflicted because you know that your daughter belongs to another time and place. You realize that although your husband is adopting your daughter, she will never be his biologically.
Don't worry about it. It's not a big deal unless you start fantasizing that your husband is your ex. That would be bad indeed, and would mean that you are not over your ex.
2007-07-19 13:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my advice to you would be to calm down. I don't know about you - but I don't have control over my dreams. Or if I do - I certainly don't know HOW to control them. Sex dreams about people with whom we are or have been emotionally involved (and sometimes even not!) are extremely common. The other thing to remember if you believe that all dreams have deeper meaning - Frequently, the things you dream about signify something else entirely. For example - dreams about death are commonly held to mean that change is coming. So dreams about sex could mean something else as well. Actually, it kind of makes sense. Your current husband is about to become your daughter's adoptive father. It's only natural for her biological father to be somewhere in your consciousness or subconsciousness right now. If, deep down, you really do want to have something more with your ex - then you have a decision to make. If not - move on. No need to feel guilty. Good luck to you!
2007-07-19 13:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Letting your husband adopt your daughter is a big deal and it is stirring up old emotions. You are reading way too into it. Don't feel bad or act guilty around your husband. You haven't done anything wrong. The dreams will pass. Just don't dwell on them so much. Best of luck.
2007-07-19 13:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They're just dreams... You're making too big of a deal out of it. People dream about all kinds of stuff. And this is certainly not the kind of thing you would want to share with your husband, so don't feel guilty for being respectful enough to keep such private details to yourself.
2007-07-19 13:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have doen the same thing. My husband is going to adopt my daughter who has not even seen her dad in over 3years! Whenever I worry about her wellbeing and her relationship to my ex, I walways have the same dream. My suggestion is not to panic, we all have fantasy dreams of some sort anyways and if you have no desire to be with your ex then you are doing nothing wrong. The less you stress about it the less he is on your mind and the less you will dream.
2007-07-19 13:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by Smiley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a good reason to be with someone, if you can think of what else to do together for the next 70 years.
Stop talking to your ex. If only, for your daughter's sake. Be a good role model. She will follow your footsteps. Is this how you would want her to act and to be?
Concentrate on your husband and your child. Be a mother. Be a wife. Be a person you'd be proud of.
2007-07-19 13:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you're dreaming about being with him because it's what you subconsiously wanted your life to be, you, your child , and him. don't feel guilty about it, I think with the adoption and all, as much as you love your new husband, a part of you wishes it would've worked out. you may feel guilty that your marriage failed, that he's willing to sign his rights away to his child. write down all the reasons it didn't work with him, then, write down all the lessons you learned about yourself from him, all the good things that came from that relationship. then, write down all the good things about your new husband, what he gives to your life, your child, how good he makes you feel. then read it all over, you'll have closer with ex, and fall deeper in love with new husband, and you'll learn about you a bit more, and have closer. then burn it! good luck
2007-07-19 14:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by cheryl c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there just dream eventually you will forget about him I would suggest you not say anything to him or your ex about your dreams and from the sounds of it you and your ex will not get back together so its not worth it
2007-07-19 14:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by momma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are punishing Yourself by having sex with him... Really maybe he was good in the sackeroo and You miss that part of it... Get Your hubby in the sack tonight and have a real wild nite of it. That'll get the ex out of Your dreams!
2007-07-19 13:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by sAm cbt 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋