do you get emotional after an hysterectomy?

Question

i had a hysterectomy earlier this year i still have one ovary but i am very emotional my husband thinks the problems that we are having have a lot to do with that. i told him i am not happy and i am sure if i want to stay in the relationship i have 4 kids two are with him, and honestly i must say i am bother by the fact that if he wanted more kids he could have them i am older than him by 9 years and i am always fearful he will leave and start a new family. he has cheated on me twice before we got married but i do not know! he is verbably abusive and sometimes physically abusive help!

Answer 1

i think living with a man who don't treat ya right would make you emotional. You need to fix this relationship or forget it move on. Don't let anyone abuse you. Your hysterectomy did not make him be physically and emotionally abusive. YES hormonal changes could be a problem to but the bigger issue is if he hits you LEAVE

Answer 2

I didn't get emotional too much after mine. Your surgery has nothing to do with your marriage. By his cheating on you 2 times before your marriage is what is causing your insecurity. And now with this surgery and the fact that you can't have kids anymore is adding to this insecurity cause you feel if he wanted more kids you wouldn't be able to give him that and that someone else could. If he is abusive you two need to go to counseling or you need to get out. You don't want your kids to grow up thinking that it's ok to stay in a relationship like that or that it's ok to do that to someone they are in a relationship with. I know some women go through emotions after that surgery and that might be triggering some of what's happening but his cheating I can almost guarantee is what's causing your insecurity. Is he doing things or saying things that are making you feel that he wants to go start a new family or are those just your thoughts? When someone is insecure their minds go and go 24/7 which can cause crazy thoughts. To me it sounds like it's time to move on.

Answer 3

Dear jnc,

Your husband should understand that a hysterectomy causes mood swings due to the readjustment of hormones in your body. The immediate problems you are experiencing in your marriage might be, in part, due to that but I feel there is more to the your present situation than meets the eye. You are obviously upset and your words are a bit jumbled. I suggest you gather yourself, and as I told you before, you can contact me for more advice. The last time you did contact me was to tell me that you were ready for me to talk and I asked you for more background information, which you never supplied. I would like to help but cannot if I we don't have open contact. I know you feel depressed and are desperately looking for immediate answers to resolve your situation but It will be very hard to do if there is no frank communication between us.

Answer 4

It is not helping the situation any that's for sure, you best go back to your doctor and see what he can do - as far as being afraid your jerk of a husband might have more kids, you should be concerned with the ones you already have!!! Are they learning that abuse is good and this is the way relationships should be? Do they respect you and/ or your jerk husband? Do they have self-esteem issues? Do they know what love is and what it isn't??? INSTEAD OF WASTING TIME FRETTING OVER MAYBES AND WHAT IFS, GET A GRIP ON WHAT IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU - you can't control anyone but yourself, and you are not in control - you are BEING controlled - not a pretty picture.

Answer 5

Sounds like you are having hormonal problems. I suggest you check with your doctor. I never had any problems after my hysterectomy and I had everything taken out. If your husband is abusive why do you remain married to him?

Answer 6

To answer your question...yes. Having a hysterectomy changes the chemical balance in hormones causing you to have mood swings and sometimes depression. You should discuss this with your PCP or OBGYN they can prescribe you a hormone replacement that will help you get control of your emotions.
Hang in there, it will get better!

Answer 7

so is the question about the hysterectomy or the abusive husband? I think you should leave if you aren't happy, file child support on him.

Answer 8

To just stick to the answer of the surgery making you feel emotional ....Yes ...definatly...Talk to you doctor about taking hormones.

Answer 9

You married him, you have to deal with it. Get counseling. Your problems are not from your surgery, they are because you married a man you didn't know very well.