How do you "forgive yourself"?

Question

I keep hearing it from every1. I haven't done anything bad other than stress my self out which made others around me concerned. 4give myself? How?

To al the bogus fake chruch going bible beaters: BUTT out I am athiest & NO 1 will change me so there~

Answer 1

There is the expression that life is a journey. Okay, it sounds corny and designed for a Hallmark card, but I think that there is some truth in it. As humans, we are integrated with internal and external stimuli that provides an experience. Without experience, we aren't able to learn. In order to really learn, then one needs different types of experience. So, I usually look at all experiences as that --> experiences. If you were the one that made a mistake, then forgiving yourself is just an "inward" look at what made you make it in the first place. Serioulsy contemplate the "whys" and "hows" of the situation. Then, you are better able to grasp the situation more effectively and give credence to the situational or personal factors contributing to the success or failure. If it was your mistake, then the forgiving part becomes easier as you know why you made it and that you won't (or will try not to) make it again. Basically, forgiving is just more than saying "I forgive myself"...it is a process of understanding and analyzing. At the end, it may also give insight as to why you have guilt over the issue in the first place (which is probably why you even need to feel that you should forgive yourself). If you have caused some harm to others, tell them (regardless of whether they forgive you) that you are sorry. Keep in mind, this kind of analysis may be difficult because you may come to some truths about yourself that you don't like, but if that is the case, work on them. Again with the "life is a journey" thing. Everyone has stuff to work on, and you may never become the absolute best at it, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to recognize your weaknesses and work on them, especially if they are harmful to others (e.g. - passive aggressiveness, excessively needy, etc.).

The point is that you are taking the existential leap to find out about yourself, that you are in charge of your own life, and that you are okay with who you are.

Answer 2

You are unable to forgive yourself.

You can like yourself, love yourself and everthing inbetween. You can forget the past and what you've done or so often didn't do.You can remember your triumphs and you can hold onto every negative influence in your life. You can forget nothing yet forgive every kind of wrong done upon you. How you see it is up to you. Sorry though, you need to look for forgivness, ask for forgivness, expect forgivness, hope for it , pray for it, long for it, hope you do.

Answer 3

If you are stressed out then you need more relaxation like take a day off from work or meet with your friends.If you don't feel like enjoying yourself and others then you probably have a mild depression there are drugs and therapies for that.

Answer 4

It doesn't sound like you're talking about forgiveness--it sounds more like you are talking about negative self-talk. One thing to look at is what you are getting out of being stressed out. One clue--it has others around you be concerned. Is that a strategy you used to feel cared for? I realized that I tried to make people feel sorry for me, because that was a pattern I set up in my childhood to feel like people cared about me.

All there is to do is cut it out! Once you are aware of what you are doing and decide to be an adult instead, all there is to do is to examine your behavior and your self-talk and consciously decide to behave like a fully functioning adult, and to replace the negative self-talk with positive affirmations and reminders.

I strongly recommend Landmark Education courses (see landmarkeducation.com).

Answer 5

I know this might sound very cheesy but you never have to apologies to you.
So you worry and get concerned so do we all.
You think you are not good enough.
So do we all.
So way forward.
Start liking you.
You are OK.
Accept it.
You have nothing to prove to anyone.
So try and begin to relax.
I know it's difficult but give it a go. What have you to lose?
Give it a go and good luck.

Answer 6

I always thought that forgiveness is given by someone who is wronged. It doesn't make sense to "forgive yourself" unless you have a split personality and one part wronged the other. I think people say this because they latch onto phrases they don't think about.

Answer 7

.....What is there to forgive? Whatever it is, leave it in the past. Say to yourself, "Look, I'm my own best friend. I'm not perfect, but I'm trying my best. So I've learned from this past thing, and I'm moving on. It doesn't matter to me anymore. I'm living in the present and preparing myself for a better future."

Answer 8

Proverbs 18:14 "the spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear?

The Word of God tells us that we're loved, adopted and accepted, but rejection or accusation has an assignment to steal those truths away from us. We all know the deep sting of rejection or accusation, because we are all born with an innate longing for love and acceptance. The effects of agreeing with rejection or accusation can be physically and psychologically devastating.

Some of the fruits of accusation are: holding a record of wrongs, murder with the tongue (gossip and slander), mind control, scrambling thoughts, chaotic thinking, jumbled thought patterns, misunderstandings, projected fear, accusing another in your own sin, burden bearing, and becoming codependent in another's sin by attempting to be their Holy Spirit.

Fear, Anxiety and Stress disorders
"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear; because fear has torment. He that fears is not made pefect in love. 1 John 4:18

The beginning of all healing of spiritually rooted disease is
1. reconciliation with God and receiving God's love
2. reconciliation with you, yes, with yourself - love yourself
3. reconciliation with others

Answer 9

if you are stressing yourself out and everyone around you take a look at what is going on that you have stressed yourself out and the people around you. if you are streesing out the people aound you the must really care about you and are worried about what is goiing on in your life. you forgive yourself by learning from your mistakes and not doing the same things over and over again.

Answer 10

Go to church a lot.