My husband has this invention that he wants to go to this show to promote. He wasn't planning on going because he didn't think his invention was going to be done by then but it turns out it is, so it's only been the last month and 1/2 that he's been planning this. Well the show is going to cost a total of about $1500-2000 to go to, which we were working hard to make sure we had. However he lost his job 2 weeks ago and he just started a new job yesterday. He still thinks he's going to this show even though he missed 2 weeks worth of pay. So I came up with a plan that if he works the next 4 or 5 saturdays and also cuts his child support in half then he will have the money to go to the show. He can repay the child support after the show. He's trying to act like he shouldn't have to go the extra mile for this show that he should just be able to take the money used to pay our bills to go. What do you think?? Oh and I am 9 months pregnant!!!!!!
2007-07-19 05:41:54 · 11 answers · asked by angel32984 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He also hasn't been paying his child support in a while and I was the one that am making him pay, plus his ex-wife would understand since he lost his job if it was only for a few weeks (also the kids aren't even with her they are staying with their grandma and she's not sending the grandma the money either). But his solution to the problem is to take our rent money for the show which means we would get evicted.
2007-07-19 05:50:06 · update #1
He needs to think of home 1st and take care of this at another time. If he does this how will you pay the bills ? Wont this put you behind? Take care of home and dont let him make a mistake that he will regret due to lack of planning. + you are pregnant.
2007-07-19 05:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by sprng4ward 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you shouldn't blow off your bills but my main thing is his kids. How would you like it if he was paying you child support and only paid you half. You shouldn't make the kids pay for that. There is always next year to do what he wants. He's waited this long and I don't think one more year is going to make much of a difference.
2007-07-19 12:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tennessee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW ! Saw the responses that you were getting...the 1st being really rude and off base! Your dh needs to pay his child support...really! It doesn't matter if he can pay it back. Also, it is a game show...what is it worth? Does he actually have a shot at winning? He needs to realize that he is an adult with responsibilities and one of those is having money to pay bills...
2007-07-19 12:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Proud AP! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!!!!!!!! I think that it is totally selfish to think that it is okay to cut his child support to go and support something that is not paying the bills. If he lost his job and the money is neeed to pay bills, he will just have to wait until the next show!
2007-07-19 12:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him use the bill money. True, this could be his big break, but you have to pay your bills including FULL child support. Other than that, your plan sounds good. Best of luck.
2007-07-19 12:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your plan sounds like the best plan hands down. But I am also a man who is very determined in my ways.
To fight it out is not going to work. The man I hear you talking about is a tinker..er . He fixes whats broken and invents new ways to do things. So to my mind you could approach him that way. I sometimes find it hard to accept ideas as good that arent mine.. but if they work best for the family then they work best for me. In the end thats what I really desire.
Good luck
2007-07-19 12:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by tony_scandal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut his child support??? Umm.....no. There is a line of responsibility here and neither of you see it. If you don't have the money to do something, you don't do it....period. There are no cutting corners...just prioritizing. Tell your husband he can show his "invention" next time around.
2007-07-19 12:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is full of compromise. If you are willing to help him get there, he should shoulder his end of the load too. The bills money help keep his lights on too and help his dinner get cooked each night...sounds like he could be immature or selfish.
2007-07-19 12:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nice.. you are telling me that you want your husband to skimp on his child support to gamble it away on promoting some dubious "invention." I have news for you, it isn't his to gamble with, much less yours.
I hate to say it, but you are wrong.
2007-07-19 12:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by dpilipis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so freaking selfish. You would cut the money another woman is depending on to raise your husband's kids just to make your life easier? I hope your husband meets a woman at the show and never comes back to you.
2007-07-19 12:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋