My husband was nice at first then turned mean. Are guys like this always or do it wear off at some point. Oh yeah he take meds too and he has bi-p. He comes in the house storming mad. If I'm watching his tv he immediatelys comes in turns the tv off. or change the program. He grabs people stuff like my fan puts it in his room not thinking I'm gonna need it. Gets mad when I take it back saying I'm gonna need it myself. So whats the problem with this behavior. I be thinking thats its work related but he like his buddys at work. He calls them when he's not working. So whats the deal.
2007-07-19 05:28:16 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bipolar- manic-depressive illness, It's the reason why he does what he does plain and simple.
2007-07-19 07:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has bipolar then the medication is not working properly. If he is not already seeing one he should be see a therapist. If he is seeing one he should probably change therapists. His behavior sounds like it is directly linked to his bipolar. I am a 32 male and I have bipolar. For a long time I had problems almost exactly like you described. It took trying different meds and therapists before I was able to become stable. Now I am doing great. I have a much better attitude. I have now been married 9 years and she was with me the whole time I was going through this with lots of support. It is very important to give him as much support as he needs. If he became stable I am sure his mood and attitude would change back to how he use to be. Bipolar is a serious illness but can be treated. I suggest that you talk to him about his meds and about therapy. I also suggest you look for some books at the library or book store on how you could help your husband and I recommend joining a support group for family's with a person who has bipolar in your area. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-07-19 12:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are mean all the time, but if your man is mean to you sometimes, for no reason, he will be like that always and it will never change.
Many men do what your husband is doing. They wait until you are comfortable with them then, when they have you hooked, they turn mean. Some men are just like that. They are afraid of their feelings and therefore cannot deal with them in a rational way, because they are insecure they feel they need to turn things on you. If they can get you feeling as badly as they do, then they aren't the only ones suffering right?
Anyways hun, alls I can say to you or anyone with this problem is STAND UP TO HIM and do NOT let him make you feel small or trivialize your feelings. Do try to talk to him, tell him what he is doing to you...but in a calm and rational way. If you do this and he still persists in being a jerk, think about whether you really want to live your life this way and from there you can make a decision...it is up to you to change your life because you will never change him.
2007-07-19 13:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hurry... go out and get him is own fan!
Actually, it sounds like maybe he needs a neck massage... after a hard day at work you should help him relax.
When I come home from work, I don't want to hear the kids fighting, or someone being scolded. I want a nice quiet place I can just take a moment to collect myself.
See if your husband is open to "meditation", I know it sounds sissy... but it may help him relax and control his temper.
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Being Bipolar, I really don't understand the particulars of this disease. I heard that if he's taking Paxil and is truely not bipolar... it could induce the symptoms of being bipolar.
2007-07-19 12:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Darren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not all men are like that but maybe it isn't work that is bugging him maybe it is his home life if he comes in mad and turns the TV off maybe he is trying to tell you that he expects you to greet him at the door or be doing something else besides watch TV when he comes home. Maybe you should buy another fan or share a room so you can share the fan.
2007-07-19 12:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by bubbles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol you said, he's Bipolar.
Read about it, it's crippling. Meds do not typically handle all of it. Google Bipolar Symptoms.
You might not be ready to handle a relationship with a bipolar person. Most people aren't. It's pretty ******* difficult as hell.
What you are describing is typical of a manic / aggressive phase.
GOOD LUCK..
2007-07-19 12:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband is also very mean. we are split up now because of his emotional and mental abuse. sometimes physical abuse. i don't know what to do cause i love him very much but cannot handle all the mental abuse. to answer your question- it could be something to do with the way he was raised. if his dad was mean to his mom (or wife) then he probably thinks thats the way it's suppose to be. my husband was my night in shining armor at first too. he is 13 yrs older than me and i married him 6 weeks after meeting him. he swept me off my feet then stomped on my heart.
2007-07-19 15:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by smash 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men are different. Your problem is that your husband has a mental illness. Bipolar disease is extremely difficult to deal with. He needs to get his symptoms under control and you need to get some help dealing with him (counseling?). Good luck!!
2007-07-19 12:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by animalover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. all men are not mean. they could of course be rude, inconsiderate, unconcerned, lacking in warmth and affection...there are so many alternatives to choose from. but, then, so can be all these and more..its not the gender. i think he needs your help, cause unknown-even you are foxed!! best! hope, sincerely do, that things work for your sake and the sake of a relationship that WAS beautiful..once upon a not so long ago!!
2007-07-19 12:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by deepend 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright, first of all, his TV, you are married now its both of yours. You don't need to be with someone as unstable as that, get out while you still can because someone like that can become physically abusive. And NO, not all men are mean, I don't think I am.
2007-07-19 12:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋