okie i am 13 and well my boyfriend says he's ready to have sex but if i am nto ready to he will wait ... but i really wanna have sex too but the whole i still want to be a virgin thing but liek he says no one has to know abotu it and well liek it woudl be bettween us too and it woudl never be heard of so i dunno what shoudl i do!!!!
2007-07-19 05:25:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look, you are too young and boys in that age are too confused to know if they are just horny or in love, so I suggest you to tell him no, and wait a while. Maybe in a week he´ll brake up with you because of that, maybe he´ll stick with you forever, maybe not...
When I was your age I wanted to have sex too and I thought about it a lot (not the whole day!) until I was 18 and did it. I didn´t want to do it just because a boy wanted too or because everybody teased me telling me that I was too old to be a virgin (ridiculous); I wanted to have sex with somebody who really cared about me and loved me. And that happened but the relationship didn´t work out and now I have a new boyfriend who I will marry soon.
Do not do it if:
.people is pressuring you
.your boyfriend wants you to do it or he´ll break up with you (that means he just wants you for sex)
.you are not sure
.you are scared
.you are not turned on (that means wet... that will hurt you a lot)
plus your boy probably doesn´t know how to put a condom and you might get pregnant.
do not do it. wait for your Prince Charming
2007-07-19 07:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by helloy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can only speak for myself, but I believe that waiting until you're married is highly overrated. If I had to do it over again, I probably would not have had my first sexual experience with the man I did; we all have relationships where we said "What the hell was I thinking?!" I have had some wonderful experiences with boyfriends / lovers that helped me grow as a person and as a sexual being. I don't regret those one bit. I think the problem with premarital sex is that we've become so saturated with sex that we're really not discriminating in our choices, or are realistic about the possibility that we could endanger ourselves (physically and emotionally) because of our lack of judgment and discretion. The pros of sex before marriage are the opportunities for learning and growth...especially learning about your own sexuality. The cons are that if you don't educate yourself about birth control, reproduction, and have a healthy sense of yourself, it will just be a horrible experience-- but that could happen if you wait as well.
2016-05-17 10:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 13? Well, honey first of all if you have sex, you can get an STD such as HIV/AIDS, Syphillis, Gonorheahh (sp?), etc. Or you could get pregnant. Hopefully you knew that. Your boyfriend will tell all of his friends that he had sex with you and it will be rumors rumors rumors. It could ruin your reputation and maybe even cause you to lose some friends. I would wait. I mean, you're only 13. Don't you want to wait and do it with someone you really truly care about? Maybe you do really care about this boy, but i think this is more lust than love. Wait until you know you're responsible to take such a big step. Because sex is a pretty big thing. Don't take it lightly.
2007-07-19 05:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by music_lvr29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody should be having sex until they are old enough and mature enough to handle any possible pregnancy. There is no possible way you could support a child if one happened to come along. There is also a lot of emotional issues wrapped up in sex that I doubt either of you fully understand or are ready to deal with. I'm not telling you that you have to wait till marriage but please wait until you are older and more informed so that you can make the best decision possible. Don't do something you might regret. Best of luck!
2007-07-19 05:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by Katie T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn' say necessarily wait until you are married unless you have deep beliefs about it - but you definitely wait until you are more mature. Boys his age have raging hormones and a raging curiosity about sex so he is going to push for it. You are very young and sex can lead to all sorts of complications. You have your whole life to have sex and when it's right you will know, and at the moment I think you should concentrate on being 13 instead of growing up too fast.
Hope this helps!
2007-07-19 05:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont recommened you to have sex so young . you still a baby and your boy friend just want to get laid and you know he wont be with you forever. this is just puppy love right now . I am almost 30 and if you look for my advise as a sister dont do it I know you wont wait till you married because most of the young people dont wait anymore . there will be pear pressure and your hormones will kick alot. Atleast dont do it so young. he will do anything to convince you and even tell you that the relationship has to end . if that is the case let him go he wont be the first or the last boy youll meet . GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-07-19 05:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I think you are still too young and should go out and enjoy life, there is more to life than sex, tho you might not feel there is with all the hormones raging thru your body.
Another reason is that by having sex at this age you are breaking the law in 98% of the countries in the world, i guess you live in one of those countries.
2007-07-19 05:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor thing.. dont! he obviously just wants sex if he wants to keep it a secret etc.. you're virginity is a BIG deal. I lost my virginity when i was 14 i didnt regret it cus the guy is now my fiance. do you think you could get married or something to this boy? Love is the answer hun, if you love him go for it; but if you're having doubts then don't especially not at your age.and if you do be very careful do you know how much it hurts? and especially if you're young! its excruciating, the guys never come either the first time. does he know your a virgin.Add me on msn if you want to talk that.sarah.girl@hotmail.co.uk
look after yourself
2007-07-20 08:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will tell his friends by the end of the night and all of your friends will know by sun up. Sorry that's the truth.
If you think you're ready you should be on birth control, be able to support a child should an accident happen, and know about proper STD control.
Judging by your post you're unsure and while you may not wait until marrage you for sure don't sound ready now.
2007-07-19 05:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Chris O 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait till your old enough to decide on your own without having to ask strangers on an Internet site to help you make a decision.
You can always ask you mom and dad what to do. I'm sure they will give you an answer.
2007-07-19 05:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋