I am a male of around 45 yrs of age. After the break up with my girl and failure in love I seems to grow more emtional and sensitive. Any emotional sciene in movie or TV is enough for running my tears down and I feel like crying. I feel awkward to myself like I am losing the strength and growing weaker. Is there a way to make yourself emotionally strong?
2007-07-19 05:19:34 · 7 answers · asked by LARRY 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There's nothing wrong with you being sensitive but it sounds like you are suffering from some depression. See your doctor and tell him what you told us I bet anything he'll agree. No shame in meds. You'll feel better in no time.
2007-07-19 05:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by mds5439 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we experience loss in our life, our defences are weakened and our emotional state of mind is compromised. A traumatic event in your life could possibly trigger depression , making you hyper-emotional. If you are having a difficult time getting past the break up, every aspect of your life is affected and your emotions could be in peril. If your extreme emotional state of mind is related to your break up, it is time to divert your thoughts. The worse thing to do is isolate yourself and ponder your loss. The more you think about it the worse you will feel. Submerse yourself in an array of outdoor activities and re direct how your mind thinks. Surround yourself with quality friends who will love you and support you and be a support structure when you are feeling down. Taking that first step to move on is the most difficult one. It is our tendancy to want to stew in our sorrows despite how counter productive it is. It is not a question of contolling your emotions but rather it is about changing your outlook on life. To "control" our emotions suggests the emotional problem will always be there. It is not enough to merely suppress the outward maifestation of emotion if there is not a plan to heal your broken heart. When we learn to love the here and now and appreciate what we do have, the things we don't have no longer have the impact it once did. As a side note, chemistry sometimes plays a role in our emotional well being. Certain tests can be performed to ensure there is nothing happening inside of you that is medically related and affecting your emotions. Surround yourself with lots of good people and positive influences. Do not try to control those emotions but rather heal those emotions. To be emotional strong is to feel good about yourself. The failure of a relationship (and I have had many) does not define who you are as a person. Your value and worth as a person is by no means diminished and don't believe the lies that try to hurt you inside. Hit me up at rmmthe10@yahoo.com if you want to talk to someone. Send me an e-mail with a return address and I will give you my phone number. Strangers can be friend too.
2007-07-19 06:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by rmmthe10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are grieving ... maybe some depression.
Could be that it's important for you to go through it to come out the other end. As far as "controlling" emotions, it depends... Some emotions are important to GO THROUGH,
but others are irrational. I find that my irrational feelings are usually fueled by my thoughts and I am able to stop thoughts.
It seems like I almost get into a 'habit' with thoughts, so I have to stop them over and over, by getting busy or consciously thinking something else.
2007-07-19 05:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in times of over-stress a person's body lacks the group of B vitamins. Go to your health store and talk it over with an agent there as to which you need. And, stop watching sad movies...find yourself something better to do...like a hobby, more education, learn something fun. After a divorce you need to figure out what went wrong, correct it and move on. If you need help correcting what part (clearly both sides did something) they did wrong and you did wrong then talk it over with a counselor, a psychologist preferably, get the information, solve it and move on with a clear mind.
2007-07-19 05:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not merely emotional you are just keeping the memories of your heartaches alive.
Controlling your emotions means to be firm on your thinking. If you are always thinking on those some sort of things, well, you’re ending up like it (emotional as you may call it). But if you are thinking at it positively, with ease and that you have better judgment on it as a part of your life well, that’s the way that you will not be emotional.
Emotionally strong means proper and firm thinking and judgment on things. So, better think properly on such things and judge them fairly.
2007-07-19 05:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to be emotional after a breakup like this. Suppressing your emotions will do more harm than good. It will take some time, but eventually you will move on and your desire to cry when watching a movie will pass, and so on.
2007-07-19 05:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by unassailed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure! Being emotional is not a crime nor is it a sign of weakness! It shows how caring one could be! Controlling one's emotions is not totally out of control, it is possible!
2007-07-19 05:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋