2007-07-19 05:06:09 · 23 answers · asked by sonyviki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before we got married (years and years ago) my (now) wife asked me what kind of ring I wanted. I told her that she should pick something that would look good in the top dresser drawer, because I would not be wearing it. I work around cars and other machinery, and a ring could be a danger.
The only jewelry I have every worn is a wristwatch, and that is only because I need to be able to tell time! I never bought a school ring. I do not like rings on my hand!
She decided that there was no need to buy a ring, knowing that it would not even stay on through the wedding reception.
A ring does not keep a man or woman from cheating, if they
are so inclined. Marriage in in your heart, not on your finger! If he does not want a ring, accept that fact. He may be like me, and be afraid of it catching on moving machinery! He may not like jewelry.
If you do not trust him, do not marry him! A ring is not going to change the person!
2007-07-19 05:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by fire4511 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he does anything physical at all, a ring can be a major hazard. Talk to someone that has worked in the emergency room. It is easy for rings get caught causing cuts(often the ring does the cutting) or the finger to be torn/cut off or crushed, the ring creates a short circuit when working on electrical equipment (they have even burned through the finger), and etc.
So not wearing a ring just makes good sense for many men.
2007-07-20 02:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, it is a simple statement, it is the meaning you are attaching to it, that will make it right or wrong for YOU. You did not mention WHY he does not want a ring....I have been married forever and have NEVER worn a ring....I just don't like them....and I have never cheated or NOT been happy to be married..... having or not having a ring is not an indication of the strength of a relationship.....a great relationship or marriage does not NEED a ring to be strong, happy and long lasting and a marriage that is NOT built on trust, love and mutual respect will never survive even if he wears 10 rings. So perhaps it is really a different question you are asking.....
2007-07-19 12:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No not at all. my parents have been happily married for 32 years and my father has never worn a ring. He just doesnt like jewelry.
On the otherhand my soon-to-be were looking at rings and I was surprised that he wants to wear a wedding band. He isnt the type to wear rings either.
Its not the ring that makes the committment it is the person
2007-07-19 12:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by To The Point 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. I don't like rings and when I got married it took a while getting used to it. If I were a man I probably wouldn't have worn a ring. It's not uncommon for a married man not to wear a wedding band.
2007-07-19 12:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kate J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The ring is just tradition. That's it. You don't marry for the ring, you marry for the love of each other. Long as he loves you and is faithful and there for you, who cares about a ring. I'm married and wear one but even if I didn't wear it I would still love my wife the same.
2007-07-19 12:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what he does for a living. If hes a mechanic or does construction, then I would understand him not wanting to wear a ring. But when he comes home...it should be on. I would have a problem if my husband didn't want to wear his, but he's a cop andthere is no reason why he shouldn't. However, my Dad doesn't wear a ring and my Step-Mom doesn't care. Some men just really don't like jewelry. Do you trust him? If so maybe think about his reasoning and go from there.
2007-07-19 12:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The ring is a symbol of the unity between both of you when you make your vows and that's it.
A piece of rope can be tied and used.
It really means nothing else other than that.
I bought my wife a 3 carat solid diamond ring. Don;t ask how much I paid I want to forget.
She lost it at the Goody's Million Dollar Fair.
To this day I have never bought her another 3 carat diamond ring.
She has a $200.00 ring and she is happy with that.
Were divorced now!
2007-07-19 12:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its wrong at all.. some people just dont like you use jewelry.. Im married, but i dont use a ring.. i still let people know im married.. I just cant stand to use any kind of jewelry..
The only ways its wrong if he does use jewelry and just doesnt want the ring..
2007-07-19 12:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by RS_AK 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did he say why? I can think of two reasons...
1. He is NOT materialistic and doesn't feel like he needs a piece of jewelry to remind him of the bond that the two of you share.
2. He doesn't want people (strangers...women) to know that he is married.
I felt the same way about a ring...I don't need a piece of jewelry to remind me of the bond that we have but, my husband explained how he felt about it and that he really wanted me to have one for tradition's sake and so that when I'm out and about without him it is more clear that I am unavailable. He trusts me but the idea of another man even approaching me because he may have though that I was available made him uncomfortable.
Once he explained his reasonings to me I wanted to go get one right away and you had better believe once I thought about other women seeing his as "available" I slapped a big fat band on his had too!
2007-07-19 12:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋