How did you get your life back. Most women spend their lives taking care of the husband and kids and then boom the husband comes in and announces that he is trading you for a newer model.. After the shock, what steps did you take to reclaim your life?
2007-07-19 04:03:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me, I never gave up my life.....I shared my life with my "ex-husband"...So for me, I didn't have to get anything back..When we separated, I was still a mom to our boys but, I just wasn't going to be his wife and partner anymore...I still do the things I did before accept theres's no one I have to compromise with..You should never lose your
self-individuality when you are in any type of relationship...I think you need to start putting yourself FIRST...Take the time that you have for yourself to grow and to build a life for you with the things you like to do and always wanted to do...Let this time in your life be all about YOU** I truly wish you all the best.....
2007-07-19 04:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i don't think you can "reclaim" your life....your life before you were married will not be the same as it was after your divorce. You have to reinvent yourself. Start all over discovering what your likes and dislikes are. It's not easy, and you will feel sad and alone sometimes. Not gonna lie, it's a struggle...but you just have to let go cause you can't go back and change anything all you can do is move forward. God never gives us more then we handle. If you have kids, focus on the kids cause they are gonna need you. I didn't date for a year in order to get some kind of structure back into our lives. For me i have to admit that the finacial struggle was well worth finding myself and inner peace. I am very happy now, and i was married 16 years.
2007-07-19 14:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by andee_lapointe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now is the time to take care of you for a change. Find a sitter and go out on the town with the girls. I went back to school, have an incredible job that I love...things couldn't be better. Do all the things you always wanted to do but couldn't because HE didn't want you to or HE needed something. Have a blast!!!
2007-07-19 11:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hobbies and social activities are a good thing....Learn about yourself again. It won't be a easy task all the time, but when you feel like it do something active that you enjoy. Learn something new...like you 've always wanted to speak spanish take a course, gardening, hiking or whatever activity you have always wondered about.
I love mexican food...so every saturday I would go to a restaurant and have lunch by myself.
I took up gardening more or course my funds were limited so that tends to be an issue.
Reading-join a book club
Look at community centers and recreation facilities to see what they have available for adults.
2007-07-19 11:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my divorce was only final Monday. But I've been working on getting my life back since the day he walked out on my son and me.
How? Well, I've been working out more, doing things to make me feel good about myself. Working a full-time job, getting ready to go back to school end of August. Trying to make new friends and do things that I normally wouldn't do. And focusing on my son and improving our lives, so that I won't ever be dependent on a man again. (Not to say that I never want another man, but I want to be an equal, not a dependent.)
2007-07-19 11:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually left my husband as he was abusive. But I realized I need to find out who I am. So just try to be happy with yourself. Go out and do things you wouldn't have done before. Nobody can make another person happy. You have to be happy with yourself. I know it's really hard and a huge change, but time will heal your wounds. In my case, it was a relief to leave him. If he is leaving you for someone else, he's no good anyway. Good luck and take care. Email me if you need to talk.
2007-07-19 11:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by brokendownangel27 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get dressed up and go out with some friends.
Been divorced a few times and the best way to deal with it is go and do things you couldn't do before while you were married. Ever want or dream of doing something..now is your chance.
Enjoy life...it is way to short to dwell on someone else..
2007-07-19 11:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by C C 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I started going out with single friends. We would go to clubs etc... and although I wasn't interested in picking up a guy or anything it got me out of the house and mingling with other people. I always drove and was the designated driver so I didn't have to worry about riding with somebody who'd been drinking or getting left.
2007-07-19 11:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by ilufthemountains 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
FREEDOM. The freedom to be yourself and not "just a wife and mother". We, as humans, are entitled to live our own lives separate from everything else we are. Some women just get stuck in that wife/mother mode and feel they cant or arent anything else. Be confident, independent, sexual, caring, fun and FREE ......................
2007-07-19 11:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Been Divorced a year....I dont have a clue! Somebody everybody...I would like to hear some ideas too!
2007-07-19 11:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by madtire813 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋