My wife is usually quite level headed but with being bored in her job, wants to quit and go back to her home country for a few months. This would mean I have to cover the mortgage and other bills while she is away. I suppport her happiness so support her going home for a while.
But now she wants to bring her father over to here to work. He can't work here legally, and came here on a 'visit' last year and within one week he left our home to go and work. I thought it was crazy but he did it anyway.
It just seems that what her father says, she can't say no, but with me, virtually anything I want meets with resistance. Why is it so hard for her to accept that I don't want him here, because of the pressure he put on us, specifically her - before?
2007-07-19
03:47:41
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jonoxk
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She says it is her home too - true. But I just felt I hav ebeen pretty supportive with agreeing she could quit her job, have agood break, spending some time in her home country with her family, then come home to me, refreshed and rested. Why put this pressure on herself, never mind me?
Anyway she told me it did'nt concern me, that her father would stay only a week then I could kick him out. But I know he looked ill last year after losing so many jobs. I don't want him here, working, it seems madness to me. But she can't see it. She told me "we know what we are doing. stop making out you are a great citizen of your country. You are so so stupid!"
' If 'we' is her and her father, where do I come in? Am I wrong to be upset here? I just feel I am being used and when she calls me names, I feel like kicking her out of the home.
2007-07-19
03:49:14 ·
update #1
I had a thought I could be prosecuted, but now I really worry. I don't wish to harbour an illegal. Could I say that if she insisted on bringing him here that she do it without me, and without staying at our home? I can't really be above the law even if I don't agree with some aspects of the law. I don't mind she wants to help her father and herself get a better life, but I feel caugfht in the middle, and i won't do anything illegal. I fear this could break us up. Damn it, why can't she see sense?
2007-07-19
04:42:42 ·
update #2