Do people always have to tell black females that their...?

Question

Hair looks good, awesome, and stylish to make them feel less insecure about their hair? I want them to feel good about their hair type. How do I do it? I've heard that black females are insecure about their type of hair so they require a lot of attention. Why? Are they sensitive about their hair type? Do they need someone to always tell them how good it looks? Will they get annoyed at someone always telling them their hair looks good, awesome, and stylish? I want to understand them more. Please help!

No, I'm not a racist. I know black females. I work with black females.

Answer 1

I just love stereotypes... I also love how people say shi* that can be/is racist/offensive and then say "I'm not a racist... I know black people, I have black friends, I work with x amount of black people... yaddi yah.

NO we dont need you, or anyone else telling us how "good and stylish" our hair is. I dont really care for my hair type, its wavy and curly and I cannot work with it lol, but I dont need compliments to make me like it. Its fine, I just wish it were easier to maintain... I can wet it and wear it in curles, and do all sorts of things, but trying ot get it straight is a bummer. lol. Stereotypes really suck, and people will tell you all sorts of outlandish things about blacks, and other minorities. Its best that you phrase your question in a non-offensive way if you're really just trying to find out whether or not the crap someone told you is true. But never make blanket statements about a marginalized group... (women, and minorities that is) It can only lead people to believe that you ARE a racist, regardless of how many back people you know....


BTW if you truly know black females, why not ask them? I could see why you wouldnt... I mean you probably didnt want to offend them, BUT better you ask someone who KNOWS YOU than strangers in a forum where racism is running rampant and people have NOTHING better to do than write dumb shi* about people.

Oh one other thing, I hate when white people touch my hair. I hate it when people just are so amazed by my hair. Its HAIR for the love of GOD. Just hair... lol. But at the same time I understand that people are intrugued by things that are different... but it is offensive... and people should think to ASK before touching... You wouldnt walk up to a woman and say "hey nice ****" and grab them... the same should go for our hair! lol (just wanted to add some humor but I am absolutely serious.)

Answer 2

Are you serious? What makes you think that Black women are insecure about their hair? Where are you getting this information from? Instead of worrying about somebody else's hair- worry about your own. Do everybody a favor and stop stereotyping people. And for the record-just because you know and work with Black females does not prevent you from being a racist. And you are a racist.

Answer 3

The thing that concerns me here is that you seem to basing this question of things you have "heard". Do the women you work with seem insecure? Base it on what you see in the people you know. Everyone is insecure about something no matter what their ethnicity is. Don't you appreciate compliments in the area of your insecurity? Don't you appreciate compliments in general?

So, I would suggest not being so concerned with "black females" as an entire group. Just encourage the ones you know. If they have on a snazzy outfit, compliment them. If they did something awesome, compliment them. If their hair looks good, compliment them. It will make their day, not because they are black, but beacuse they are human.

Answer 4

Honestly, I've never heard that about black women.
There is a long, colorful history about us and our hair. Some of it is painful as we have tried to go about conforming to standards of beauty that were created by a race that hates us and treats us with contemptable envy. (Yes, I said it).
Personally, I don't like it when people pay extra attention to my hair. IT'S JUST HAIR. I don't like it when people look at it too much, ask me a bunch of questions about or as me to touch it. (that's my all-time worst pet peeve).
If there ever was a race of females who are insecure about hair, it's NOT black women, let me tell you that! And no, we don't need anyone telling us that it looks good. We already know that.

Answer 5

I did not know that we were suppose to be insecure about our hair. Black women have some of the most unique hairstyles that there is. I definately do not think we are insecure about our hair. Maybe if we gain ten pounds, but never our hair.

Answer 6

It's funny that you feel the need to say that you're not racist and have Black friends???...Anyway...In my experience (I'm Black and Cuban) some women Black and non-Black always question my hair. Is that all your hair? Are those waves natural? What do you put in your hair? It's all weird to me...why do they care so much about my hair...I've never been fascinated enough to ask another woman about their hair. It's their business.

Answer 7

honey, you have some misunderstandings and I'm here to clear them. we don't need anyone telling us that out hair is good, because we already know it. furthermore, there are A.A. women with long, shot, medium, red, blonde, black, and brown hair with a varieties of textures. I guarantee you this, I have the hottest shade on ginger hair that is multi-faceted (streaked appearance)and it is all natural~ do you have a better understanding now?

Answer 8

WOW! Ok, you say your are not a racist, but you are treating black women differently that you would white women. Guess what? It's discriminatory.

Black women are no more insecure about their hair, or anything else, than white women are. Black, white, asian....we are the same. We all have crap that stinks.

Answer 9

I don't say anything about their hair. They don't say anything about mine, so why should I? I don't say anything about anybody's hair unless they have an unusual style. Might mention it if they got it cut or something.
Why should I think "Black gal here, so I'd better tell her that her hair looks nice." I think that's racist, to mention hair because of the race they are.

Answer 10

no, they tell us our hair looks good, why?? because it does, we are the ones who come out with all different kinds of hairstyles, we are not afraid to be different, we ARE NOWHERE near insecure, we sport short hair long hair, A BALD HEAD, or whatever we have STYLE and are very CONFIDENT. oh and we don't care what OTHER people think of us, its what WE think of OURSELVES.