I do. People think that love is enough but it isn't. Sure people eventually change and sometimes the marriage survives but the heartache...... You need to agree on how many children you want. How you will raise them. How will you handle money and in-laws. How will the housework and yardwork be handled. No, it isn't very romantic but think of it as a pre-nup. It could save you alot of heartache,money and years of your life. And on the positive side, it could get you and your significant other on the same page or the wonderful feeling you will have if it comes up that you already had everything covered.
2007-07-19 03:37:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Definitily, as long as the couple that is attending the pre marital couseling goes every class and pays attention and also does the exercises suggested.
It was required by our minister to get married to go through counseling, not only did we meet other couples but we also realized all the different situations we could encounter and had a lot more to talk about.
It really hits home what you are about to do.
My answer is yes, I do think couples should attend counseling before getting married.
2007-07-19 08:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by mom2abigsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for some people that is fine but I did not do the counseling. We are very happily married! We got married when he was on leave, we decided and got married 2 weeks later ! We are going on 3 years and doing great. We never really even fight, the finances are something we worked out and we are hoping for kids here soon. All the in laws are getting along great and my mom in law is terrific. Chores are split up with who ever is available and has time to do them.
I will say one thing though. We were friends 1st, we did a long distance relationship, stuck with each other while he was in Iraq for a year and really put effort into it. We knew one another and talked a lot for 3 to 4 years before marriage came up. We talked everyday even when we were friends for hours.
I don't agree with counseling in every situation, for some I think it is good but I do believe you got to know one another well and take your time. Don't jump the gun.
Take Care!
2007-07-19 10:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually we had to do a brief marriage counseling with the minister who married us. Said he was required to do it. We had no problem with it and was amazed at what he asked about. Most of it had to do with getting along with the others family, ect. Basically any factors that might cause a problem between the two of us. Of course he also asked about having kids, ect. It was good as it did open our eyes up more about family issues, instead of everything being just about the 2 of us, since when you get married to your girlfriend/boyfriend you don't really realize you are not only marrying them, but also getting a whole new family.
Basically a quiz on "Do you really love this person and will you still love them for life".
2007-07-19 10:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Phychiatric counseling on an indevidual and couple bases should be a certifiable requirement before a marriage lic is issued , apartment rented or 2 people allowed to be in a room alone.
2007-07-19 10:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by reinformer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Marriage is not only an emotional connection it is also a legal relationship recognized around the world with certain rights and privileges. It is NOT a small thing. The expectation is that marriage is for life. Most people don't get that when they are "lovey dovey".
2007-07-19 10:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by Someone somewhere doing something 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, it was required at our church and sure we filled out the paperwork and put our answers down. Thought that was how it would be. Been married almost 20 years and at least 1/2 of the things weren't done like it was suppose to. So it depends on the couple whether they keep their word or not and I guess it can't hurt and like you said the other might not even want children and thats a great way to find out stuff like that.
2007-07-19 10:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by travelgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i do.
But the thing is, most people are either too prideful or think it is a waste of time.
Since the goverment likes to control everything else, why dont they require pre-marriage couselling? I bet the divorce rate would drop significantly.
2007-07-19 10:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by bellesnail 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes unfortunatly counseling like this is very hard to find and very expensive. Other cultures prepare people for marriage and parenthood but the western culture does not
2007-07-19 11:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good idea my friend. Better both the boy and the girl have
counselling before marriage. It has been common that they
meet before marriage
2007-07-19 10:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by siva k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely.
2007-07-19 10:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋