The fact that it happened 5 or 6 times indicates to me that he had feelings for her. He hasn't seen or talked to her in 7 months. She e-mailed him 2 months ago and he ignored her.
He has told me everything and really feels bad and loves me.
They didn't have sex, but made out at least 5 times over the course of 5 months and flirted with each other for 6 MONTHS before anything happened so he had plenty of time to think about what he was doing.
He says that she is married too and it was only physical, because we didn't kiss like that anymore. I am just worried that he may have more than a physical desire for her because he kept doing it over and over.
What do you think?
What if she contacts him again. What will he do?
2007-07-19 03:32:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it sounds to me like he had some emotional attachment, and you have to remember the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater"
i think you should leave him, you deserve much better than that.
2007-07-19 03:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by josietheninja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe him that nothing more happened? That would be my biggest question. If it was just physical then I would said he would have slept with her. Kissing and making out for adults means to me that he may have had feelings for her. Think about it...if it was for the physical then he would of had sex with her and if you have someone that you feel something for then you most likely wouldn't care about the sex. And plus he went back for more no sex. What man does that. And also I wouldn't settle for the line of...We don't kiss like that anymore. So what, why didn't you try to kiss me like that? Did you think I would push you away? NO! He wanted her and that what it boils down to. Sorry but if I were you I wouldn't take him back but if you do I would make him tell you the hole truth because if he doesn't it will come out later and the whole thing will start all over. Good luck!
2007-07-19 03:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by tls 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does it matter if it was only physical? He still betrayed you whether he fell in love or not. Are you actually saying that he cheated on you because you two don't kiss like that anymore? Come on....what excuse is it going to be next time? You gained 5 lbs or starting to show your first wrinkles? And do you really buy the "didn't have sex" part? They all say that. Do yourself a huge favor...walk out the door and don't look back unless you like to suffer. And if she contacts him again....unless he's done using her, he'll see her again.
2007-07-19 03:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Catlover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds pathetic sister, I mean your asking if he loves her and trying to figure out if he loves you? He was in a relationship with you and cheated on you with someone else and that's all that should matter. Physical sex leads to disease. He is not careful enough or responsible enough to maintain an honest relationship with you or probablly anyone(which is probablly the reason why he will continue to cheat with married women).
Do you feel that he is the best that you can do and what if you were the one cheating, would he be as understanding as you? TWO things: you can't change people.
you know that he is a cheater, it is your fault if you stay.
2007-07-19 05:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by moeschk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was merely a physical desire, he would not have repeatedly gone back to her. The fact that he made a pattern of seeing her and speaking with her means that, despite what he may say, emotional feelings may have accumulated over time. Most likely, he'll speak with her if she contacts with him, that is, if he follows his previous precedent. It'll probably be for your best if you leave this guy because you may end up getting hurt.
2007-07-19 03:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is lying. I think they did more than kiss. Not that it really matters. What will he do if SHE contacts him again? depends on if he is in the mood or not. But, don't just worry about her. He will probably find some other girl to mess around with.
It probably is only physical and if you don't mind him being physical with other people then it is no problem.
2007-07-19 03:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, open your eyes. the story you heard was a cleaned up version of real life. and if he did it once he will do it again. and even touching especially kissing someone else is cheating. kissing is a very intimate personal thing in itsself! keep your eye on him and her or he might have gotten bored with her and moved on to another you dont know about. once a cheater always a cheater. dump him or do the same thing he is doing even though 2 wrongs dont make a right. let him know how it feels to be done that way and see if he likes it.
2007-07-19 03:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by tiggerlilyt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was more than physical but not in the sense your thinking, does he love her. I would guess not. But she was good for his ego, he loved the fact that someone else besides you found him desirable. So she played to that mental aspect. Not something that you would build a long term relationship on. I would just be concerned what would happen the next time his ego needed a boost, who is he going to turn to.
2007-07-19 03:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me look into my crystal ball and see what your man is thinking........my guess is he's thinking, yeah she bought that whole we just kissed story...hook, line and sinker. Now I've got to find another way to be in contact with my lover or get a new lover.
So tell me, how does a BS sandwich taste any way?!?
Sorry to be so tactless about this but I really want to smack you in the forehead like the V8 Commercials so hopefully you'll realize.
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS GIRL, THEY'RE USUALLY RIGHT ON.
2007-07-19 03:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be so brutally honest but I think he putting up one big smoke screen. First off I don't believe they ever had sex, second of all once a cheater always a cheater. My husband is living proof. Don't make the same mistake I did. If your not married to the guy then it's best to cut ties and move on!
2007-07-19 03:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by be happier own a pitbull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married, so why keep contacting him? Leave him alone!!! He obviously did not respond to the email because he wants nothing to do with her! Cant she understand that he is married and probably the only reason why he cheated was because he was physically attracted to her and not emotional? I say LEAVE HIM ALONE!
2007-07-19 03:38:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋