Is this wrong? Should we acccept everyone?

Question

I choose not to walk down the street with a gay guy or lesbian because of two reasons. One I don't want anyone thinking I'm that way or I believe in that lifestyle and Two no guy is going to look at me if I'm walking down the street with a gay guy. Should I be friends with a gay guy or female even if I don't believe in their lifestlye and Am I wrong for not befriending a gay guy or female?

Answer 1

It's not a matter of what is 'right' or 'wrong' - if it makes you uncomfortable, then don't do it. But who you walk down the street with has no bearing on who you are as a person. For example, I'm Caucasian - if I were to walk down the street with someone of, say, Asian or African American descent, would that make me Asian or African American? Also, when befriending someone, thier sexual orientation should be of no consequence to you - if it doesn't effect your life, then why should you care? Yes, I'm sure they may want to talk about relationship problems and whatnot, but a relationship is a relationship no matter what gender(s) you are dealing with. And same-sex relationships have the same hang-ups, insecurities, etc as opposite-sex relationships. That should be your focus.

If you just can't seem to get past the aspects of a same-sex relationship, then it would probably be best if you stayed within your comfort zone. One thing you've gotta ask yourself though - what kind of friend can I be to this person? If you disagree wholeheartedly with thier lifestyle and constantly look down on them you are only going to alienate them, thereby making it pointless to develop a friendship. After all, being friends with someone is a relationship in and of itself.

Answer 2

Be secure in who you are. Show other people that you can hang out with gays and lesbians, without being one. I think it's wrong you didn't. You should accept their "lifestyle" (I don't consider it a lifestyle - the word "Lifestyle" makes it seem like it is a choice.) Be who you are. You know your sexuality. Just because your walking down the street with a gay guy doesn't mean that everyone else around will automatically know he is gay.

Answer 3

You have the choice of who your friends are and who you associate with. That's fine. And you can object to the way people live their lives...that's fine, too.
I do not think because you don't want to be labeled as ''gay'' is a good reason not to want to be around a gay person. That's just childish. Who cares what people think. They might think actually really horrible things about you already, but does that stop you from walking down the street? Of course not.
I think that you should at least try to know someone is gay. Just give it a shot. No one is asking you to be their best friend. But if you really want to disagree with someone, you have to know their side of things, too. Arguments that are based on one sided perspectives aren't really arguments as all. Just rants.
I don't believe in Christian lifestyle choices, but I still choose to have Christian friends. It keeps my thought process rounded and not one sided. I respect their opinion and view, and like wise, they mine......but this is just me...I try to get along with everyone....we are all people and we all need love....

Answer 4

I believe in treating everyone with equality, no matter what their sexual preferences are. In fact, I know a lot of gay individuals male and female. I can definitely respect these individuals for being open to who they are and not hiding it from people. The ones I don't respect are the in the closet individuals that have no problem risking other individuals lives. At least open individuals are comfortable in their skin, which will never be a problem for me. It's not like who they are will rub off onto you. Get my point!

Answer 5

It's your choice who you walk down the street with.
However there are gay men and women out there who don't look or act that way. You may already be walking down the street with them and don't even know it.

Sexual preference does not wear off on you just because you hang out with someone who may be gay.

Answer 6

I HAD THE IMPRESSION THAT U WERE 14 OR SO YEARS OF AGE.I WAS THINKING THAT THE OTHER ANSWERS WERE BEING HARD ON U. I READ YOUR PROFILE..FIRST YEAR OF COLLEGE...WELL THAT'S STILL PRETTY YOUNG.IF U ARE AFRAID THAT PEOPLE WILL THINK U ARE GAY TOO ,THEN THIS WAY OF THINKING APPLIES TO MANY OTHER THINGS IN YOUR LIFE.TO STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF U IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE FOR SOME PEOPLE.WITHOUT KNOWING U I WOULD SAY THAT U HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM..JUST NOT A CONFIDENT PERSON.THATS WHAT U HAVE TO WORK ON.U CAN BE FRIENDS WITH WHOEVER U WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH JUST DONT HATE ANYONE BECAUSE OF THEIR SEXUALITY.....THAT WOULD BE WRONG.

Answer 7

You shouldn't let random people's supposed opinions keep you from making friends.
Gay people don't have stamps on their foreheads labeling them, and neither do you. Do you really think that people are going to stop and ask if you or your friends happen to be gay or not?

Do you really expect people to say, "Ewww! You have Gay cooties, now!" as if they're kids on a playground?

Be friends with whomever you have the fortune to be friends with: no matter who they are, as long as they're loyal they're worth more than gold. You'll find out later in life that they don't come around so easily.

But, considering the fact that you're even asking this question, I'm not certain you understand what I'm trying to tell you. You'll find out, eventually.

And, one final note: Men will chase you if they want you. Would you be asking this question if it involved being friends with a straight guy? I'd imagine you'd have more of a problem in that situation than the one you posed.

Answer 8

Yes it is wrong not to accept every, but, everyone is entitled to their irrational phobias and stupid prejudices. You don't have to be friends with anyone. Granted the world would be a much better place for you, if you got over your prejudices. You would be alot happier.
"One I don't want anyone thinking I'm that way or I believe in that lifestyle" That is a stupid thing to say, and very much insulting. So believe that gay people don't exist? Or you just think they are less human than you? Either way, you are wrong.

Answer 9

Why? I never understood. Why do you care if people MIGHT think you're gay. Who cares? If they think badly at all for the possiblity that you might be gay then you don't need them as a friend.

I think it would help you understand things more if you WERE friends with some gay or lesbian individuals. You might learn that they are QUITE normal, loving human beings.

Think about it this way: I assume you're straight (my guess). Did you choose to be straight? No, you were just automatically attracted to the opposite sex. Same with gay people, they are attracted to the same sex in the exact same way that you're attracted to the opposite sex.

Telling a gay person that they MUST be straight would be like someone telling you, you HAVE to be gay. It would feel rather unfair, wouldn't it?

Answer 10

I agree with what T.R.A.C.E.R said! He said a lot concerning homophobia and friendship. My thing is, you could be missing out on some wonderful friendships by judging others before you get the chance to know them. My best friend is straight and she doesn't have any problems being around me. She is comfortable in her sexuality. Also, people in the glbt community have LIVES, not lifestyles. When you use the term lifestyle, you're implying that we have chosen to be the way that we are. My prayers are with you.