I have a problem with jealousy and I know that it has damaged my marriage,and I'm trying to figure out how to get rid of these feelings before things get worse.
2007-07-19 03:10:12 · 15 answers · asked by sch1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go see someone that can help you like a physcologist
2007-07-19 03:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by gabby c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's jealousy turned me into a quiet, withdrawn mouse. I used to be an outgoing, friendly person. I started dressing like a frump and keeping myself available for him in case he needed something. I could go on. One day your spouse will decide they have had enough and you won't know if you are coming or going. I now do what I want to, when I want to and how I want to. He is invited along as long as he can behave himself. If he doesn't trust me by now we don't need each other.
I'm glad you at least realize you have a problem and want to fix it. It is this easy. Love your spouse and have confidence in yourself and your marriage. You just admitted that your jealousy is damaging your marriage. Trust your spouse and back off. If something does happen then it just wasn't meant to be. My marriage is better than it has ever been.
2007-07-19 10:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy ended my relationship. My boyfriend at the time would get jealous when I went out with my friends, and even with my family. He tried to control who I talked to and ultimately made me and him very miserable. In order to have a successful relationship... YOU NEED TRUST. It's ok to be jealous but within limitations.
Its very difficult to change your jealous ways because no matter what you do... you will always feel that jealousy inside even if you pretend not to be jealous. My suggestion... try talking to your wife more. Know that she loves you and will never hurt you. And if you have valid reasons for being jealous... let your wife know. Communication is the key.
2007-07-19 10:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to do about any feelings of jealousy is to first admit them, and then attempt to overcome them.
In simple terms, jealousy is a feeling of protective resentment towards one who threatens a relationship or value.
Try to make the other jealous so they could know how it feels` so they can see how bad it is. so maybe it could take the heat off you
2007-07-19 10:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mrz Carmen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is an issue within your self - you have a fear of not being good enough in whatever way, so you feel jealous towards other that you feel are better than you. it's debilitating to you mostly, then to your relationship. you need to improve your own self worth and feel confident in you as a person. you have to like yourself. get some self help books and develop a relationship with God. that's the path i took to feel as good about my self as i do now. it works with stellar results. good luck.
2007-07-19 10:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ruined my marriage. Fortunately for you, you see that there is a problem and you are willing to fix it. So see a shrink. My husband wasn't that smart. He'd of rather accuse me of all wrong doing no matter at what cost...even today he will still justify his actions and behavior, and if you ask him I'm the devil. Which is fine by me so long as his psycho jealous @ss stays away from me.
2007-07-19 10:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I have never been a jealous person....You need to love yourself and put yourself first in your LIFE...Jealousy is usually a sign of insecurity and if you feel negative about yourself than you are opening yourself up to feeling jealous in ways that if you are in a relationship you tend to expect your partner to make you feel secure...You only feel what you allow yourself to feel...No one can be responsible for that...You should always remember the important aspects that makes you who you are...You should never feel jealous of anything or anyone...There's always someone out there who is envious of you*** You are too GOOD to be jealous***
2007-07-19 10:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why you are jealous? Do you not trust your other half? Are you doing something wrong and in turn make it about your spouse? I used to be a very jealous wife then I realized he is going to do it if I know it or not, so I decided not to worry anymore and now we are very happy and I totally trust him.
2007-07-19 10:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for almost a year. My husband has been jealous since we started dating. I can't talk with other guys or hug young men who are friends with my son without using caution. I am devoted to him and it makes me feel cheap!
2007-07-19 10:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by mac5doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm going thru the samething at the moment myself. I've notice that if i keep myself busy and talk to my other half that I feel better. Remember talk not accuse!!!
2007-07-19 10:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by pecarican 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None, but then again, I have a wonderful psychologist where all my jealousy goes to.
2007-07-19 10:34:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋