I went out for DINNER & COMPLIMENTED this BEAUTIFUL WOMAN INFRONT OF MY WIFE; Now MY WIFE…?

Question

I went for a night out with the MRS her self. The thing is my wife has let her self go, she weighs three times as she weighed when we got married but I am not complaining. I am still kept my self fit, tidy and stylish. Anyway as we were sitting enjoying our dinner, this gorgeous lady came and sat on the table next to us.

The tables were quite close & as she looked at me, I said beautiful, she smiled and I complimented her on her appearance. She probably though I was the son & my wife was the mother as I still look young. My wife raged & grabbed my ear and dragged me out. She is kind off dominant as she is heavy & I did not want to stir anything…

Now my wife has not given me a leg over since? Should I go elsewhere? I think my wife is planning on divorce, she is not willing to get counselling & is too obsessive. What should I do?

It was only a compliment, woman say themself that flirting is harmless, i only payed her a compliment, didnot touch? AM I RIGHT?

Answer 1

you're a pig and your fat, obsessive wife deserves better than you. Divorce her first and do her the favor of letting her find someone who actually is worth her time.

Answer 2

Not being funny but are you really suuprised? The way you have described your wife and yourself you have probably said a lot more in the past. The straw that usually breaks the camels back is usually the smallest! You sound like a bit of a prat and she is probably better off without you. If you are so shallow what you need to do is give your wife what she asks for in the divorce to try and get a bit of credability back and then go to an over priced gym and try and impress some young shallow proffessional girl, you will be a match in heaven

Answer 3

She is a product of your marriage, She probably got fat because she ain't happy. You say that you still take care of yourself and still look good, maybe you spend to much time thinking about yourself and don't include her. Woman need to hear good things from there husbands and not just all negative stuff, I'm pretty sure she know you think she's fat, then to hear you compliment another woman that hurts. So if you love her help her out give her a few good compliments every now and then that way she can get her self esteem back. Although her size may be different she is the same person you fell in love with.

Answer 4

First of all it wasn't right what you did,even though it's only an innocent comment. Being over weight is hard and seeing someone who is not will give your wife a feeling of insult. As you said she wasn't that way before you all got married, and if the reason that she gained some pounds is from having a child,that is what cost it.
Do put your place on her shoes and what if the two of you were out and she saw a man who is gorgeous and she starred at him,will you feel good and just ignore your wife for looking at this man who attract her?....maybe not so before you think of something that will make your problem worst,apologize to her. It doesn't matter if she's heavy now,what's important is who she is from the inside...

Answer 5

Your poor wife. You are your own worst enemy buddy. How many compliments a day do you pay your wife? None right, if your wife let herself go there is more to the story. She is depressed and you are not winning the husband of the year award. What you did was rude and disrespect full. I would have left you at the restaurant. If I was her I would be planing on 2 things 1. seeing a lawyer
2. joining a gym.
Men like you are a dime a dozen.

Answer 6

Well if it offends her and you continue to do it in front of her than you are wrong. However you have eyes and will always notice beautiful women until the day you die, there is nothing that anyone can do to stop that. that is normal, what is not normal is if you touch the woman or get into intimate conversations with another woman. Just try not to compliment women in front of your wife if it bothers her. I personally would rather my husband do it in front of me and it would not bother me at all but everyone is different and you must respect your wife's feelings. That is kind of crazy that she dragged you around with your ear like you are a child! strange. that would be considered a physically abusive relationship and maybe you should leave

Answer 7

You were totally insensitive. I am sure that your wife is insecure enough about her weight gain and you made her feel even worse. Maybe if you complimented her once in a while and made her feel special things may be a little different. But then again Mr. tidy, fit and stylish - not everyone can be perfect. Sorry - you deserved that - just BE NICE to your wife.

Answer 8

Hey Jackass! What if she payed some cute young guy with a hot fresh body a compliment in front of you. I could see maybe just looking at the lady but saying that in front of your wife, what an ***!

Then telling everyone else how your wife has let herself go, do you think it might be from your idiotic comments to other women. Maybe you are wanting her to feel bad about herself so she feels no one else would want her because you have a complex.

Answer 9

Now do you think that your wife would ever give a guy a compliment like that? Think about how she was feeling when you gave that girl a compliment. Even though she has gained a lot of weight, you should either love her or leave her. If you think that she looks that bad and you don't feel attracted to her anymore, then you should get a divorce.

Answer 10

I always suspect that where two people are involved - two people are involved.

I think your both to blame for the failing of your relationship.
I think you are both to be congratulated - you combined efforts have succesfully brought this relationship to where it is.

Part of her attitudes are a product of her elf and life before you where both together, part product of your marriage.
Same with you. you both have plus points, you both have down points.

You for getting married to a woman with those attitudes (personally I cant tolerate it, and she wouldnt have had my leg over - but then I wouldnt ahve done what you have either)
she let her self go - by your describition (and you seem to feel that was a let down - well there may be the both of inviolved in that too, despite the point its the result of her actions, or lack of). you mention you compliment another woman, but not compliment her - if not any wonder why she wasnt happy? (but that doesnt excuse they she expressed that either)

By the looks of it you ahve reached a point wher jsut abouot every thought you have is putting the whole realtionship down (the way you describe her and you r suspisions of your relationship suggeest that).

she isnt willing to get counselling or you as a couple isnt?
very diffrent concepts, very diffrent results.
only you can know if its time to get a divorce. but if you two cant communicate and you cant start working on things together I cant see to many other ways it can go.

Answer 11

NO you are wrong!!

If you cant compliment your wife then dont compliment others!!! You making comments about her being big will only make her more self concious!! And no wonder she is obsessed!!! She has reason to be if you are considering going elsewhere!!! She probably loves you and cant bear the thought of you being with someone else!!

A little support wouldnt go a miss!!!!!!

You cant think too much of her if you see having sex with her as 'getting your leg over', maybe she is better off without you!!!!!!!!