2007-07-19 01:41:55 · 15 answers · asked by kellie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Break up. I've seen it so many times. It works! If everything clicks along just fine, why should he change?
2007-07-19 01:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by marie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After this much time has passed, you really only have one option. Tell your boyfriend that you would like to be engaged by a certain amount of time (6 months - 1 year). Make it clear to him that if he does not propose to you by within that time frame, you will have to move on. Tell him why it is important to you that you two be married to one another. Just be sure that if you do decide to deliver an ultimatum, you stick with it! If you threaten to leave and then stay....he will never take you seriously again. This is something that you should think long and hard about because it will only truly be effective once in this case.
2007-07-19 02:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break things off with him. Tell him you are wanting more out of this relationship....(marriage, commitment, children) than he is willing to give. Tell him the two of you have dated for 6 years and still he is unsure of his feelings for you. When you do this you have to mean it, though, and be serious or he won't believe you. Remove all his pictures, give his things back, move out, what ever you have to do.
One of two things will happen. He will either see the light and realize he has lost the greatest thing that has ever happened to him or he will let you go. You have to come to the point to where you realize if he doesn't want to marry you, you are okay with that and you can go on. Which ever way it works will be best for YOU. If he doesn't want to marry you, you are wasting your time and it will never work anyway. This is the only way you will know if he truly loves you. Otherwise, you will be on a roller coaster ride and dating for another six years that will be wasted, when they could have been spent happily married to him or someone who truly loves you. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-19 01:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Gretta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you really can't 'get' him to. Usually if a guy doesn't ask after two or three years, they aren't either interested in you (no offence), or in marriage in general. And shacking up is not the way to go, then the guy just has no need/want to get married....
Sorry, but sometimes two people can love each other a lot, but just are not a match for marriage....
2007-07-19 03:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The milk is free and life is good so why rock the boat? If he has not been able to make a life committment to you after six years it is time to make some changes, throw out the ratty old couch (with him still on it), do some painting and refurbishing and look for a newer, sleeker model with more bells and whistles; and maturity.
2007-07-19 02:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have become concerned that your relationship seems to have stagnated, that you would like things to change, and that you are therefore going to move out and stop having sex with him for awhile until you sort out your feelings. Say all this with tenderness and sincerity, but then follow through. This action will produce one of two results: a breakup or a marriage proposal. Therefore, you must be prepared to face either consequence.
[When I clicked to answer your question, there were no answers yet, but I have a prediction that you'll get at least one "Marriage is just a piece of paper" inanity. Please ignore those answers.]
2007-07-19 01:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it depends, is he a commitment phob? If so if probably won't happen.
If not then sit down and talk. Tell him what you want and what your expectations are. Ask him what he wants and if this relationship is important to him. Get everything out in the open.
You have a decision to make
You either get married, stay in the same relationship or leave. You have to decide what is most important to you, getting married or being with the one you love.
2007-07-19 01:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by glbenner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. If he wanted to marry, he would. Sit him down and say "these are the things I want for my future, and I don't see that happening with you, so I have to move on." Then leave and don't look back. If he values your relationship, he will shape up QUICK! Right now, it sounds like he's getting everything he wants without the commitment.
2007-07-19 02:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well until he says "I do" then don't. Don't sleep with him, don't live with him, don't do anything resembling wifely duties. Because when you do these things without being married, then he doesn't feel the need to make the commitment. You know, the whole..."why buy the cow when the milk is free" thing.
2007-07-19 02:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him an ultimatum. let him know that you are marriage minded and if he doesn't propose to you within the next year you will have seriously consider whether you want to continue your relationship or not. you have been dating for 6 years now. i think someone should know whether they want to marry you or not after 6 years.
2007-07-19 01:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well tell him u wann get married and do not take any excuse ...if he tell u to wait another 6 months 1,yr ...dump him the chance r he will never commit move on
2007-07-19 01:48:41 · answer #11 · answered by roli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋