we have been together for 6 years,even though i dont think they know we are a couple.i am not a bad looking guy and i like to think that i am a nice person but they always give me looks,as if i am something they stepped in.
even his baby sister cries and shes only a few months old.am i just being paranoid?i have never told him this.
2007-07-19 01:21:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i know,but what if i am right and his family force him to pick me or them,i just want them to like me ya know?it would make life easier for all of us.
2007-07-19 02:01:20 · update #1
I don't think you are paranoid.
It could very well be possible that his family is not accepting his lifestyle and can easily see the relationship of you and him. They probably talk about the 2 of you alot (and in front of his baby sister). Perhaps they see you as the one who "turned him gay".
I think you should talk to him at some point about this - at least to get it off your chest. He may not be as willing to discuss it with you (or his family).
EDIT: Somehow I don't think you will be able to get them to like you. You would think that after 6 years they would at least accept you rather than just tolerating you (barely). I still get the feeling that they don't like his being gay. It may indeed come down to his having to chose between you and his family. I'd hate to be in his place when that happens.
2007-07-19 01:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what i gather, you are a gay couple? if you are, then you have to understand that people are still trying to understand the concept of gay marriage and is still not widely accepted. the family will show hostility towards you not because of your personality or attitude towards them but because you're homosexual. it will be a struggle and no one can say until how long it would last. much as i wanted to tell you to hang in there, it is your life and a human being can only tolerate as much hurt and pain as one can. ask yourself this, can you stay and fight or do u want to pack your bags and go? whichever path you take, hurt will follow whether you like it or not. if you stay, you'll be happy with him but for how long, no one can say. if you go and start anew, you will be devastated and hurt deeply but even the deepest of wounds have a tendency to heal eventually. trust yourself and do what you think is best. all i can do from my side is say a little prayer of strength for you.
2007-07-19 03:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents have a way of knowing their children even if they don't want to believe it. So in the back of their minds they probably know about ya and don't like it and lets you know by giving you those looks.
2007-07-19 01:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him then - you need to be honest with your partner - You say you've been together for 6 years - and his family dont know you're together!?
I think you both need to sit and talk to each other - and be honest!
Good luck x
2007-07-19 01:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by MinibabeUK73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the family think u r corruptin him?Just cos u think u r a good person dont mean every1 else does,oh and babies cry anyway.
2007-07-19 01:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could be looking to far into it but if you really belive something is up then try talking to your partner about it to see if they notice the same thig going on... and if they do then something is deffently going on
2007-07-19 02:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL maybe u should try dressing better when u visit them <_< since most old ppl give looks when they see someone dress diffrent than them o_O
2007-07-19 02:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by :O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know, man. Are you a part of gay couple? the answer might be just there..maybe family is anti-gay or something.
2007-07-19 01:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your partner has not 'come out' to his family you are a problem to their family. sorry to be so blunt, but i don't know how to say it and be nice.
i had a girlfriend for 4 years. my family knew she was my GIRLFRIEND not girl friend. they absolutely love her. they didn't before they knew, though.
oh, she is the epitome of lesbian; i'm not.
2007-07-19 01:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies cry, it is what they do. You sound insecure and a little paranoid. I would stop worrying about it.
2007-07-19 01:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by Corey D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋