14 n trying 2 get pregnet?

Question

im independent n want a baby what should i do

im sorry my cousin said that to me and freaked me out i was trying 2 see what u guys tell me so i can tell her i was n shock really am sorry guyes

Answer 1

Didn't you just ask about whether you have HIV an hour ago? Maybe you should take care of that first.

Answer 2

I'm trying to have a baby and I'm 22, married, college graduate, and financially stable. It was a huge decision for my husband and I to have a child now. I cannot imagine being 14 with a child. I understand that having a child is wonderful and beautiful. I know that there are other girls out there that are 14 and have children. Don't let yourself be one of them.
Don't you want to have fun. Experience high school as a student and not a social outcast. Don't you want to wait until you can financially support yourself and your child. Having a baby with a man that loves you and loves you enough to stick by you is awesome. If you have to even ask yourself if your partner will be there then this isn't a favorable situation. How fair would this be for your parents. If you cant do this on your own and be the best you can be at it. Please wait. Have fun. Be a kid. You'll have plenty of time and thank me.
If you just want to be around babies. Find a babysitting job or volunteer orTutor small children. You will still be around them without losing any of your childhood.

Answer 3

You may think you are independent right now, but i guarantee you wont think that if you get pregnant and have a child. You are only 14 years old. How would you support your child or even your self? You should just wait awhile this feeling will pass once you get a little older and see all the things youre going to want to do with your friends and all the fun you might miss out on if you have to stay home every night and day taking care of your baby,,,, Baby's are wonderful but only when you feel you've done all the things you really want to.

Answer 4

Wait til 18. Your body isn't ready for a baby. Can you afford to care for a baby yet? Not to mention, you need a good man to help you. Single parenting is NEVER easy, especially when you're young.

I am also curious as to why you want a baby at such a young age? You life will change forever. You will no longer free and independent. That baby will take up every single minute of every single day for at least the next 15years. Is that what you really want? There'll be no more going out with friends, no more quiet nights. No more personal time.

Answer 5

And why didn't you post this question in the adolescent column? You and your cousin are WAY TOO young to be thinking about having a baby !! You need to be concentrating on staying in school and finishing your education so that you can get a decent job and support yourself. There's plenty of time for you to have a baby once you are out of school- but meanwhile, DON'T WRECK your life !!! Having a baby at your age will do just that- totally screw up and wreck your life. You haven't even learned how to spell the word pregnancy yet- and if you haven't learned something simple like that, how can you possibly expect to care for a baby?

Answer 6

I say you should wait. I'm not saying that because I think you are to young or immature, I say that because not many fourteen year olds are able to financially support a child and it is not fair to the them. I'd say go ahead if I knew you could support one since I believe that if one mature enough and finacially secure that it is okay even at that age but I highly doubt you can afford to raise a child.


Take a minute to think about how your child's life would be with the kind of income you have if you are even working. It would be miserable most likely. A single person making minimum wage, which is the normal working fourteen year old's paycheck, is financially unable to support a kid.

Sorry but I seriously think it is not a good idea.

Answer 7

Get the idea out of your head NOW. Have you any idea how tiring and exhausting looking after a baby is??? How much they cost?? How little support you will have??? The lack of social life you will have?? The way people look at teenaged mothers??

My daughter had one at 18 - he lives with me because she can't cope alone. You are four years younger. You may be the most advanced wise sensible 14 year old on the planet, but you are crazy to think you can do this alone.

Sorry - very touchy subject for me, but I swear you don't know what you are letting yourself in for.

Answer 8

ARE YOU OUTOF YOUR MIND!!!! THATS INSANE!!! that meaning said!!! 14 wow thats young why do you want a baby! you need to wait a long time before you have a baby atleast until your out of college!!! yeah sure at 14 i would talk to my friend and we would plan our future and what we were gonna name our kids but would never even THINK about having one at that age!!! im almost 20 now and want a baby soo bad!! but im waiting until i get out of school and have a good and i and my boyfriend are stable enough to raise a baby!!! please be smart dont try and have one at this age! your probally still dealing with the whole getting use to the period thing i know i wasnt completely comfortable with mine until around 16 and i got it when i was 13 because it was all over the place the first year and 1/2!!! dont be stupid! and be another static!!! please!!!

Answer 9

Sweetheart please don't. You may be mature and independent but falling pregnant at 14 is a huge deal. You will miss out on so much, and end up resenting your baby. My advice would be to try and experience and achieve all the things you want to in the next few years and then think about the baby thing again. Your 'want' for a baby will not disappear but in a few more years you will be in a much better position to have one. In the meantime think of your "baby" and try and create the surroundings you would like for him/her to grow up in.

Answer 10

to be independent does not mean you are of legal age and Naturally allowed to bear the responsibility of being a mother.

No way for you baby Now... wait for your legal age to arrive... and you will have baby from your boy friend who may or may not become your husband.

Medically also your body is not prepared .. you and your baby both will suffer physically as well mentally. You also need maturity of caring for baby.. Baby is not a Doll or a pet puppy you will play with all day round..

when nappies are to be changed and when night cries disturb your sleep, when you have to feed her ,all these are the patience demanding maturity from a healthy woman of legal age...

Answer 11

seriously. think about what you are doing. I was 19 when I had my son Im now 26. I was way too young then. How are you going to provide for your child? You arent out of school yet. As far as independent goes, no you arent. If you are still living under someone elses roof, then you are not independent. Independent means that you are providing for yourself, not your parents. Stop being so selfish. Seriously!