my husban just punched me in the face and the back of the head a few times. It wouldnt bother me as much, but he did it while I was holding our 4 month old son, he has just taken my mobile and driven off, but broke my pram so i cant really go anywhere. I want to get out, I hate feeling like this, but I cant go to my families, and I dont really have many friends. Can anyone give me suggestions on what kind of places could hel-p me>?
2007-07-18 22:53:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THE POLICE. Start by reporting your mobile stolen; then get photographs of your injuries.
2007-07-18 22:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Robyn K 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Even if you were not holding your son, it should still bother you. No husband or wife has the right to put their hands on their spouse. This is abuse. What you need to do is call the police and file charges for domestic violence and theft of your mobile. I am not sure why you can not go to your family for help. I am sure if they knew what was going on that they would be there in an instant to help you. If family or the friends that you do have are not an option, then there are emergency womens shelters out there that can help you. This is not a healthy relationship for you nor is it one for your son. What happens if one of these days, he goes to hit you again and you are holding your son, only this time, he misses you and gets your child. If you decide to stay and the hitting continues, your son will grow up and see this and think that it is ok to hit his girlfriends or wife. When you contact the police to press charges, they should know of places that you can go for the safety of you and your child.
2007-07-19 06:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out NOW!! Do not waste anytime!! If you don't you may end up dead!! Then who is going to take care of your child? You trust him enough after he did that to raise your son like a real young man? I would not!! There are many places to go including to your family! You should call the police and get a restraining order against him first!! That way he can't come around you without being into trouble!! Make your move and don't waste time sitting and thinking over it just do it!! It is for the best for you and your child!!
2007-07-19 08:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First natural reaction may be to call the police. If this works for you great,but there are many times that this doesn't seem a viable option. In many jurisdictions police might be limited in help they are able to offer you.Call and ask your local police this question, so that you can make a secure and well thought out plan of attack. You don't want to end up on the streets with a baby Also,go to tool box options and clear your "Browsing" history to cover your tracks.
2007-07-19 07:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wisest move is to report the phone stolen, file domestic violence, document your injuries and get a restraining order. That way you can stay in your home.
I would try to have someone stay in the house with you while he adjusts to his consequences.
Go down to Family court and file for child support today. Just fill out the paperwork, turn it in, ask for a copy, and go to your court date. CS is retroactive to the day you file.
I do agree that you are in a potentially life threatening situation. I would definitely report the incident.
Remember, in a divorce you are entitled to half of all the marital assets. So, make a plan for your physical safety, so you are healthy, uninjured and able to care for the kids....and start proceedings to remove this man from your home and your life.
You can also apply for state health insurance for the kids, food stamps/WIC, and subsidized daycare.
Best of luck to you, dear. Try not to let this happen again, dear,whatever path you choose, that should be the goal.
Also, let all the family and all your friends know what happened. Shame may prevent him from such behaviors in the future, so chat away, everyone needs to know.
Alert the neighbors to the situation and ask them to phone the police if they think something is out of order at your house. Get as much support as you can.
I am so sorry about your situation. God bless you and yours.
2007-07-19 07:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad, and I want to ask you a question. Does he love you enough to die for you/change so that he can care for you? It's not your fault, and probably not anything you did. He is the one with problems, and I suggest you find a community church (even if you're not a christian/religious) and ask for advice. Believe me, at churches, you can find a lot of friends and people who care about you. Get to know people, and ask for advice.
Don't let your husband beat you like a punching bag. You should both get couseling, or take this to the police, and have them wire security cameras or something, and after voilation, you should call a lawyer. You should NEVER let anyone punch you. Would you let your best friend punch you, then still be his best friend?
2007-07-19 06:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes girlfriend I do. I feel like I was in the room with you. You need a few things. First....are you in Canada? the US or what. Call the cops and ask them what will happen IF you make a report. Then MOVE IF you make a report. Second get intouch with you family and let them know whats been going on. (I know mine would hav been no support) But at least someone knows. You have to make sure someone knows whats going on. third if you can't rely on familly you will need friends. find some. NO boyfriends I mean this. Last thing you need is a hero. You ARE the hero K!. then email or call me any time I may not be around at the moment but I care and I understand. icallrebecca@rogers.com 905-486-0138 I'm in Toronto, Ontario Canada. and will support your decision to evauate. Lots of love to ya Rebecca PS if you never take my advise its ' ok BUT take this with you.
in the event or shall I say during........ Force out the question using his name...... _______ why are you doing this? I found that somtimes it makes them stop. for the night.
2007-07-19 06:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aaawww I hate to hear about stuff like that.
I would report it to the police. He has no respect for the mother of his own child. And to do that while holding your baby is so sick. He better hope he doesn't get run off a cliff while he's driving. God will punish him for his offense if not the police. Be strong and love yourself. If you love yourself honey, don't let anyway do harm to your person.
Your baby needs you and if not for yourself, protect yourself for him. I know how you feel because I've had men to hit me. Get some help. You can confide in your doctor and they will get you some help also.
Update us and let us know how you are doing.
2007-07-19 06:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by cinnamon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He took your Mobile? Do you have any way to make a phone call? Is there a neighbor or anyone you trust that can take you to a safe place? I have been there, And I can tell you that from reading this, there are many signs that this is not the first time he has hit you, he probably tells you that it is your fault and you "make" him hit you. Unfortunately this will only get worse. You need your family and you need them fast, or someone you trust. That will help and not judge you. In the US, there are women's shelters who will help you to get away from him and help you stand on your own. I know this is scary and that the love you have for him wants to believe that he is "Not really like that". Please, Please, Please! Do not wait another minuet. Find help. E-mail me at cookie6511@yahoo.com, let me know how you are.
2007-07-19 06:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by booper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. They will pick him up and place him in jail for the night. You can obtain the vehicle when he's in jail. Put your things in the vehicle, call the local women's shelter, empty out your bank accounts, and leave. Go tomorrow early in the morning and get a Restraining Order against him.
2007-07-19 06:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to report "Domestic Violence" to Police and then you have to get the hell out of there, especially if you have a 4 month old baby! Are you certain you don't have a relative you could run to? I wish to God you could call me. I'll take care of that poor baby, but you have to just focus on taking care of your baby. The father is obviously a complete failure.
Get that a--hole on file with Police and then get that a--hole on FILE FOR DIVORCE. Good Luck
2007-07-19 06:08:08 · answer #11 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋