I had a very bad experience in my whole life. If the girls talked its always happened in the conversation had detail in my past experienced. But I didn't speak about it because I keep it secret for myself, and I feel so depressed if I remember my past that you can't return it back. So I'm just pretending for myself that I don't get that experience.
2007-07-18 22:45:58 · 7 answers · asked by charming_33 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
experiences are a learning curve it is possbile to block out a memory if you try hard enough, however most of the memories that are lost are the good ones. why the brain holds on to those bad memories i havent yet figured that out. perhaps its a way of remembering right from wrong or knowing now for the future? actually perhaps you should ask a psychologist.
2007-07-18 22:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by SecretSquirrel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strong past memories are difficult sometimes, but can be good most of the time. experinces are the things that shape us. what we learn from those experiences makes us wiser and a little smarter for the next steps we take, even the tramatic ones, so i say don't try to forget. try to embrace the moment for what it was and make peace with it. if the memory is a difficult one, then share it with someone you feel good about, somtimes releasing a little pressure can be a good thing. and try to remember, what was isn't always what will be. memories are tied to emotions, control the emotion...control the memory.
2007-07-18 23:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Stephen E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your depression comes from not speaking about your bad experience. No, you cant change the past and if you dwell on it you will become more depressed - think on this; there is no past, no future, only now. If you leave a pot on the stove with the lid on (past) of course it will boil over (present) and you will get burnt. Let it go and look at your experience as a past lesson for the future.
2007-07-18 22:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though the expereince was bad you should try to learn something from it. If you can learn one thing from this bad experience it should help in putting the experience in the past. By not learning anything from it you are destined to repeat the experience. By trying to hide from the experience and denying your feelings you will never get over what ever it was that happened to you. Good luck to you
2007-07-18 22:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely, i understand in simple terms the way you experience.. frequently i will scientific care this by way of turning out to be new thoughts, new reports, and in simple terms filling the void that grow to be left whilst some thing got here approximately, or as quickly as I lost somebody whom I enjoyed. the main suitable suggestion i grants you is to in simple terms savour the flaws and the persons who're around you perfect now. i comprehend it particularly is nonetheless hard on the tip of the day once you haven't any longer something to do yet think of approximately it =( digital mail me in case you want somebody to speak to!
2016-10-09 01:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice meditation and Yoga.
2007-07-19 03:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by d_r_siva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's so hard because it really affected you and who you are to day and u might wonder what would have happen in your life it happen differently or didn't happen at all.
2007-07-18 22:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Dare to ask? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋