Can anyone please give me any advice on some techniques of do's & don'ts of how I can get my ex-wife back from her new boyfriend? We broke up 3 weeks ago.
2007-07-18 22:15:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It has been 3 weeks after separation.
2007-07-19 01:17:01 · update #1
The only reason you want her back, is because someone else has her. You don't want to sleep in the same bed with some used a ss.
2007-07-18 22:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Rex B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the hardest thing to do is also the very BEST thing you can do...
be indifferent. dont call her, dont run into her, dont talk to her friends - act like you just dont really care.
ANYtime I have ever done this, whether intentional or not, it has worked quite well.
People hate rejection, and thats what YOU are dealing with right now. Give her a taste of her own medicine....
It may take some time, but I really believe that she will come calling when you least expect it, as long as you do what I wrote above.
IF, in a month or two, (or maybe more) you still have not heard from her, and you really miss her, then go ahead and send an email or call her on the phone. But if she doesnt respond to an email or phone call, then back off again and give it more time - but dont give up! You can win her back!
2007-07-18 23:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by no way?! WAY! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well Weird Al,
If she was your wife and you just broke up three weeks ago, and she already has a new boyfriend, then you should move on. If you get back together with her, she's not going to be faithful, and she'll use you.
Move on, and find a good woman who wouldn't have a new boyfriend three weeks after ending a marriage.
P.S. It is possible that the marriage hasn't worked for a long time, so she is justified in moving on so quickly. In that case, it's even more important to get over her and move on...
2007-07-18 23:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by silverlock1974 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this but if your ex told you that you're too jealous and clingy then he must know what he's saying.
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Anyone that goes out clubbing just to see what their ex is doing or drive by his place at 7:00 a.m. to see who's there tell me that you need to work on something. I don't think that you are only jealous but also possessive. And if you don't change that then you will never get your ex back. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to mean to you. I only want you to see what you are doing is so wrong. You have to admit that you are jealous and clingy. If you can't admit that then you'll never be able to fix the problem.
I understand that you don't like it if he dances and flirts in front of you. But guys are guys. And many guys don't see anything wrong with this. I know you feel hurt if he does that in front of your face. And it is disrespectful. But there are ways you can talk to your boyfriend if he's flirting while he's with you. You only have to tell him that it hurts you and that it's disrespectful and then ask him to stop doing it when he’s with you.
I don't know if getting back with your ex is going to last because now you have two problems. You were having problems with him because of his flirting and now you will have another problem because of this girl that he's going out with. It is eating you alive that he's involved with this girl and you know he's probably sleeping with her. How are you going to handle that if you get back together? Because of your jealousy and your insecurities are you going to be able to forget that he was ever involved with this girl? You really need to work on this and make sure if you try to get him back that you never again mention about his flirting or this girl. You can mention one more time how his flirting affects you but it has to stop there.
You asked how do you compete with the girl he's involved with. I looked at the picture and I can tell that your ex knows how to go for beautiful girls. So that give me a clear picture about how you look. I have a feeling that you are also very beautiful but for some reason I don't think you see yourself that way. The only thing I can tell you is that your boyfriend did not leave you because he didn't love you. He left you because of your jealousy and because you were clinging to him. If you love his as much as you say you do then fight for him and get him back. And if you do get him back then make sure that you can promise him that you will no longer be jealous, clingy or insecure about your relationship with him. If you can't promise him that then you may as well forget about him because it won't work if you don't change,
2016-07-19 21:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/l4PaM
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-21 13:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that even remarried her we are going through our second divorce right now. There is a reason you are divorced, some things are just not meant to be. If you really want her back find out what broke the marriage up, change what you can, show her you changed and if that's not enough find someone to appreciate you. Good Luck
2007-07-19 00:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by biggmike 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Three weeks since the divorce? I don't know about that... Sounds like something you should have considered before making it final. She seems to have moved on... But I don't know all the details, so, it all depends on why you got divorced in the first place and all of the circumstances. You can try telling her you miss her and want her back, and then give her plenty of space and time to think about it... Probably the best shot you have.
2007-07-18 22:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by νí®τǘø§ ωǿмåņ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm. Broke up 3 weeks ago and already your ex? Or, are you only separated? Anyway, give it one shot, and one shot only...Go to her work and wait outside by her car...have a Serenate her...you know, sing to her w/ everyone looking, lol...=). If you don't want everyone looking then go to her house or where she lives...and Serenate her there =). Sing a song of how much you miss her. This is my best idea. Good luck and if she blows you off...forget about her =(...
2007-07-19 00:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just like when you were starting dating, youre going to have to make yourself more desirable than your competition once again. Thats probably not going to be as easy as it once was,as now she knows you so youre going to really have to work harder to make a great impression. Only you know what its going to take to win her back, but start by eliminating the problem that forced her out in the first place. Good luck
2007-07-18 22:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋