Always wrong timing for sex.?

Question

There was a time when my husband wanted to have sex almost every nite but I'm just too tired for it. Then when I was all ready for it, he seems to lose interest in it. What's wrong with us. I usually fall asleep very early and my husband used to stay on the computer playing internet games till midnite. Sometimes I try to wait for him but by then, I'm too sleepy. His reason for not turning in early is becos our teenage kids are still awake but they are in their own room. How to find the correct timing so that we can both relax and enjoy.

Answer 1

trash the comp.. send the kids away to a friends or relatives... light a few candles... wear some nice lingerie.. and set him on fire {}

Answer 2

There is always a saying - there is no bad time for sex - never. I can empathise with how you feel about being tired and turning in early but when he is in the mood for sex and you turned him down for that reason, the next time when you are ready for it, he will probably not be in the mood because he will remember the times you rejected his advances.

That is probably the reason why women swear by the 'never say no to sex to your husband' notion. Even though I do not, I would try as much as possible to try to give in to my husband's advances once in a while even though I do not have the mood that day.

Try sneaking up to him while he is playing internet games from behind, smooch him at the back of his neck, nimble his ear or blow soft kisses against his ear lope. It will probably seal the deal if you wear a sexy lingerie and seduce him the way you want it to be. Be a little creative, try to think about the sex you and him used to have when your are newlyweds. Whisper to him that you want him tonight and make him feel wanted.

Men need to know they are wanted and loved by their partners, and they will reciprocate with the same manner.

Try to have pleasant thoughts of each other and focus on the seduction - who knows you may just ignite another spark in your own bedroom... Good luck.

Answer 3

This is the reality for most couples with teenage and grown up children around. Try to take a short break with your hubby away from home at least once a month. Check into a beach resort or a motel for an overnight stay and make the best use of your privacy and time there. And make sure your hubby does'nt bring along his laptop computer...!

Answer 4

You either need to borrow some imagination,
or let him chat with his honeys on Net, sine die until …

Do you need some acting lessons on how to lay yourself on his keyboards (much more cheaper than a divorce)?
And, if he has some bad temper, be prepared with a spare new keyboards before this actions. If you have the right man, why should you lose him? Work on it!
Ch-ch-ch-change yourself (some, something more, ?talk about it?) and be both happy.
If you change yourself for him you’re not changing your inner – you are the same person, a different dress, a mask, just another place (keyboards) … can make a difference for all of your family.
Your duty first of all is to know each other. Or Having Children (being fertile) Has Nothing To Do with Sx.

Answer 5

hey it gods last laff on humans.
when guys are young we chase it while the girls are told its a dirty thing , then when the girls are old enough to want to get married they use it to find a guy.
after they get married then she pushes him away because of the kid and any other assortment of excuses. while he is stil trying to have some thing going on in the bed room.
around the time a woman reaches the age of about 35 is when she now wants to have sex and he is now tired of being pushed away for so long he has found other things to keep him happy (his car, computer etc.) and she is now the one left out in the cold! the bad thing here is the guy is always to blame for what is going on! sorry ladies , its just nature that is all! to see this for your self look back over the years of you and other women that you know and see if they also have the same problem!
sex between males and females is at best unbalanced from childhood and continues into adulthood. this has been the ruien of many a good marriage!

Answer 6

Men and their video games...
I have the same problem, I play online a lot, but... when booty's calling, I'm there.
I was getting into those games where you pay 10 bucks a month and there is unlimited things to do, you can litterally never beat the ******* game so you just keep going. My wife bless her heart never complained but I could see where it could turn into a problem if I kept doing it.
I didn't quit but I started limiting it to a couple hours instead of all night, this is something I hear about a lot.

I did manage to get my wife playing and its soothed things a bit. Its nearly an addiction, but if she said it bothered her I'd quit, some guys wouldn't.

Another wife with similar problem, maybe to the extreme.
http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070520231025AAOWmoK

Answer 7

I firmly believe that you can't be too tired for sex! If you are not tired for eating and watching TV - than you aren't tired for sex either.
But I get it - sometimes you just don't feel like it (not as same as being tired). However, once you get going it is easy to get in the mood and you should make an effort.

Also, do some new stuff, seduce your husband, be seduced.
You will feel sexier and sexier.

Send him an email to work and tell him what you want to do to him when he gets back home or what you want him to do to you (easier to express in writing if you are not up for talk)
Suggest something you have never done before.
I guarantee improvement!

Do not' just give up. Do not make schedules!



Enjoy life!!!

Answer 8

Leave him a sexy voice mail at work, or slip a seductive note into his lunch box.

Make a date.

Go away for the weekend.

Flirt!! Flirt!!! Flirt!! Like you did when you first met.

Send the teenagers to the movies, or a friend's house.

Be creative, make time.

Check out from the library or buy the book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" you'll gain amazing insight on how to get things going. :) Seriously...read the book, apply it, you'll be so happy you did.

Answer 9

1) dude needs to get off the computer and go get laid.

2) you both should schedule certain times of the month for "intimate encounters".

That could be a luncheon rendevous. It could be a weekend away from the kids.

Does he not want to have sex cause the kids are awake? Remember, in the days of log cabins, everyone slept in the same room. It may seem gross now, but mom and dad got in on with the kids in the same room. I feel sorry for the old time kids of screamers.

No one stays on the computer because the kids are still up. He is the parent. If they are supposed to be up, then who cares? He can go to bed when he wants. If they are not supposed to be up, then LIGHTS OUT KIDS!

Both of you need to work on this.

If you are in need and he selfishly won't change his schedule or hook up for a date night, then when you get home, take a nap. Then you will be better equipped to stay up late.

Answer 10

Hi Jane go to bed early and set your clock to get up on what hour of time you both agree on.See if that's works for you.If not your will have to try on the week-ends that should work out for both of you. Good Luck A Friend.
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Answer 11

Maybe he is not playing games on the internet he just watching porn try seeing what he really doing on the internet , if that dont work try going to a hotel for a night maybe that would spice things up.