Am I wrong for getting mad?

Question

I have been getting mad at my wife lately. Here's why, my wife has been talking to this guy on the internet almost everyday. We know the guy outside the internet by the way. I told her I didn't mind if she talked to him once in awhile, not every day. The reason why I said that to her is because I checked her email once, I know wrong thing to do, but she sent him an email with questions. They said things like "what would you do in a room with me by ourselves", or "do you think of me other than as a friend." When I asked her about it she said it was all a joke. She said "I don't even know why I sent it" We got in to a huge fight over it. That was a week ago. She stopped talking to him for a little while but she had been talking to him everyday again since monday. I got mad again and she told me I should stop, he's only a friend. I just want to know if I'm wrong for gettting mad at her or am I just overly jealous?

Answer 1

No, you're not wrong for getting mad. She needs to stop that nonsense and use her attention on you. You are married. And I don't think it's wrong to even check her e-mail as long as you'd let her check yours... I don't care if my husband ever looks at mine because I have nothing to hide. Married women should not send that kind of e-mail questionnaire to anyone... Sounds fishy to me. Especially if you have any hint that the guy might be interested in her you should put a stop to it before it escalates. That stuff isn't a joke. I won't even talk to other men online and such unless I am related to them. Definitely nip it in the bud... She's a married woman and needs to act accordingly.

Answer 2

Jealous yes. Wrong for getting mad, maybe not. There could be reason for concern on your part since she emailed him every day, stopped when you raised an issue about certain content (those particular questions), and started again. She said it was all a joke - I don't get the punchline here & see it as something else, as you do. If he's only a friend (now) why did she ask those particular questions? Ask her what the responses were, or maybe you need to confront this friend outside the Internet to find out his answers to her questions, his motives, & what else your wife has said to him. Get those answers from him (maybe he has no interest in her since she is married) so you get both sides of the story.

Answer 3

Nope not wrong in the least. I mean she is in some serious territory here. I mean who really sends questions like that as a joke? That is some serious affair/feelings cooking up between her and the other guy. So rather its a joke or not, she is starting to feel something for him. Its also not a great thing you guys know him in real either. And I don't mean to take it there, but you never know she could go over to his house when you are at work and officially start up the affair. I would go to the guy and ask him what is going on for sure. Because you already have proof your wife may be cheating on you with him. So see what he says about it. If the dude is feeling the same way, you have your options. But choose something that is best for you and if you have kids them as well. They don't need to be hurt in any of this nor do you.

Answer 4

It MIGHT be a joke but I would be pretty mad about that as well. I don't think you are out of line getting mad about that. I would say this though. If you both know this guy outside of the net and are all friends, I wouldn't try and make her stop talking to him. On the other hand, knowing that you know, she should be making a little effort to town down the emails and DEFINITELY not make those jokes anymore.

Answer 5

Dear Friend,
You r absolutely correct having such reactions. But look before u leap, u should always keep this principle in mind. You should exemplify her through similar stories with bad end. People ruining their families this way. You can tell her that having friends is not bad but it becomes bad when they cross the limits of ethics. In family life ethics have got a big role to play between husband and a wife. You can make her understand as u don't have friends other than your own wife, she should also stop finding friends elsewhere, rather you can be her best friend to share her happiness and sorrow.
I hope she would understand the sanctity of marital relations.

Answer 6

They are , at the very least , having an "emotional affair" or , at least , testing the waters.
*Be prepared for this next sentence : She is doing this to fill needs YOU are not filling.........
You may be a great guy, but her needs and wants are not being fulfilled so she is looking OUTSIDE the marriage for fulfillment........If you can ffulfill her needs - YOU will be "the man in her life" once again.
WOO HER- - TELL HER YOU LOVE HER - SHE IS THE ONLY ONE FOR YOU-REMIND HER OF THE GOOD DAYS - AND SAY "I WANT TO MAKE YOU HAPPY - TELL ME HONESTLY WHAT IS MISSING - I WILL CHANGE - - She may or may not listen-Be lovingly persistent
DO NOT FIGHT - when you do YOU are the bad guy and you give her the opportunity to let him console her from her "horrible old husband "
Get into counseling - if she will go...........
An affair is a dream world - you can't compete with THAT - so try to make the REAL world - your time together - WONDERFUL--email me - I have dozens of helpful articles I can send you ........
google "how to deal with a cheating wife" ....... things like that ........GET 2 BOOKS NOW - READ THEM IN BED EVERY NIGHT - LEAVE THEM OUT SO SHE MIGHT READ TOO - His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley and 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman GET THEM TODAY

Answer 7

Well you have a good reason to be mad but she is a GIRL! you have to remember that girls don't understand that guys have feelings too and they like the attention. You had to trust her with the talking with her ex, even if she did talk with him you can't confront her by being mad. She is probably playing games with you about the "i hate you blah blah blah" keep up with it if she means a lot to you. If she is someone you can let go easily then let it go and she will probably come back either way. Just don't show your emotions by getting angry.

Answer 8

hey, you have the right to get mad. You're wife is too insensitive of your feelings and i think she lacks respect on you. She should think about your feelings first before she does any move that she knows it will hurt you or made you mad. She is just so lucky coz you just get mad. Other husband might file a divorce against her. Talking to these guy everyday means flirting, coz she really finds time for him, there is no such thing as "just friends" when questions like "do you think of me other than as a friend"..Hello? Is she trying to tell that you were born on the times where there is no school yet?...Think men...

Answer 9

no ur not wrong for getting mad, ur wife is playing a bad game, stop her before its too late.at the same time ask ur self y she could be behaving that way, as in there must be a reason why she spends alot of time chatting with another person rather than u; the HUSBAND.

Answer 10

man... stasiticly this is a growing problem, cuz its online so its "innocent." Then grows to something different entirely. Yes it could be innocent and then it could be budding to something bad. Worst part is, what can you do?
Ban her from talking to him?
Whatever you do, your the bad guy, personally I trust my wife and this stuff doesnt bother me, but if it did, I'd give her a no hard feelings choice, quit, or Im gone.
Its obviously eating my soul, I'm not going to get over it, I don't like it. Please stop.
If she couldn't stop, I'd pack my bags and wave.
Love ya babe, good luck.