2007-07-18 21:38:56 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why did u leave him {}
2007-07-18 21:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you cry, kick and scream. You pig out and eat chocolate and icecream- then you cry, kick and scream some more. Now that feels better already. Then you start to rebuild your life, plan a bit more for the future. Take all the lessons learned in your marriage- good or bad and then use them for the future- it will help you decide what you want. Take up a new hobby or interest, something that perhaps you couldn't when you married. Get out of the house and start meeting new people. Have you got a profile on 'my space'- good place to meet new friends. Good luck.
2007-07-19 04:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you had your reasons why you left. So don't feel too down about it. I know you're gonna feel down at first as you've lived together and now you're on your own. But this is your chance to sort yourself out. Go join a club or a gym, do some charity work etc. Just go about doing something that will make your spirit lift up. Then i'm sure in time you'll feel better. lol
2007-07-18 21:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of things you can do. Think of some of the things you liked doing before you were married, and go do those.
You could make some new friends, meet new people, and maybe even start dating again, when the time is right for you.
The obvious answer is that talking to people such as your friends and family can help you stop feeling lonely.
2007-07-18 21:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by procyon 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations..... 2ndly.... dont go back.... we are all tempted one time or another to go back to the familiarity, but ill guarentee that you end up with the same problems you had origionally.....
Join the gym.... thats a must!
Develop some hobbies depending on what you like doing.. i liked doing orienteering and rock climbing, or if you want to get a little more social, get into a group type sport....
If sport isnt your thing there are art classes, and the best way to meet new guys is to get a dog and walk it down at the local dog park! Trust me, its a winner!
Lastly, try everything...... dont be afraid to try something new, even try chatting up people on the net.... it probably wont lead to anything but it flatters your ego anyways! hehehe good luck!
2007-07-18 21:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are bound to feel lonely, having been part of a couple n knowing the other person was always there when u needed them. may i suggest going out, maybe to clubs n pubs, join the gym or local college evening classes, make new friends or socalise more with your old friends. good luck
2007-07-18 22:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by spoogie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what you are interested in , look in papers online etc, go to your library , perhaps a local amateur dramatics society , a dancing or keep fit class , or a course on something that you have always wanted too learn. you are bound to feel lonely after a breakup , be positive , there are lots of people like you all waiting to make new friends . .
2007-07-18 22:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by pussycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you lonely or are you just adjusting? there is a difference, but you are in a great position here to remedy this. you have complete control over who you see and when, there can be as many or as little people in your social life now, without knowing your circumstances, ie-friends family hobbies etc its hard to be specific, i know when a marriage splits up, sometimes friends are unsure as to whether a person wants time on their own, or for them to go round, or call, its up to you to let them know you need or want some company, theres lots you can do, good luck, do what makes you happy now
2007-07-18 21:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you left means ! divorce ?
the way u say seems that you still miss him ,that he filled that place and you cant stay without him because all those days he was with you you didn't feel lonely because he cared & loved .
first of all why did you part from him ?
2007-07-18 22:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by adnan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Embrace being lonely 4 it will make u stronger. u will come 2 realize u can make it on ur own. Relying on another person 2 exist, leaves u open 4 nothing but disappointment. its hard but it wil make u stronger.
2007-07-20 17:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by suicidalanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Janine s, give yourself time to grieve, it is so important. Its been 3 years for me and am still working through the pain. However, meeting new people and doing the things you enjoy for yourself does help.
2007-07-19 02:17:35 · answer #11 · answered by Delerious? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋