HI, can you tell me if im being unfair? I have three children. My eldest one is 12. She has managed to lose or brake three mobile phones in just over a year, totalling nearly £500. For her birthday this year i gave in and bought her a new one on the understnaing if this one brakes "thats it". So far she has looked after it. Lately though she is wanting to take it school because "all her mates do" but im reluctant to let her in case the same thing happens to it again, She says im mean and shes the only one whos not allowed. I try to explane to her with her track record i dont feel its a good idea. Am i just being mean, i think i have reason to restrict her. Not sure realises the value. Should i let her? Thanks
2007-07-18 21:35:24 · 17 answers · asked by leanne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well you aren't being mean as she has to learn that what you say goes, and its not like you are just saying no for the sake of it, you have expailned to her your point of view and you reasons for not lletting her take one to school.
But on the other hand I think that you should let her take it as she needs to learn from her own mistakes, and that if it gets lost or damaged its her own fault, I also believe that she should have a mobile for EMERGENCIES only, but then again the school should have a phone, to call you. But if she is walking on her own home, and something happens to her friends or her, then she will be able to contact you or the needed assistance.
I think that you shouldn't let her take it to school as all she sees it as is a fashion accesory, and that she will look cool because she has it, she has to learn that people like you for who you are, not what you have or haven't got.
Hope this helps
2007-07-18 22:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by knights_in 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being young myself I can see this from both sides!
You are right in what you say- she clearly cant look after them and you have spent a ridiculous amount of money replacing them!!
However sad as it is we live in a s**t world and I think mobile phones are a vital part of life incase of an emergency! OK should anything happen @ school she has staff etc there but does she walk home from school?? If so I really believe you should let her take it with her- for safety rather than fun! You never know when she may need it,I have heard a few stories where people have been in danger and had left their phones @ home and regretted it ever since!!
I know some people will be shocked about a 12 year old with a phone but this is what the world has come to!! Without them we simply cant seem to live!!! Not sure why!! Afterall my parents never had them when they were younger!!
If she brekas it then she must save up for her own one or go without!! SIMPLE- Hopefully she will take care of this one!!
2007-07-18 22:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Blush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully I dont have this problem I have 3 girls and the oldest is 6 so she hasnt even thought of asking for one yet though I dont think she will be much far behind :( they ask for them very young these days. Perosnally I think at 12 she should have to save her allowance and buy her own phone, and maybe you could help her out a little with some extra allowance for doing chores and stuff.
2007-07-19 00:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not being unfair. I'ts easy come ,easy go for today;s kids it seems. Anyway tell her unless she can promise you to take her uttermost care and not brake it then she can take the phone as you do'nt want her to feel left out. But if she brakes it this time the next phone she gets she's gonna have to buy it with her own money and mean it! lol
2007-07-18 21:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being mean at all I have had six cell phones and none of them have broken and I got my first cell phone when I was 10 it even was the first sidekick. But back to the point tell her that in two or three months when you have gained her trust to take care of it you will let her bring it to school this way it will make her realize that she needs to take care of her things and that she will be able to bring it to school at one point.
2007-07-19 00:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by ♡Potterfreak♡ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Stand firm. I'm sure she only has the phone for emergency situations anyway. Taking it to school is just begging for it to be broken or lost and too bad if it's unfair. Don't let her talk you out of your decision.
2007-07-18 21:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by scooter5052 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't give in. Really she has proven that she is not very responsible with the handling and care of the phones. She should have to earn the ability to take her phone to school by proving she can properly take care of it for a good amount of time.
2007-07-18 21:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by mustang63b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
em well..... as a parent you have to do what you think is right for your child.. of course your child will not view it the same way but she will do the same to her child when she is an adult.... don't worry about tantrums and you may feel guilty sometimes but don't be worried about this just put your foot down and tell her not to follow what other kids do....
When she can learn to respect property that you work hard to provide for her then she will be allowed to carry a mb to school..
nai nai xx
2007-07-18 21:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by nai nai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOOO ABSOLUTELY NOT....firt of all u tell whos boss and who pays her bills and gives her a roof over her head and tell her she should be gratefull to even have a phone because shes either lost or broken 3 phones...and on top of that if she back talks ground her from her phone...
2007-07-18 21:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 12 with a cell phone? Maybe I'll see this differently when my daughter gets to be that age but I just don't see how or why.
2007-07-18 21:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by marie s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋