is it ok to go off birthcontrol and not tell your boyfriend???? I want a baby!!!?

Question

Everybody around me that i know either are pregaunt or have just had a baby

Answer 1

This makes me so angry I can't even really begin to put it into words.

That is purely despicable. Why in the world would you force anyone into parenthood? That's a life-long commitment, and a decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. You get pregnant through fraud, and don't expect anything less than him leaving you and wanting nothing to do with either you or the baby.

Because you "want one!!" is NOT a good reason to become a mother. A baby is someone that grows into a child. It's not a fad or something you can give back once it's not cute anyone. They require 24/7, 365 care and responsibility.

Unfortunately, I get the feeling you're the type that's only asking this question in order to get some validation, and the best answer is going to go to someone who says "Yeah, it's okay!" You're going to do it regardless of what anyone says. How selfish and disgusting.

Grow up.

Answer 2

Im sorry i will't relate, yet ik it gets better. this is trials in sensible this that make you stronger, and each little thing occurs for a reason. Ik you do not want to attend, yet won't it b better to deliver a infant into this international once you the two have a greater physically powerful guidance and larger jobs?? Get a small place and shop up for the perfect living house you as a rule wanted. or the marriage. you will desire to nevertheless be satisfied, you have the guy of targets and with all that has got here approximately i think of he's with you till the top. you have waited this long finding on the region perhaps it particularly is terrific to attend a splash longer. This probably wasn't what you wanted to pay attention, and im sorry. in spite of the shown fact that it sounds your on the ceremony song now to getting what you want. and don't difficulty u did not sound selfish 2 me =) and get a canines! they are extremely only like having a newborn =) grasp in there, time extremely does fly ur doing the ceremony subject! and ur handeling it ok. and of course this is okay 2 b frusterated! god after 9 yrs i might b 2 =)

Answer 3

I sincerely hope you are joking about this to get attention and not serious. You didn't mention your age but I believe you must be a teenager and possibly living at home still. I sincerely hope your parent(s) would talk to you about the lifelong responsibility of raising a child. You can't just take it to the shelter and drop it off cause you are bored with it like a puppy.

I was 25 and my wife was 19 when we had our unplanned child. I had a full time job, 2 college degrees and no debt when she got pregnant. Now, fifteen years later, we are STILL married, but basically broke since all of our money goes to bills and making sure our son has everything he needs. Having a son is a great thing but not the best reason to just go out and get pregnant. My wife had to give up her job because daycare was more than half of her wages! I would invite you over to watch me try to balance the books on one income. And NO, I don't qualify for welfare, no one is paying to raise my kid. Thank God, cause no one should be taking welfare just because they did what the other McFly's were doing. I wonder if your boyfriend will stick around if you try to trap him into having a baby? NOT!

Answer 4

Hi!

If you want a child to start life with the disadvantages of a mother who deceived its father and possibly drove him away and who was a crowd follower, even when the crowd were not wise, then go ahead. Sounds like you don't have anyone around to offer you guidance - or are you one of those "I'm gonna do it anyway" types who acts impulsively and spends the rest of their life regretting and blaming everyone else?

At least you had the sense to seek other people's views here - but will you take the advice you sought and wait a while for all your sakes?

Good wishes.

Answer 5

That's NOT a good reason to get pregnant. Didn't your mom ever tell yuo that just because everyone else was doing something didn't mean you should? Having a child is a serious life-altering decision that TWO people should make TOGETHER. If you two are ready for a child, then he will discuss it with you and you will come to an agreement. If you're going to trick him into getting you pregnant, then you're too imature to be anyone's mother anyway.

Answer 6

Believe me that should make you not want to have a baby. All my friends and some family have just had babies and Im about to have one in a few months...yes it's wrong to not tell your boyfriend unless your have a open mind to the fact that he might not even help you when you do get pregnant. And you can say you know him well enough to say that he wouldnt do that cause you dont know guys when it comes to babies.

Answer 7

Of course it's not ok, why would you want to deceive him like that? Does he want a child? Are you both ready for that responsibility? What if things don't work out between you two? It's not fair to him or to the potential child. Children deserve stable families. I think if you were to go thru with this plan you are being selfish which proves that you aren't really ready for a child....

Answer 8

Does your boyfriend want a baby yet? Is he mature enough to handle all the responsibilities and costs that come with a baby? I don't think it's fair to hand him that responsibility without his knowledge whan he isn't ready yet. It would be best if you get married first, that way you both have time to prepare for all the responsibilities and costs to have a baby.

Answer 9

No, wait until the time is right, and babysit.

You know it's not right. A lot of us gals go through stages of really wanting a baby, but it's worth it to wait until you are stable in relationship and finances. Having a baby is a choice you should make together with your husband. Wait, you'll be glad you did.

Answer 10

You may find he is ok w/ the idea, have you ever asked him in general? Its sooo common to be baby hungry when all your friends are pregnant. But don't do it that way pleeeaaassee! It may cause more problems in your relationship. Reminds me of a soap opera where the lady just wanted her boyfriend to marry her. Not the same, but still my point is that its deceitful.