When the girl likes someone(person A) for years (just a crush) about 3-4 years and then stops liking that (person A) for about a year and then goes out with someone else (person B) and falls in love with them. Is it wrong for the girl to think about person A when she's having rough patches with person B in a relationship? If so how intense is your answer. Another question is would it then be ok for person B to be jealous that the girl considers (person A) to be her core or main friends? Even as a top friend in her life. Sure the girl only goes out with these set of friends and no others but almost like 3 to 4 times a week. How should person B feel about that and how should person B feel about her thinking about person A when their going through a rough time in the relationship? Please HELP!!!
2007-07-18 20:52:53 · 7 answers · asked by auk6000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think girl would hook up with person A if given the opportunity so there for person B has every right to be jealous and his pride should not tolerate it.
~faith
2007-07-18 21:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well people don't always see the whole person as they really are....so are they in love with that person...or in love with love?
Reality, is when you see all the pluses and minuses of that person...and still love them anyway.
The problem both person A and person B have is that the first relationship with person A has has been over a long period of time....and the girl knows that person very well. She may have wanted love to develop with that person, but since it didn't...she moved on to person B, genuinely believed herself to be in love.
Person B is right to think that that girl should now be willing to focus on him....he should be her priority now...and in most relationships, that former friendship would have to be no longer so important in her life. I would guess that the reason you are having a hard time, is this very issue.
If she goes out with these friends 3 or 4 times a week...that is a lot! Why aren't you going with her....you are now a team!
You don't have to be with her every minute, but she should be willing to include you with some of her friends. Is this not an option?
Her "friend"...person A...should now be at a distance. If she isn't willing to do that, I would question who she loves the most. And you are jealous because you sense that something doesn't quite add up. You are right!
Just turn it around. How would she feel if you spend 3 or 4 times a week with another past girl friend? If she doesn't care, you have even more problems.!
You need to talk this out....and maybe put it to her in those terms...reverse it and see if she sees your point of view.
It is hurting your relationship...she needs to see that!
2007-07-26 17:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "A" is just a crush, then what about "B"? Is the girl a girlfriend now of "B"? If he is, and the girl is still going out with "A", then the girl is really attracted to "A" and maybe she hopes that "A" will fall in love with her in the long run. So this, my friend, will surely put "B" out of the scene. "B" has all the reasons to be JEALOUS then. But why does he permit this? I mean, did he ever talked to the girl about this? I THINK, "B" doesn't want to mention his jealousy to the girl because of PRIDE. "B" doesn't want the girl to know that he is jealous of "A".
You know what? I think "B" should find a new girl. You see, no matter how many guys there are who want to date the girl, it's the girl who should turn them down knowing that "B"- her boyfriend might get hurt.
2007-07-26 20:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
person B should be jealous, anyone would. and if the girl is going to think about person A whenever her realtionship with Person B gets ugly or are going through a rough time, then person B is going to have a lot more bad times then it usually would if she was not thinking about him. lol
even though its normal to think about a different person when you are having problems with the one youcurrently have, you have to keep in perspective that it will happen no matter who you are with, cause having problems is part of life.
sorry for the long answer
but to sum it all up
i dont think is jealousy
but is defenitely not pride
2007-07-25 18:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pure jealousy.
The word "jealousy" is frequently used to describe what is more properly envy, fixation on what someone else has.
2007-07-25 10:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by spreetray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many B's and A's!!
2007-07-18 21:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Love will find a Way"
2007-07-26 12:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Chef Combo S 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋