what's more important? marriage or education?

Question

i already asked this question but it seems that i got a lot of answers from people who do not currently worry about money - either that or their love overcomes their poverty.

if you had to choose between an increase in salary by well over 300% or staying married, which would you chose?
AND
your current income level was close to the poverty level
AND
you fought about money all the time.

please choose between the following: Literally go without for your whole life, fighting tooth and nail *or* get a degree without his/her consent or support, which may cost you your marriage?

Answer 1

both of them are important,but l will get a degree first cos there is nothing like education,marriage can fall,but with education you will be able to put food on your table.so l think education is more important

Answer 2

Both are important. The best thing to do would be to sit down with the spouse and discuss the pros and cons to staying in the situation with you going to school to better "yourselves as a whole". If the other half refuses to understand, you're tired of fighting & you see no advantage to staying and only fighting...the best thing to do is to go ahead and get the education to increase the salary. Hopefully the spouse will see, before it's too late, that you both will be happier and a lot less stressed once you have the education and salary increase. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

It's more important that I not be married to someone who would not support me in education. Luckily, my husband wants me to be happy and will support me and my education. If I want to get a PhD, he'll be proud even if he doesn't go to graduate school himself. I'm the same way with him, although, if he went to graduate school and I didn't, I may be a little jealous. (We're both undergraduates at this point)

I think this is not a question of marriage or education. This is a question of respect and freedom. It is not the spouses job to forbid his or her partner from doing something especially something that would improve the self.

I would question any man who would feel inferior if his wife were making more money or were more educated especially if he could not deal with his emotions. This type of man is not a man to marry, or to marry happily. It's abusive. A man who would disallow me from receiving an education, a valuable career and self improvement may as well be beating me.

Answer 4

It's not an either/or proposition. Bettering yourself is always a good thing and, besides, once someone has a degree and is making more money then the spouse benefits. Don't throw away your spouse just because he/she might feel a little threatened. They'll get over it.

Answer 5

first I want to know what kind of idiot would think it was a bad idea to let you get your degree to make more money. that's just stupid. and second you have to pick what will make you happier. the person your with or easier living in the future for you and possibly your children. but mainly ask your significant other why they're afraid of you making more money. it's just illogical and possibly based on pride, if in the end you'll be bringing in a higher paycheck. SO overall... tell him to grow up and stop being an idiot

Answer 6

I'd choose to get the degree which would most likely help the marriage in the long run.. Any time you can improve yourself, go for it .

Answer 7

It all depends what you want in life really. If you think your career comes first, then go for the education. If you think its your marriage, then forget about the education until later perhaps.

Answer 8

both are important. to you get your education first before marrage then you both dont have this problem if i was married i would not put education before my marrage in.my honest opion?

Answer 9

education

Answer 10

If your husband doesn't support you through everything then he's not a good husband.