2007-07-18 16:57:48 · 6 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
HUH? How can you have a close friendship if you avoid them..... if you mean why do people avoid HAVING close friends, it's because they either have a hard time trusting, OR they have been burned once too many times and do not need to try that again.
2007-07-18 17:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understand the question, bu sometimes our needs and expectations change and the friends remain the same, so we move on often leaving people behind. We still love them but are looking for something else for a while and it may seem a closeness is lost.
I have 1 friend in exactly same position as myself (a very rare one), yet she makes everything a competition and has lied to me. After being very close for almost a year I have backed off and she has pushed me away as her life has changed and she no longer needs me. Our objectives were very different and I don't think we'll reconcile, the closeness will never return. Although, now I find out about the lies, I wonder if I didn't feel closer to her than vice versa.
Friendships are very tricky! Like playing chess! xox
2007-07-19 00:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by SEJ71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because they don't want to get hurt, or they once trusted someone who let out all their secrets so they prefer to create a distance between them and their close friends, which makes life easier for them.
Other people avoid being close just to stay away from clashing with 'those' friends, like arguing or fighting a lot.
It all depends on these people's experience and what they've gone through and how important it is for them to have best or 'a best' friend.
I know people who have been hurt more than once due to these kind of friendships but they still continue to have close friends, they can't help it because they need some one who backs them up in hard times.
2007-07-19 06:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Fatima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean starting to avoid friends that would be described as close, I can tell you what happened with me. One friend became a rival - we were so much alike, we started competing. This was both our faults. Many years later, I found another best friend. We loved each other dearly, but we are opposites and when we have problems, we think too differently to be really helpful to each other as confidantes. Hope this helps.
2007-07-19 00:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by callmeplayfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
silence teaches men to be wise!
2007-07-19 00:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its their business..................
2007-07-19 00:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by ettel_rahc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋