She has 3 kids, & the ex-boyfriend from the 3rd kid is possessive, abusive, & controlling, & he still wants to believe that they're together. But the baby is not his, & she's 7 weeks pregnant. She was crying today, & she STRONGLY does not wanna carry this baby, but she's afraid to have an abortion. I didn't know what to tell her. & my best friend wants her to carry the baby so she can adopt it. What advice should we give her?
2007-07-18 16:55:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
tell her not to abort it let ur friend adopt it if she doesnt want any more kids she should get her tubes tied
2007-07-18 17:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should talk her into doing anything, one way or the other. I think you should let her talk, and just listen - without opinion or judgment. Hopefully by talking things through she will be able to decide what she really wants in her heart. If her friend adopts her baby she will have to live the rest of her life facing the child she gave up, she might not be able to handle that. Nor might she be able to handle carrying the baby for 9 months and then giving it up. Since she is the one that will have to live with this decision for the rest of her life the choice must be hers and hers alone. Just let her know that you guys are there for her no matter what.
2007-07-19 06:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a woman at artwork had an abortion. She acted nice for a pair of week and then completely broke down approximately it and had to take quite a few very own days off artwork. everybody is distinctive. She ought to sense undesirable approximately it and not being announcing something or she ought to not care in any respect. She did not care approximately protecting the infant so except she tells you, there is not any way of understanding if it bothers her now that that's long previous. i can not have faith that that's criminal to have an abortion before 18 without your parents consent. i think of her parents could understand.
2016-09-30 07:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by kottwitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really it's up to her. Just be a good friend and no matter how you personally feel, understand that she's having a hard time and needs someone to love her. From what you say, having another baby wouldn't be good for her family. Don't give advice unless you're asked for it and then make an educated decision on what to tell her. It's always good to research these things anyhow and see what is done.
2007-07-18 17:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a planned parenthood center. They will be able to talk with her and tell her about all the options like adoption abortion or carrying the baby and keeping it. They are a non biased place that will give her the pros and cons and help her make this tough decision. Besides taking her there, the best thing you can do is be supportive and just listen to her.
2007-07-18 17:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by chemikalie08 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Definitely do not abort the baby because she can take chances of not having anymore kids after that...and also she will regret it whether it's that day, the next day, or 10 years down the road...it will be a regret somewhere in her life that she wishes she could change.
She doesn't have to allow the baby to see the guy that's a jerk...she can get a restraining order, etc on him. She doesn't have to kill the baby because of his problems.
Why not raise the baby (if that's what she decides to do) or give it up for adoption to your best friend, atleast she knows that it will be going into good care and could still see her or have something to do with her, but definitley don't have an abortion.
2007-07-18 17:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
The best advice you personally can give her would be to go and talk to a professional. You could not possibly give her advice on something you haven't experienced. I think you best friend is being selfish in only wanting your friend to carry the baby so she can adopt it. It is soley upto your friend whether she has the baby or not. Termination or not, you shouldn't judge her if she is your friend.
2007-07-19 05:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by louise b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me give you some advice: Don't give your friend any advice one way or another, only if she asks for it and only if you stress that ultimately it is HER decision and either way, as her friend, you will support her.
Your other best friend, the one that wants her to carry it so she can adopt it needs to stay out of it as well. This is something your pregnant friend needs to decide, and having 2 friends (one of which is telling her "Oh I'll adopt the baby if you carry it to term.) trying to tell her what to do will only make her life harder.
Let her know there are other options out there (adoption, etc.) but you CAN'T make this decision for her, nor should you or anyone else try.
2007-07-18 17:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Informed 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
This decision is completely up to your friend. If her current relationship is a bad one (you said this creep is not the father), and she has no way to escape from him and her safety is in danger if he finds out the child is not his....then she might be better off getting an abortion. And with 3 kids already......she should get her tubes tied. I do not mean that it a cruel way, but she has got a lot on her plate. Tell the other friend to butt out of the pregnant one's business, as this situation does not concern her.
2007-07-18 17:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would tell her that she would be doing the best thing for the baby if she gave it up for adoption to a loving home. I would also tell her that if she has an abortion she could live to regret it for the rest of her life.
2007-07-18 16:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by katiebug 5 · 8⤊ 2⤋
wow your friends in a sticky situtation...but it sounds to me like she doesnt want to carry the baby because shes scared of the last baby daddy whos shes not even with anymore...Ask her if this is something that she WANTS to do for her own reasons, or SCARED to carry the baby because of this crazy man...if she is scared, she needs to notify the autorities and get as far away as possible...with her kids...if she doesnt want to carry the baby for her own reasons, she needs to seek a counselour so that they can let her know what ehr options are...have her go to a planned parent hood ASAP...
2007-07-18 17:01:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋