i said i love you more and he said you may love me more but i care about you more. is it just me or is loving someone caring about them and willing to do anything for them what the hell did he mean by that
2007-07-18 16:03:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i didnt mean stupid i meant confusing i love him we have been together for 3 years : )
2007-07-18 16:13:42 · update #1
it means that love is a big word to him and he might not be ready to be "in love" so he could be saying he cares for you but your right they mean basically the same thing
2007-07-18 16:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by crazysk8tr15 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, loving someone and caring about them doesn't have to mean the same thing. Nor does it have to mean that you do either one completely.
He is saying that you might love and care about him, and that he loves and cares about you, but that he shows his love for you more in a caring fashion.
This is my definition of love, which I find to cover it all
"Love" isn't a single emotion, it's a meshing of two or more emotions of varying degrees, put together in different combinations by each individual, which change from moment to moment throughout their lifetimes. This definition covers all types of love, not just "perfect" or "true" love.
Each person decides throughout their lifetime at any moment what love is to them whether it is on a conscious level or not; what combination of emotions they should be feeling, how strongly they need to be feeling each of them and how important each of them is. This is why people fall in love with strangers or those they barely know, because those types of people are basically blank slates whom we can convince ourselves meet our criteria. It's also why we become brokenhearted later (which is almost inevitable) when we get to know them through a closer relationship and discover that they didn't meet our criteria after all, if that ends up being the case.
As a person ages and experiences different things, then their views also change, sometimes slightly and sometimes drastically. So what they attribute as love changes, too. This is why people fall out of love with others, or why their love will develop or grow stronger.
Since we each decide which combination of emotions at any time come together to be love, then it is us that chooses love and not the other way around. You aren't made to fall in love with a certain person, you've chosen to, whether it's a conscious choice or not. We are also each responsible for any "destructive" love we may feel if we include emotions such as jealousy and anger into the combination.
There are all kinds of love and infatuation is one of them. It's more commonly known as "puppy love". People tend to discriminate against it and belittle it because it doesn't fall into the category of what they consider to be "true love" or "perfect love", but it is love nonetheless. The thing about the love known as infatuation is that it tends to be an obsessive and very passionate kind of love, so the one possessing it views the person they are infatuated with through very narrow blinders and the fire of the love burns bright and fast, and in turn dies just as quickly and thoroughly.
2007-07-18 23:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not call your boyfriend "freakin' stupid." He sounds like a wise young man. I wonder if you are really talking about love in your own definitions and measurements. Do some research.
And why on earth would you even try to measure whose love is "more"?
2007-07-18 23:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by singlepebble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you quit playing stupid childish games and realize that it's not a contest about who loves who more. You're going to drive this boy away.
2007-07-18 23:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mama u no why becouse we have the tendersee to show owl own way.as in what ever they ask we try to gave it t them.butt we cant do it all mama just keep doing what u do an dont change.love msbaltimore.
2007-07-18 23:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by ms.baltimore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, "freaking stupid" and "dingbat". WTF is it some king of a competition???
You sound like a 4th or 5th grader. If you aren't then you are sad. If you are then you are clueless...
Split up and get back together when you are 10 or 15 years older.
2007-07-18 23:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he means that he thinks that you love him but dont really care about him if that makes any sencehope it helps!! : )
2007-07-18 23:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by zoe s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not stupid, he's just really caring.
2007-07-18 23:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used up all his cleverness when he chose you.
He needs more hugs - go give him one.
2007-07-18 23:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you are freakin stupid too cause he is your boyfriend.
2007-07-18 23:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋