My son died in June . He hung himself and he was only 25. I am still in distrss and it really hurts. How di I?

Answer 1

I am so very sorry. I'm sure you are in a lot of anguish. It takes a very long time to heal from something like this. Have you thought about seeing a grief counselor or joining a support group? Hugs for you, sweetie. My heart goes out to you.

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And please do not let anyone tell you it is your fault. It isn't and some people can be very unfeeling.

Answer 2

Please find a bereavemnet group where you can find comfort from people who truly know the intensity of pain you are going through. It is unfortunate but people who have not experienced this first hand just do not know what to do with this. The people in your life your family and friends will try to be supportive and that is good but they have no idea and will constantly say the wrong thing and not even realize it. When I had a still birth (no comparision intended here) my friends tried to rally. The would say horrbly insensitive things that they really I am sure now did not even realize. One showed up drunk at the hospital because he obviously couldn't handle the situation , (like I could!) Another girlfriend suggest do not worry "this happens all the time" can you imagine. And another came in and said I can't stay long, I hate hospitals. How comforting indeed. So, please attempt to get help. You are reaching out here a wonderful and productive thing you have done already. Know this is a process that will not happen overnight. It will take time. Know that feeling better eventually does not mean that you will never stop loving your son it just means there is acceptance and that you can not change what he decided to do. Know that you need to talk to others who know as you will torture yourself with "what ifs" if you do not. Please reach out to people. Right now it is so easy to become isolated and to try not to deal with the pain. It will be with you until you deal with it. I became very self destructuve and did everything I could to forget. It did not become bearable or livable until I faced it and addressed the stages of grief I needed to. In my prayers. I am so sorry.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry but i can relate. I had a friend kill himself and i never understood why he seemed like a normal kid he died in december and its july and its still hurts my friend was only 18 when he died and i know how you are feeling but trust time its true what they say time heals all wounds and i know its sounds cliche but give it time the hurt and the pain will never fully go away he was your son and you still love him now that hes gone and thats never gonna change but it will hurt less and less as time goes on and you can get back to your life and just remember he loves you and he wants you to be happy

Answer 4

I'm really sorry for your loss. There is no greater emotional pain than when a parent loses a child. With suicide, the pain must be intensified. But you must come to grips with your loss. You may want to consider getting grief counseling from a minister, priest, rabbi, psychologist, or therapist. Grief counseling can help you deal with your pain and help you move on with your life. More importantly it can help you to enjoy life, only if you are willing to take the steps needed to overcome such a loss. If you do not want to do this, you can join a support group for people who've lost loved ones to suicide. Start by looking in the phonebook and getting recommendations from friends, family, or your doctor. Again I want to send my deepest condolences and hope that counseling or a support group, or whatever therapy you may choose, will help you. Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm very sorry for your loss.your son was in a lot of pain and just couldn't find any other way to end his pain.i don't know you or your son but i can tell you ultimately no one can stop anyone intent on taking their own life.the only thing you can do is take your time and go through the grieving process,join a support group and most important of all be kind to yourself so that you go on.i don't think your son would have wanted any less for you.

Answer 6

I saw that there were no other answers and I'm sorry for that. I was hoping to read some profound revelation that would somehow help you. I could never pretend to know the pain you are feeling. So I don't really have an answer except to tell you that my heart is broken for you, and you will be in my prayers. I believe that you have questions that only a higher power could answer. Maybe you are too angry with Him to ask. I don't think He would blame you. Nor would I. So while I don't have an answer, please know that you are cared about. I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

I share how you felt. I buried an 11 yr old boy who hanged himself 3 months ago. It was a traumatic experience for everyone. There was no autopsy done. Hence, there were a lot of speculations. You need to confide with close family and friends to overcome this period of time. There will always be the lingering questions, but find peace in God. He will give you peace that will surpass all understanding.

Answer 8

It is so important that you seek counseling to support you through this. The pain won't go away by itself. You deserve it. I read the posting that said that sometimes suicide is a parents fault. Suicide is a choice. You did not choose this for your child. He chose this for himself. Suicide is not a 'fault' situation. It is a path that some choose to end the pain they are in. It leaves survivors suffering the loss of those they loved. Hopefully you can take some comfort knowing that he is now happy & at peace. Please help yourself & seek some help getting through this.

Answer 9

Oh I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you considered joining a support group for people who are grieving? It might help if you talked out your problems with people who are going through the same thing you are. It might be a good idea to seek counciling too. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope this helps. Take care.

Answer 10

first i gotta say---
Angel could you BE more tactless????? God help us all if you ever try to go into a helping profession where basic human emotion is needed. go play in traffic
Now, i absolutely cannot imagine burying my child. It is critical that you have support---spouse, other family, friends etc. AND a grief counselor. A therapist who specifically deals with the issues of grieving is going to be in a better position to help you learn how to cope than a general therapist would. Some of your larger cities have grief centers---look in your yellow pages.
please allow people to help you, you need support and time to learn how to function again. Best wishes----deepest sympathies