My roommate used to date a good friend of mine. I am close to both of them. My roommate just found out she is pregnant by my friend. She does want to have the baby and plans to get an abortion. She asked me to go with her but I dont believe in abortion so I said no. She called me judgemental and hasnt spoken to me. The real problem is that she hasnt told my friend what she plans to do or that she is even pregnant. She is going to kill his baby without telling him. I think he has the right to know but she says it none of my business and to stay out of it. Doesnt he have the right to know?? It is half his kid too. What should I do?????
2007-07-18 11:59:35 · 10 answers · asked by Holly M 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
she obviously has no morals what so ever. Tell your friend so he can stop the abortion (if he chooses) before its too late.
2007-07-18 12:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, welcome to being an adult, and facing problems that have no solution.
Despite the probable advice here to the contrary, you do not have to abandon your beliefs and participate in her decision. However, this will never be repaired between you. She will always believe you should have supported her, and you'll never be able to fake that.
As far as telling anyone about it, there's nothing to be gained by that for anyone.
She's not breaking any laws, but you don't have to participate, but the fact is that your friendship is over.
Get a new roommate and move on with your life. I can't think of anything productive you can say to her, although explaining the move with "Hey, you're aborting your child, so I'm aborting YOU" is tempting.
Just get a new roommate and leave it at that. There's no profit in doing anything else.
2007-07-18 19:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is none of your business.
Your room mate sought your support, you are unable to give it for your own reasons.
That's it.
If the 'father' wanted in on this, he would already know about the pregnancy and what your room mate is doing, because he would be involved in her life and helping her make these type decisions.
He isn't, and neither should you be.
Whatever the outcome, it does not sound as though you two are going to work out as room mates.
I'd be looking for someone else to share with.
2007-07-18 19:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by thing55000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to know, technically, but, at this stage of the game he can do exactly nothing if she wants an abortion. There's no legal way to FORCE her to carry the child to term.
As to what you should do, you need to stay out of it. You can do nothing to prevent it if that's what she wants to do and you are imposing your beliefs on her. You don't have to be a part of it, but you have, in fact, judged her.
2007-07-18 19:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by Atavacron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-18 19:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has the right to know. If she doesnt want the baby. He might. She would be telling him if she planned on keeping the baby and wanted childsupport out of him. I think it should go both ways!!!
2007-07-18 19:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by behold_mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time somebody you know asks you to go with them when they are going to have any kind of a scary/traumatic medical procedure done, tell them yes and don't be so mean.
Maybe the guy does have a right to know, but I don't think it's your place to tell him.
2007-07-18 19:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has a right to know...and if he does know ---he can get a court injunction to stop her if he can prove that he is gonna raise the child....but good luck with this.
either way (tell or don't tell) it's on your head and on you conscious.
i think I would hurry up and tell your friend...then step away...
say to him "i really value both of your friendships...but i just thought you need to know....."
he can do with the info what ever he wants....
and why did she tell you ---i am sure she intended this to get back to him.
good luck
2007-07-18 19:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Blue October 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"What should I do?????"
Ask the Supreme Court why a man can be forced to support a child he doesn't want yet can't stop a woman from killing a child he does want but she doesn't.
2007-07-18 19:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lavrenti Beria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just shutup about it, its not your baby, if you want to tell someone about a kid get knocked up yourself.
2007-07-18 20:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by jovan kambell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋