Is It Worth It?

Question

I've been with this guy for 2 years and 4 months. He's a great guy, good provider, has his moments where he's funny and charming and what not...but those moments are few and far between and most of the time, I feel like I'm in a relationship with a 4 year old. He's also very needy and clingy, and I'm not that type of girl...I need my space and time for myself. And just today, I had my foot hanging off of the side of the couch, and he grabbed it and BIT my Achilles Tendon (which I already have problems with)....Problem is, I really do love him and I don't want to hurt him. What to do?

Answer 1

Then you need to talk to him about this.

If you love him, then you'll be honest with him. Relationships aren't just about not hurting the other, it's being real. If you aren't happy with the relationship, then you need to let him know that you're not.

In the end, you need to decide what's best for YOU. You've been in this relationship for over 2 years and has he changed? No. That's his personality. You can't just change that. This is your time to ask yourself if you want to bother staying with him or just start being friends. Be honest with YOURSELF.

Answer 2

After investing this much time in a relationship I would bring it to his attention that you don't want to be in a relationship where you feel like you have a child. Guys take longer to grow up so I would bring it to his attention to see if he changes and tries to be the man you need. If you have already done this I would tell him you just can't do this anymore. The main thing is if you leave really try to go on good terms because it hurts having someone that meant so much end up hating you.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

well i'm not a good relationship person but i always see my friend who is always in a tight relationship she has her bad and good moments but the one thing she always saids is that love isn't like an instant spark, you work your way up and you sacrifice, if you love that person enough, you should at least sacrifice a little to stay with them. i mean i can see right now that you are probably mad that he did that to your weak spot but just talk to him about it, it own't hurt. since hes needy and clingy, you need to tell him that there are times where he can't always depend on you, and that you have other people, such as yourself to worry about too. he doesn't need to be a 24/7-100% boyfriend, he should be a bestfriend too and understand you need your space. breaking up with someone for that reason is the easiest thing for people to do, but then you're going to realize thats a big mistake, so there wouldn't be any point in doing that, especially for a 2year 4 month relationship. its understandable if he is too stubborn-angry-violent person and you have no choice but to leave him. right now he just needs to sacrifice for you by just trying to act a little more mature. hope that helped =)

Answer 4

Do U LovE him or Are U just Used to him?! Sounds like U kind of know how it goes, and little things U have been letting go, pretty much...2 years is a long time now a days so, it is totally up to U what U really want to do!!
Good Luck!!

Answer 5

2 years? And you aren't married? If you have been together this long and aren't married and you don't see yourself getting married to him, get out of the relationship. Otherwise you are looking at a lifetime of being with a needy, clingy guy in which you say you aren't the type of girl for that.

Answer 6

Let him know the things that bother you.

Just think there are people out there that been married for 25 years, and Im sure they have there times where they want to throw a big whip cream pie in their lovers face!

Dont mean they dont love them any more,

Just dang it can I get my space!!!!!

It will be okay!

Take Care

Answer 7

Think of it this way....Is this the man you want to be married to, have kids with, and spend the rest of your life with???? If the answer is NO then get out now. Just tell him, look We had a good run, but I know we will never make it in the long run....If you do love him and know you will marry him one day then have a heart to heart with him about growing up and acting more mature!! He will change if he really loves you.

Good luck!

Answer 8

2 years?yeah tht's a long time but i would much rather break off a relationship of two years than to spend the rest of my days with a needy,clingy biter!i mean he has all the characteristics of a dog!

Answer 9

Why would he bite youu? That's kind of weird.

But you should tell him exactly what you wrote. If you love him, you shouldn't end it because of who he is -- if you really do love HIM, then you wouldn't even consider ending it because of some negative characteristics -- which everyone has. Hmm. .. .You can't just hide your feelings, you have to be honest in a relationship and tell him you need your space, and whatever else is on your mind. Don't just dump it on him though.

And if you can't handle someone at their worst -- you don't deserve them at their best. You'll work through it. Good luck with whatever you choose to doo. :o)

Answer 10

I'm kinda confused...you say you love him right?...but like is he not ur type?...atleast that's what i think by the way you kinda complain about needing your personal space and stuff...and i totally get you...maybe you just like him...you don't really love him because he's not ur type and you've been with him with so long...that ur used to him being there...maybe try going out one night...you know meeting new people and stuff...give yourself a break from him...and with his absense you'll get to understand and clear up your feelings for him and what to do.