its not just the luck part. i can predict the outcome of things that are random but can fall to one side or the other. bachgamon, i always roll the perfectly wrong thing. little things. i notice the not so bad stuff too. i call things good but its really stuff that didnt turn out as bad as it coulda. i sorta know the guy accross the street but really dont have any friends. i seem to give prople the creeps. i laugh at it though its depressing. lol, i have a sadistic guardian demon. no really, why? even others comment on the fiasco i am. please, no religion.
2007-07-18 10:47:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
things like this are all in your head, as soon as you convince yourself you can be lucky youll find that your luck will change.
p.s. lifes not about winning games, so who cares if you loose at backgammon?
2007-07-18 10:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by mrzwink 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a loser you are a winner. You have to be connected with those things about that make you different, special 99% of the world population are not in touch with themsellves they lie about everything about themselves from looks to wealth. You have a reality check issue you notice the things that other people like and you do a opposite or not so simmular thing and you preseve thatm as bad, thats not bad that's just your style you are unique
2007-07-18 17:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Charles A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is nonsense. There's no such thing as a "loser." You are whatever you decide you want to be and put your energy into being. If you want to be someone everyone pities, you can do that. If you want to be someone that scares people, you can do that. If you want to be someone who is always a day late and a dollar short, you can do that.
On the other hand, if you have a different picture of who you want to be, you can be that, too. It's all up to you.
It's a fact of human psychology that bad things that happen to us stick in our minds longer than good things. When you are sitting at a red light you think about how you ALWAYS get all the red lights. When it's green you just go through without thinking about it. So later when you remember it, you'll feel like you never got a green light, even though you did. It's the same with dice rolls....the bad ones stick in our memories much more than the good ones.
What you need to do is change your thinking. Stop reveling in your chosen "poor me" identity, and start acting like the person you want to be. Start THINKING of yourself as the person you want to be. If you want friends, think of yourself as someone who has a lot to offer others. Go out and find other people and give them what they seem to need, and they'll like you. Be willing to share your strengths with them without fear of being judged, and they'll feel comfortable with you. Get a hobby or something that interests you and put your energies into being the best you can at it.
It's very very easy to carve out your niche in life as the "born loser," the "person who would have been someone IF ONLY." There are a LOT of adults who spend their entire lives trapped in that mindset. It's a shame, but it's their choice.
Always remember if you want to be happy, you can. People do what they want to do, and if you aren't doing something, it's because you don't really want to! I know that sounds harsh, but it's really true.
Soooo.......stop thinking of yourself as a "fiasco." Stop focusing on yourself so much..the "I'm a loser" thing is just another form of self-centeredness. It's the other side of the "I'm the greatest" coin. You're just a person...better than some, not as good as others. Just like everyone else.
So stop beating yourself up, focus on your strengths, and get out there and share yourself with others. As soon as you choose to be a happy, successful person, it will start to happen.
2007-07-18 17:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anne M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make sure that you arent judgeing yourself by unreasonable standards.
You should concentrate at becoming really good at something, such as a craft, or cooking something or a job and allow yourself the time to aquire that skill.
Then you can say with pride, `I might be an asshole but at least I can do x brilliantly`
2007-07-18 18:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all in your attitude. You look at everything that happens with negativity, until you stop that mind set, things will continue to be bleak for you. Choose to find the positive, refuse to dwell on the negative aspect of any given situation, and things will turn around.
2007-07-18 17:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story, the exact reason why you're a loser.lmao
Note:Yes it can be change...but the change starts from the mind.The bible says be ye transformed my the renewing of your mind....most people have know idea how powerful that statement is.If you sincerely want change you can...you have to have different mind setting.
2007-07-18 17:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to channel your energies in a posiive direction through Metaphysics. Look into it. It works for me!
2007-07-18 17:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cisco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its genetically determined. Theres not much you can do about it.
2007-07-18 17:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by dpepperdrinker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋