define what is a "guilting" statement and why would you or others make statements to cause guilt?

Answer 1

quilt can , like most things, be positive or negative, a quilting statement would be one that makes someone feel responsible for an action or lack of, and impress on them what impact it had on you
if a person doesnt see what they have done, and the impact of it, doesnt seem to feel responsible, or sorry, then a quilting statement would be more appropriate
this is only true if they have directly done something negative towards you, not just because what they have done /or lack of action is something you dont like,
for example, my daughter leaves a shared bathroom a mess, its one thing to emphasis that shared rooms should be maintained in a neat fashion, it another to make her feel guilty about it if it interrupts my composure in getting ready for work, i have let her know this before, and she profits from my working, especially more then just what a parent would provide (food , shelter etc) , if it has upset my day
the same applies if i come in from a long day and want a peaceful, relaxing bath,
she is not responsible for my inability to be organized or relaxed in a messy bathroom, nor for my working long hours, but if she wants the extra perks from it, she should do her part, and feel quilty if she doesnt
and also, when mom is not relaxed enough to get the wallet or go to the bank, and she is upset she doesnt have that extra money, she should apply quilt to herself for her situation!

Answer 2

Misery loves company. This applies in some guilt situations. Others who cause guilt believe that it is a good way to get something done. For example (this is a minor thing):

Mom: Why didn't you put away the dishes? You've let me down.

Kid: *sniff* I'm sorry Mom. I'll put the dishes away. *sniff*

And a guilting statement is something said to cause guilt.

Answer 3

I don't think I've ever heard of a guilting statement but I think I know what you mean, something like "Oh don't worry about me...I'll be ok..." spoken with a sigh. My mother is the queen of guilt. Pack your bags, your going on a guilt trip! She tried to prevent me from going to Europe, tried to stop me from buying a house saying she'd die without me and that sort of thing...No pressure!

Negative people like to manipulate others & make them feel bad when they won't do their bidding.

I suppose I have played the guilt card a couple of times (a bad habit picked up from Mom no doubt!) but I'm not proud of it!

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Answer 4

a guilting statement is a statement that makes someone feel guilty. many people make guilting statements either unintentionally, to make a person feel miserable, or to inspire the person to change his way of acting or thinking

Answer 5

a statement made to cause guilt upon a person? sounds about right to me... people could use them against other people to make them think about what they've done, like a parent who's child hit another kid instead of going nuts on the kid he/she could say "look at what you've done, you've made him cry.". Another reason could be a better form of punishment like "I can't believe you did that. That's so mean." and of course to get what you want like "You know mom, I miss us hanging out you never have time for me anymore, all the only reason i suggested we go shopping was so that we could BOND" (am i this obvious!? hahahahaha)

Answer 6

I'm 38, worked in a law firm for 10 years, never hear of the word "guilting."

I would expect the whom ever made up the word didn't know the word "incriminating."

I wouldn't use it. I'd stick with incriminating.