how can i get over this problem?

Question

okay @ school i always end up not acting like myself and people judge me badly for it, how can i really show them my true personality.....idk why this happens, does anyone know how 2 help me?

Answer 1

I think the whole idea of not being yourself is because you're trying to hard to be what you think others want you to be. Why not just try being yourself for a change? There's no point in putting on an act to impress other people. It's phoney, and people see right through it. Just be yourself, or show them your true personality, as you put it. You don't have to agree with what everyone says if you have an opinion that differs. You don't have to dress, act, or go places like the others, just to be accepted. If people can't accept you on your own merits, then they don't deserve to have you as a friend. "To thine own self be true", as the saying goes. Good luck!

Answer 2

You may be under subtle prompts and reinforcement at school which don't exist in other places.

When you are at school and you don't act like yourself is there someone laughing with you? Do your friends goof around first?

You might want to write yourself a letter describing how you want to act when you are at school and in what class, etc. Then when you are at school, in the class, etc. open the letter and read it. This will remind you of how you want to act. It might make a small difference (a self-prompt basically).

However, if your friends are encouraging you to clown around, and laugh when you make jokes, etc. then you need to start realizing that its not helping you. You might want to write with this letter the problem of people judging you badly, and read that before and during class when you goof off.

Try to think of ways to act like your true self and make an effort to do that *instead* of goofing off (or whatever it is you do). When you act like your real self you'll get attention, positive attention, and people will judge you better.

It might also help if you find someone who acts like the way you really are, but don't act at school. Sit next to them so you can see them doing what you would be doing. They would be "prompting" you to act like yourself and not like how you don't want to act.

If it feels like you aren't making progress doing these things you can try counting them, but this might work without counting how many times things go well, etc.

Another thing you can do is talk to people about how you would like to act and how people judge you badly. Just talking about things can help to motivate you to change them and give you insight into what is happening that you want to change.

Good luck.

Answer 3

you have to go home take a piece of paper, decorate it in order not to make your exercise boring-
write down some things that depress you
things that you really dont like
is anything upset you
what makes you happy
why do people smile
whats your favorite food
fruit
do you like meeting people
what are your reasons for not doing good things
are you a people person
if you dont smiles a lot, what is your reason
maybe this will helps

Answer 4

If the way you're acting now isn't working for you then what do you have to lose to be yourself? Try it and let your real personality shine, you'll feel a lot better.
Good luck dear.

Answer 5

show the real you give people stuff an they will stop judgeing you .and give your teacher a hug every day use your manners.

Answer 6

i know what u mean..just be confident about urself..don't care what anyone else thinks of u. pretend your confident and soon you will be..just try and be urself good luck hpe it works out;)X

Answer 7

uh,be yourself.If they like you,good for them.If they don't,well who cares.They can go to hell