they have no right to judge me this way!?

Question

some of the guys in my class are calling me flat(chested) and i dont know what to say back to them after that! im not even flat! please dont tell me to ignore them because iv been doing that for months and im not going to tell on them because theres no one to tell and it would be embarrassing. im not willing to tattle tale even though its annoying. every time they say it its like a punch to the stomach. please help

wow, so many great answers. thank you all so much, i love you! iv got alot of great comebacks, thx. keep em coming!

oh and some things id like to clear up:
-im like 100% certain they dont like me
-its not only when guys are around

Answer 1

As long as they see it upsets you they will keep it up and nothing you can say will change them. Your only recourse is to say and do nothing. Remember though, those with small minds also often have other small things.

Answer 2

There is no easy solution to this type of situation, people can be quite ruthless. They pick on you because they know that it bothers you. It bothers you because everyone wants to fit in and feel accepted, hopefully as we are. I can promise you that this too will pass. What you need to try and understand that these boys act out because they have low self esteems and they think that bringing others down will some how elevate them up. You just seem to be an easy target because they know that there is really nothing that you can do. I know that what other people think does matter to you but do you really care what these particular boys think? they pick on you about one of the things that you can not change. So since you can not change the size of your chest then you need to concentrate on something that you can change. So just keep in mind that you are a beautiful person just the way you are. Not everyone may recognize that fact but what is important is that you know it. Try not to be concerned about what a few small minded boys think and surround yourself with those who do accept you for you. Also try not to judge those immature boys because they too are who they are they just don't know any better, they may never learn but you can be a better person knowing that you and you alone are the one who decides what bothers you or not. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Wink and tell them "All you need is a handful." They'll be so shocked and amused they'll probably fall off their chairs laughing.

Guys generally tease to get a reaction out of somebody, even if that reaction is just the unhappy look in your eye as you ignore them (hiding your reaction is in itself a reaction). So it's usually more effective to let them see that your reaction is very mild, and that they have little influence over your state of mind.

I'm not an advocate of fighting fire with fire or stooping to their level, but there are a few subtle tricks that can mess with their minds. One is to flick your gaze to their hairline when they talk to you, as if you're distracted by some odd object they have stuck in their hair. Look like you're trying to repress a grin or grimace of disgust at whatever it is - if done cleverly, this can really mess with somebody's mind.

Another trick is to find a friend in that class, and whisper or signal to them mocking the size of the boy's male organ (such as holding up a pinkie finger to imitate the relatively small size). You needn't reveal how or where you heard this information - it's generally more intimidating if you don't, and hint that this is public information, ALL the girls are aware of his shortcomings, as if it's scrawled up in the girl's bathroom or locker room.

This sort of retaliation won't end their teasing, but it will at least put you on even footing.

I'd go ahead and report it to a teacher, though - it's only tattling or snitching if you're doing it to gain some selfish benefit for yourself. What he is doing is actually sexual harassment, and you don't have to suffer through it. The very least you can ask is to be seated further away from these boys; the best you can get is landing all these boys in hot water and having the deans and their parents give them a severe lecture.

Answer 4

I can relate. I was "flat chested" until after i had my baby.
You know, i was always told that they are picking on you because they like you. I can say this now, because I'm older, and now have more of a chest... but dont sweat it... if you can, make jokes about it... have fun with them teasing you...
I'm sure most people tease others because they like the negative reaction they get. So... instead of getting upset.. or ignoring them.... make a joke of it...
I've been told that i had mosquito bites as a chest... etc...
I found it was easier to deal with people when i joked back about it..And then they stoped teasing me all the time...Jsut try to think of something witty or silly i guess... It worked for me.. and i actually got a kick out of picking on myself!
How old are you anyway? Maybe in the future you will grow a bit...
Good Luck, and dont let the guys get to you.. cause that's what they like to see...

Answer 5

Hold your head high, although it may seem pretty hard. I know you don't want me to say this, but ignore them and DON'T give them the attention they want. If you ignore them for as long as they do it, they'll get bored and pick on someone else.

If you try this and they keep bothering you, tell the teacher- that's not tattling. They are bullying you, and you have a right to tell someone. You don't have to tell the person what they said--just that they were making fun of you.

Good luck!!!

Answer 6

even though it may be hard, the best thing to do in this situation is have lots of confidence. People are really intimidated by confidence. When they start making fun of you, tell them you are perfectly happy with your chest. Make sure you say it will the most confidence you have, and walk away from them. They will most definitely have something mean to say back to you, but you just smile, and let them know you like yourself and they will eventually find another victim to pick on. People only like teasing other people when they know it upsets them or they can get a reacting out of them.
Good luck, and remember you be you...and be happy with who you are!

Answer 7

Dear " N ", Please look into your family for reassurance...You will find that " flat-chested " is only a temporary situation, that can take a little time to mature! Ask the women of your family or just look at old photos of them at your age and see how they developed and REALize that You are already " ON YOUR WAY ". Boys are cruel and You must learn to ignore their words!
Eventually you will be the Girl that you Will Be! And exercise Will help, so...get busy!

Answer 8

You could be like Ok, alright, that' cool or something and eventually they might stop. Or you could stuff and when they say that be like Oh really? Or something. I dont know lol just throwing stuff out there. Oh if you threaten to tell the teacher about that they'll know they'd get in trouble for saying something like that so you could threaten them by telling a teacher. Or better yet next time you see their parents talk to them. Not necessarily about that but just so they think you are. Or you could say "Well rumor has it your balls are 2 inches" or if they play baseball or something you could say "So I heard from someone on your baseball team you're still using toddler cups" Haha hope it helps

Answer 9

Natasha, I am sorry that they are being cruel to you. There is no excuse for them to do that, but I believe that they are acting this way because other boys are around. I would talk to them individually. If your looking for a comeback I wouldn’t go that route as you would just be playing into them.

Of course if that doesn’t work there is always itching-powder...

Best wishes

Answer 10

Many people don't realize this but you can sue people for sexual harassment. And thats what it is sexual harassment. Tell a guidance counselor! You can tell her to tell the boys that a teacher overheard them. None of them have to find out that it was you who told. if you've been ignoring them andd it hasn't stopped then you need to involve someone else. (teacher guidance counselor, parent) I wish you luck and I hope you find a way to stop it. Bullying and Harassment really affect your life, your personality, and your grades, its okay to get help from someone!