i have a freinds that is gay and i think she is hitting one me and i still want to be her friend wat do i do??

Answer 1

maybe you just think she is hitting on you but if she really is just tell her you want be good friends not good lovers!LOL

Answer 2

You both need to know that the relationship can only ever be platonic. Simply tell her that you are NOT interested in any other kind of relationship. If she's a good friend she will understand and back off. No different than refusing a male friend who wants more of a relationship than you do, really. Perhaps you are giving her mixed messages and it's her way of trying to find out where she stands, or she doesn't realise that she is coming on a bit strong, and that her behaviour is making you uncomfortable.
If your friendship is strong enough you'll work it out!
I have gay and straight friends of both sexes and they all know I am just that, a FRIEND.

Answer 3

Have a conversation with her regarding what she is doing and how you feel about it. If you are not interested in her then let her know that. Let her know that you would like to maintain the friendship if she is ok with that. Just keep in mind that it takes both of you to maintain the friendship and she is entitled to not want to or to not be able to. She may feel that she cannot be your friend when she wants more than that from you. Similar to how men & women are with each other. And know that, that can be very difficult. If she doesn't think she handle the friendship and have those feelings for you then respect that and move on.
If you guys are meant to stay friends, it will happen but in its own time.

Answer 4

Make it very clear that you are not and that she needs to leave you alone. Remind her that you have accepted her for who she is and that you respect her and her right to choose, even though it is not the same lifestyle you have chosen. In turn she needs to show you the same acceptance and respect. You will not try to convince her that she is straight, but she needs to stop trying to convince you that you are gay.

Friends respect each other, you may not always agree, but you do show mutual respect for each other. If you can't do that, then you should not be friends. I would tell her that.

I know you would be heartbroken to loose a friend, but a friendship cannot last if respect does not exsist.

Answer 5

first of all don't be mean about it. Have you ever had a guy friend that you liked and flirted with? Well this is kind of the same situation to her. Take her aside and ask her not to hit on you becasue it makes you uncomfortable and you just want to be friends. Chances are the flirting will stop.

Answer 6

You definitely don't need to "find a new friend". Ask her what's up--is she interested in you in a romantic way? If she doesnt say much or says no, say, well, when you do ____ or say _____ it makes me think that. I want you to be happy and I want us to stay friends so I just want to make sure you're cool with us just being friends. Tell her you are straight and that you're supportive of her but at the same time you don't want to take your relationship to that level. Make sure she knows it isn't because you aren't attracted to HER--just that you aren't attracted to WOMEN.
And you should be totally FLATTERED that she might be into you, even though you are straight.
Just be honest and genuine with her.

Answer 7

talk to her about it. tell her you like being friends with her but you do not want to be involved romantically. tell her how it makes you feel. it seems to be making you uncomfortable and consider not being friends, so if that is the case tell her that. hopefully she will realize that she does not want to lose your friendship and respect your feelings and wishes. perhaps she thinks it is acceptable and that is how she is with many females/ female friends, so she needs you to tell her that it is not acceptable in your friendship. this could be the case if most of her friends are gay/lesbian. how are you around cute guys especially if you are single? i do not know about you but i think most heterosexual girls will be flirty. i think it is natural for people to hit on/flirt with members of the sex they are attracted to. would seem that it may be true for gay/lesbian people too. (sorry if i misread/misunderstood your question and you are gay/lesbian but just not interested in her.)

(note - i am not lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgendered so i am not speaking from a first hand perspective. however, i have a lot of empathy for those who experience hatred, judgement, ridicule, and prejudice - and those who are of other sexual orientation/preference seem to face a lot of this.)

Answer 8

Tell her you're not interested in her that way at all & friendship is all you're willing to offer & if she continues with the come ons thenyou won't feel comfortable & the friendship will have to come to an end

Answer 9

Don't be rude, but simply ask her. Let her know that it makes you feel uncomfortable when she does this. Also tell her that you like her as a friend and don't want to loose her friendship. If she is a true friend she will understand, if not, then nothing lost and move on.

Answer 10

If she does that again, nicely but firmly tell her that you like her as a friend an only as a friend. She'll get the message, but if she doesn't stop, maybe you should find a new friend.

Answer 11

Tell her you're not interested in her in that way and hope she still wants to be your friend even though you guys won't be together. It all depends on what type of person she is, this could go either way.