Am I freaking out over nothing?

Question

My son will be starting kidnergarten in three weeks and they changed it to where he has to go all day, every day. He has never been to pre-school or daycare. I am not worried about him doing bad in school because he pretty much knows everything they need to know by the time kidnergarten is over. I am just completely freaking out about him staying all day. I feel like I am being irrational but we are just so close and I know it's probably just me not wanting him to grow up. What are some ways that I can just calm down and not worry about every bad thing that could possibly happen to him?

Here's what makes it worse, I am having another baby on Monday so you would think that I wouldn't be freaking out but I was a single mom with him and for the most part it's always been just me and him. I also have two dogs, a cat, and a stepson. I am being ridiculous. I know.

Answer 1

let him grow mom.... he will love being w/ the other kids!
Kindergarten... come on-- it's ABC 123- games & coloring - fingerpainting-- learning to socialize w/ other children his age.. Just calm yourself--(you are more afraid than he is) don't let him know how freaked out you are!! That is not healthy for him.. Just let your child spread those wings a bit... it WILL be ok..

Answer 2

Your reaction is typical of all mothers who send a child to school for the first time. It's traumatic for both the mom and her child to be separated, even for a short time. But don't fret too much about it, because when your son enters first grade, he will be gone for the whole day, which will be the pattern of his life from grade one until he goes to college. Of course by that time, you'll both be used to it, and in fact, you will look forward to the peace and quiet of your home when he's in school all day. Just think how you'll be able to relax and enjoy a cup of coffee or a favorite TV serial, without constant interruptions. You can go shopping, visit a friend or neighbor, have a leisurely lunch, get a manicure and a hairdo, go to the spa, spend the afternoon reading or working in your garden. You can't do all those things when you have a little boy constantly demanding your attention. Your baby is growing up now, mom, and you have to let him make that transition. When he gets home from school with exciting things to tell you, you can give him a great big hug, and guess what? You'll appreciate him all the more. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and he's always going to be coming back home to mom! (even when he's fully grown -- trust me!) Good luck!

Answer 3

Dont' freak out.
Kid's do need time by themselves to learn things on their own.
It's part of life.
Now I can understand why you are freaking out but don't.
You can meet the teacher and make sure that your son will be alright, and you can keep in contact with his teacher to make sure he is okay in school.
Facing these things can be a really big challenge and can be freightful but these are the things in life that you have to face.
what about next year when he has to go to 1st grade?
Your son will do fine, plus if he has never been to pre-school or daycare he should have a blast starting kindergarten!

Answer 4

u need to turn this nervousness into excitement! u are finally able to have some personal "me" time. you get to expand your roles as mommy to now tutor mommy. help with homework, engage him in socializing with other children, learning new things, and most of all growing up. do u have any other children or is he your only child? i know this sounds weird but have u considered getting a puppy? it might pre occupy you and give u another responsibility while ur sons at kindergarden. it would be another reason to go on walks and excersise. i think u need to get some goals for yourself. take a class at the university, pick up a part time job. other things that will keep you going, your son going to kindergarden should make u feel excited to accomplish more things for yourself. be optimistic, good luck!

Answer 5

I think as a parent you will always want the best for your child, and your always concerned for their well being.

My mom has recently dealt with my brother, leaving home or i..e the nest. I moved out about 2 years ago so its finally real to her. Now its dad and her, and its the same with my in-laws it just them now.

I know I worried a lot for my brother being on his own, and I wanted to make sure he is ok, eating ok ect. When I voiced my concern to my mom and was like, mom do you think he is ok, maybe he should go back home, ect ect

She said to me, he needs to learn and grow, we cannot shield him from everything in life. He will become stronger by experiencing life. I realize now, my brother is doing fine he is doing well at his job, and has his own apartment and is living his life; he is happy.

He just need to have faith in them, and believe that they can be strong.

Answer 6

thinking about how many cute little friends he'll make and how you won't have to be responsible for him for longer and can take some 'me-time'. also, statistically, he might get a nosebleed sometime before he graduates (from elementary), but that's about the worst that wil happen. don't worry. he's being attended to by an adult at all times and he's having fun. :)

Answer 7

you could try having lunch with him the first few days (just until you are calm about the situation). it might sound crazy but thats how my mom got over me going to school.

Answer 8

you will worry, there is likely no way to prevent that. but for heaven's sake, don't let him know you are worried. don't mar the experience for him because you have trouble letting go.