do u think it is ok to marry your second cousin?

Question

what is the % that the child could have problems if they did decide to have kids?because i have a 2nd cuz and i realy like her alot ive never felt this way about any1 i think i love her...

i realy like her plz understand and dont leave horrible messages...

Answer 1

Not acceptable. And if you had children you are looking at mutation of genes. The baby could be deformed etc. You wrote you think you love her. If that is true then drop this idea.

Answer 2

Hi....To be honest, 'no' it wouldn't be in your best interest to marry your second cousin. For one reason this would be considered morally wrong because it's considered incest. Marrying one inside of the family. This might even be considered as a 'mortal' sin against Gods laws. You need to let your feelings for this cousin 'go' and just be relatives and good friends. Also another issue would be problems arising if you had children together and being second cousins. I'm talking about medical issues that sometimes happens through generations of diseases or mental issues. This could be a conflict. Sometimes illnesses or diseases skip a generation and with the both of you being relatives this could be a problem. But if this cousin was in the family due to a marriage and not biological then this issue shouldn't arise. If this cousin is a biological member of the immediate family such as your dad or mothers sister or brother's child then you would have this problem. But never the less, this is an immoral situation and in my opinion shouldn't take place. But this is your decision and your cousins. No one has the right to tell you what to do as long as you are of legal age. Please think about your decision and jot down the pro's and con's on the matter. It might place a different perspective on your decision. Hope this has helped. Have a great day!

Answer 3

The percentage rate of birth defects among second cousins is the same as non-related couples (2-3%). First cousins have a 4-6% chance of birth defects.

Marriages between 2nd cousins are legal throughout North America and Europe. In fact, marriage between 1st cousins is legal throughout Europe, Canada, Mexico and over 1/2 of the states in the USA.

Answer 4

Well.......I'm Muslim and in MOST of the Muslim world, it is allowed to marry your first, second, third, etc, cousin. In fact, some people PREFER to stay within the family. And, all the kids are fine and normal. All this hype about birth defects and having weird children are just folklore and old wive's tales.

I mean, here in the US, you have men marrying men, women marrying women, and people changing their gender! If you think marrying your COUSIN in gross......then WHY in the world do people here in the US allow and ACCEPT all these other types of relationships??? Would you go and tell a gay guy that his relationship IS GROSS??? Come on America, grow up!

If you love her and you think she feels the same way for you, then go for it! :)

Answer 5

well i knw ppl that have married to there family memebers im not quite sure if there second cousin but there kids came out adorable but on the other hand i knw a couple that was 1st cousins and there children are little ppl... basically u have to look at the family tree and see what types of jeans they have.. im sorry i couldnt have been of more help!

Answer 6

No, I don't think it's okay to marry your second cousin....Not because of any health problems because you are second cousins through another bloodline so as long as you both consult with your physician, I don't think if you were to have a child toghether it would be crucial but, more for being moral..
There are so many girls out there that you can probably get a date with so why would you want to be with your cousin?? I strongly think you should really think about this because if you are thinking about marrying your cousin you may endure alot of problems you may not know how to deal with later....

Answer 7

It's legal (yes legal, as in allowed) in all US states, and many countries outside the US (even the Catholic church doesn't oppose it) so that should give you an idea of any genetic issues that are feared by such a combination...apparently none.

"In 26 out of 50 states in the United States, and most other countries, first cousins can marry. Second cousins, third cousins, first cousins once removed, and any other cousins except first cousins can marry in all 50 states and every country in the world. "

Answer 8

Honestly not a great idea. You may love her and you may be willing to deal with other peoples criticism but what of your child? Kids are so mean now a days.

Answer 9

This is something you should see a geneticist about. There's not a "percent" that's the same for everyone. The problem would be if you carry a similar genetic defect that can be passed on. A genetic counselor can test you both and let you know your risks.

Answer 10

From: Muslimgirl:

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Well.......I'm Muslim and in MOST of the Muslim world, it is allowed to marry your first, second, third, etc, cousin. In fact, some people PREFER to stay within the family. And, all the kids are fine and normal. All this hype about birth defects and having weird children are just folklore and old wive's tales.

If you love her and you think she feels the same way for you, then go for it! :)
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That explains ALOT about the middle east - now doesn't it.

As for the OP - if it works out, go ahead. 2nd cousins are no big deal. Now if you're talking 1st cousins (or brother or sisters) then its no good - unless of course you move to West Virginia first - then its O.K.