why is it so unfair for gay people always? i hate being gay!!!?

Question

why was i gay? what did i do to deserve this burden? i am 17 and i feel that my life is a disaster! i just want to die or maybe become mental, bcoz that way i wont have to face being gay anymore! i fee that being gay is a burden, coz every time i pass by people look at me and they talk about me, and i hate that! on top of that it is not easy to find love in the gay community! i get straihght guys who just want my money and my other things(coz i have to admit i am from a rich family) so most straight guys use me. i always have crushes on straight people who dont even care that i exist. i try to hate these guys thinking that it will help, but it does not, it just makes me love them even more! i try to look straight, coz i have come out 2 almost everybody except my family! it always hurts to see my friends at school with their boyfriends! its easy for them to get guys coz they r straight, right? i hate life, i hate being a teenager!
why am i gay? i hate myself! iam desperate,useless...

Answer 1

My poor poor little one.....be calm....you need a strong support system. There are resources out there, believe it or not. I think that at one time or another, many of us have felt as you do now. It will pass. I promise. You need to firstly, forget what anyone else says.....listen to your heart...that's what matters......then...learn to love you.....
You are a wonderful special person. No one else in the world is just like you. You deserve love. You are worthy. Be strong. It takes years to build up a tuff skin, and sometimes that even get torn.
You are gay because you are. We don't have all of the answers, yet. We are working on it. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. It is SO hard to be gay. No one really understands, but us.
Just know that you are not alone. There are those of us here that love and care about you. Be Strong. We have your back, ok? Things are never really as bad as we make them out to be, I know from personal experience.
You have a friend here in me. I promise. If you need additional chats, email me.

Answer 2

Well okay first just calm down.Alright do that first. Second it's not the fact that u hate being gay its the fact that everyone who knows your gay uses u to get what they want and thats really messed up.Ur not useless third and they should never have used u forth of all.Don't hate urself it's not u it's them.It's hard to make assumpitions on who's gay and who's not.I k but u have to stop saying it's ur fault cuz they shouldn't have used u.Ur a human being.Well anyway if u k there straight then maybe u shouldn't try to date or crush on them becuz in the end ur just going to get used/hurt agian.I k its tough being a teenager to especially a gay one but in time ur wounds will heal.Just stop saying ur useless becuz ur not.It's not becuz ur gay u just havent found the one and in time u will and u will feel good about urself and about being the way u are.Trust me feeling that way will only make it worst.

Hope that helps.Hope your problems get better.Good Luck.

Answer 3

There are always going to be haters. Its just life. You can either learn to ignore them or you can constantly bump heads with them. I myself prefer to avoid contact with them. But i see nothing wrong with cleaning someones clock if they call you a fag. I'm from a small Kansas town so i know all about the hateful things people can do. You can always do what I did. I left town right after i graduated and started a new life for myself. Life is much easier now. Just keep your head up and don't let people get you down. Even when someone gets you don't keep your head up and pretend nothing is wrong. Showing your bothered by hateful behavior is only an invite for more hateful behavior.

Answer 4

Just wait a few years. Being gay gets fun once you get out of hs and can get into the bars and stuff. Being gay is kind of fun. It's a fun culture and I find gay people to be a bit more mature than our striaght counterparts. Yeah it sucks when you fall for the straight people, but you can't get any one night stands knocked up. Just relax, 17 is the worst gay year in my opinion. All my guy friends had freak outs about being gay in that year. It's a thing.

Answer 5

Life is what you make it. You have to use the hand that you were dealt. Even straights have the same problems that you think you do. Learn to like yourself a little more. If you know that people are using you..don't let them. We are not all horrible people...there are some really wonderful GLBT people out here. You could easily be one of them.

Answer 6

I think you need a psychiatrist to talk about your problems, Why are you so caught up on what other ppl think or say about you. When I hold my girlfriends hand many ppl stare and make comments but instead of being mean I just wave and say HELLO (that makes them even more mad) lol :0) Get use to ppl making comments because its going to happened more often than you think… Stop hating and feeling sorry for yourself, stay focused on your school and worry about being gay in college …………

Answer 7

Hey look at the bright side when you go to college go to California and you should have many guys to choose from that don't know you have any money.

Your life isn't so bad you're just bored and need a new stomping grounds is all.
It's best to move away anyway I think, you leave your childhood baggage behind.
Smile now and say I can't wait.

Answer 8

I think it will get better for you when you are out of school. You may have to relocate to a more accepting community when you graduate high school/college.

You're unhappy because other people are making you unhappy. There's nothing wrong with you.

Find a local GBLT community in your area. You need some friends who will understand what you're going through.

http://www.hrc.org

Answer 9

i agree.
people definetly discriminate against gays. like making jokes and making fun. i think its a horrid thing to do, but cannot be stopped.
i would like to see the day when everyone can be accepted and liked just as they are.
please dont beat yourself up, im sure your a great person. its also good to have good friends to support you whenever people take advantage of you.
im sure that you will fing love out of highschool and college. when you get into the real world where people arent pricks, and im sure that because you have to go through **** now that you will have a better adult life.

Answer 10

I think you feel this way cuz ur a teen. I felt that way too when i was a teen and Iam straight. I think any one who's unpopular feels this way. "no one likes me, iam so ulgy." Don't worry ur fine. When you git older you'll feel different.