Friend in England is going through divorce with abusive husband but co-owns house with him. If her request for an occupation order gets denied, does she have any options for moving (ASAP) that can reasonable safeguard her credit? She can't get another mortgage until house is agreed to be sold, which her ex won't do, she could try to rent somewhere and stop paying her half of the mortgage...but then she'll lose the initial equity she put in (alone) and kill her credit rating... but if she just sues for the money, that process could take months and she just can't handle staying with her ex alone in the same house - she has a toddler as well. She's making around 30k so I doubt she'd qualify for any financial aid or subsidies or what not. Any advice greatly appreciated!
2007-07-18 07:35:09 · 5 answers · asked by LifeXplorer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this one is a hard one..
i think the best thing in this situation is to go to the police. she needs to let them know that her husband is abusive and she needs to get out of there right now..
after she does that she needs to look for somewhere to stay.. like an appt. DONT LET HIM KNOW WHERE.
after that, it'll be tough but if she doesnt want to ruin her credit.. mail her side of the payment to the co. like shes sposed to every month or what ever.. she'll have to pay that off in the mean time living in an appt paying for that..
but the number one thing here is go to the cops..
for your friends sake and her sake..
abuse is serious and should not be tolerated, she needs all the help she can get
good luck..
2007-07-18 07:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the abuse is ongoing, she may be able to find shelter for herself and the kid. Or she may be able to get a restraining order which would compel hubby to move out. Yes, she's jointly liable (each is jointly liable for the full mortgage payment, not half each), but there are some options. Might be wise to direct her to consult with the local Citizen's Advice Bureau.
2007-07-18 08:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ian S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her spose should go and she should have the house if she has a toddler tel yr friend to get advice its law if she has a child the spouse has to leave it all happened to my sister and soon as her daughter turnned 16 she had to put the house on the market because she no longer had a child in the laws eye. she got a injuction out on her husband witch he broke and ended up in prison the law is on yr friends side
2007-07-18 08:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by DIANNE E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should pick up a lesbian friend who is into weight lifting and body building to stay with her for a nominal fee.
2007-07-18 07:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She could try contacting this support group for women who have been abused by their spouses. They would have information on what she could do or contact.
http://www.womensaid.org.uk/?gclid=CJG71J7hsY0CFQGIlAoduWynuA
2007-07-18 07:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋