Help. My sister and mother mad at me!?

Question

I'm 20, I go to college, will be sophmore next year and go to university at city. I very care about good grades and also to make there connections. Currently I commute 30 miles which by train takes 1h-1h 30. I was willing to move out, get on campus housing, in May when it was pretty early. I told my mother about this and also older (30) sister when she was vising us. My father is often away from home bc he is truck driver. My sister convinced me to not take additional loan on housing and better to still save next year. So I agreed. But recently she moved in with 2 loud children. Our apartment is small and walls thin. I think now I got good reason to move out to get better of with college. So I sumbitted and then received by mail confirmation for waitlist. They saw that and now are upset that did not tell. I explained them that I wanna have good grades and get more involced in campus like community service with fraternity, on-campus job. If I get on-campus job then I can pay interest

while in school. But they simply do not want to hear that I am taking more loan on myself. Of course there are alternatives like cheaper off-campus housing for easier start I decided get on-campus. btw I will certainly apply for scholarships Now how to deal with them until I move? My mother tease that I move out only to go to parties or do bad things. But I am really serious about it. I do not want to deal with stress of getting not sleep at nigh because of crying and who knows what else.

Btw I am computer science major!

Answer 1

Here is my opinion...you are trying to do the best you can with your situation. Your mother is teasing you saying you just want to party and your sister is trying to convince you not to make the choices you are, yet she moved in with you and there are loud noisy children close.
Here is the thing...you gotta do what you gotta do...no one is going to stay up with you and do the overnight cram study sessions for tests...no one is going to help quiz you and review all your work to make sure you are doing the best work possible to turn in. Living with others is really hard, especially when they don't respect your consideration and feel everything is a joke.
You have to do good in the beginning of college and get those grades because later on when you are a Jun and Senior doing your major hardcore it is tough to pull up low grades from the previous years.
To be honest, you need to do a self check and decide what is the most important in your life right now, and future. If you lose out now, it is nearly impossible to bounce back.

Answer 2

It is definitley distracting being at home with screaming kids while you're trying to work for your degree - but dorm life is no picnic as far as studying is concerned either! I've tried both ways and each has its benefits and drawbacks. In one situation, you're going to be dealing with children playing and home-life distractions, in the other, you will have a roommate who may or may not be as serious about education as you are.

If you are determined to do the on-campus thing, it's probably best to tell your mother and sister that you've weighed out the pros and cons of each living situation and campus life just seems to be the best option. Student loans of course are ultimately yours to pay back so if you feel you can make the payments after graduation, nobody else really has a say. It's your life!

In the meantime, you can try studying at more quiet places (I always liked to do my homework at a local park's picnic area during the afternoon), and if you need internet access, most laptops have wi-fi and you can pick that up at almost any McDonald's or Starbucks, not to mention school libraries almost certainly are conducive to learning and have internet access. Tell your mother you've made up your mind, you feel you are doing what is best for you. She should come around.

Answer 3

Just explain to them that by getting more involved on campus you have more things to put on your resume when you start applying for jobs in the future (which is the reason why i live on campus). I would also mention how much of a hassle the commute is (an hour to an hour and a half is crazy) and that In the end it's your choice whether or not you want to live on campus since you are the one paying for it. Also to ease their anger tell them that you wanted to see if you could even get housing before you told them about it and you weren't trying to attack them you were just trying to make the best decision for you). Good luck :)

Answer 4

You need to move out.. Living at home with your mother and your sisters children isn't going to help you study. You should live on or closer to campus you can meet people and be involved in study groups and not have to deal with family drama.. However, you are going to college for a decent education and your parents should trust you and your choices.. That's part of being an adult.. It seems that just don't want you to leave them.. I think you should do it and in time they will forgive you.. Good luck

Answer 5

Does that imply if she abandons the trailer and strikes on, that your pals could have the means to place an end to the debt-accumulation? perhaps as awful because it is, a minimum of they're going to no longer be tied to her financially (not sure if i'm on the best music, so sorry if no longer). even nevertheless they have been abused and the rest, your mothers and dads probably nonetheless love their daughter, as you will, so i do no longer think of you're incorrect to wish to work out your sister especially situations. a minimum of your pals would understand she is wonderful in case you're in touch and it is unlike you may supply her funds. perhaps you ought to talk on your pals approximately it in some weeks so they understand which you intend to maintain in touch slightly. reliable luck.

Answer 6

If you want to move out to have a better environment for your studies, that's a good point, but please try to stay prudent on your own, and do not make more monetary liabilities, and most important of all, please do not do yourself "good guy gone bad" and become a party boy. Alright?

Answer 7

look it up