Breaking up over size?

Question

My boyfriend is great. Sweet, cute and funny!!! But I told myself long ago that I would never marry a man that was small below the waist, but I'm afraid I'm in love with him, and he wants to marry me.

How can I break this to him in a delicate way? Should I lie or tell the truth about why I'm ending the relationship?

The s*x is good. But I need to have fantastic s*x with my husband. Oral is not enough unfortunately.

The s*x is good. But I need to have fantastic s*x with my husband. Oral is not enough unfortunately.

I'm not shallow. I have the right to a partner that satisfies me.

I may not break up with him. I need to think.

Answer 1

Wow.. Lets just kill this guys ego so he'll never want to make love again...

Is being big REALLY that important to you? You obviously AREN'T in love with him if you'd dump him because of that.

Just tell him you two aren't compatible. Leave out the details.

EDIT* You need great sex? Go to a porn store and buy yourself the bullet.

I feel so bad for this poor guy. You're a horrible person. May God bless you with bad sex for the rest of your life.

EDIT** How would you feel if he told you that you were too fat.. or too thin & bony? Or lets pick something you can't change... Your eyes are too buggy or your butt is shaped funny and you have a thick mustache. Would your feelings be hurt to be judged like that? There is so much more to life than sex... If you've got a man that honestly loves you, treats you right and is loyal, you should NEVER give him up because guys like that can't be found easily. You might find a guy that better suits your needs but is it worth it if he isn't faithful or treats you badly.. or worse, doesn't want to even be with you? Re-evaluate what you think you want in a marriage or you're going to screw yourself.

Answer 2

Honestly, that is the most shallow thing I've ever heard. It's not the size it's how they use it. If he's not pleasing you in bed then you need to talk to him and work on it. But you cant just let a great guy go because he's not big. I don't think you really deserve a good guy since that's all your worried about. If your relationship is unsatisfying then I would just tell him that he's a great guy but you see him more as a friend. Don't tell him that you don't want to marry him b/c he's small. You would ruin him if you did that and would be worried about it for the rest of his life. Good Luck.

Answer 3

You really need to wake up and smell the coffee!!!

so your guy isn't huge?
so what!

There are so many ways to make love, and it is the way that you do it not the size that he is that really matters, I can't believe you even put that question on here!!

How do you know it's not you being too big?

would you be offended if he said that?

Get real.

so you find a stallion who beats the crap out of you, do you stay with him "because I promised myself I wouldn't marry a guy who was small below the waist" ?

You should be grateful the guy your with doesn't know how shallow a person you really are.

You make me sick!

Answer 4

Tell him you are not compatible, if you must. Don't tell him you love him but cannot marry him because his penis is too small. That would be cruel. Don't make up a lie either. That's also wrong. If the size does not fit the way you want, it's called incompatibility. There is no need to break it down any further than that.

Answer 5

Maybe your vagina is too big! He feels like he's doing it with a jar of mayonaisse and doesn't know how to tell you! LOL! Break up with him so he can find someone better! Than go buy yourself a giant dildo to celebrate! Shame on you! I hope you never fill that big hole! I thought it was physically impossible to have a vagina that is bigger than your heart!

Who knows, Maybe that's what you will get for a future husband. Maybe you will marry a "Big Dick" and wish you had married the nice guy!

Answer 6

If you love him and he pleases you sexually, then what is the big deal?!?!?!

Don't break up over size. Did you know that the place on the female genitals where 99% of the nerve endings are is within the first two inches. Two inches, that's it! The rest is dead space anyway. This is where women constantly think size really matters and is what gives you orgasms. It's not.

Answer 7

You break up with him but say nothing about his member. You risk putting him in a dire mental state with low self esteem and that is absolutely unnecessary to put someone through. He will find someone who his member is perfect for or doesn't matter IF you just use another excuse. This is one case a lie is definately justified.

If a big johnson is what you seek and matters for you to have fufilling sex, then you are making the right decision to move on. Sexual compatibility is a must.

I will say one word for your sexual future though. Kegel.

Answer 8

you are selfish, if he is all that and he is just a tad smaller than you would like, you are shallow. So you are telling me that you would rather be with a guy witha big p enis and beats the hell out of you, than a great guy who is all wonderful, but a tad small in the pants? you are crazy. Your priorities are all messed up, you shouldn't end it, the grass is not always greener or taller on the other side, IDIOT.

Answer 9

It's people like you that make guys so insecure about their size. You say you love him and the sex is good, but you want great sex. Is it that important for you to be with a guy who has a big ****? You should be ashamed of yourself. I hope you never find what your looking for . You will be wishing you had your bf with the lack of size back, and I hope he tells you to go to hell.

Answer 10

There is more to love (especially in a marriage) then just sex! You have a lot to learn, and you will realize one day when it's too late that the respect and love a man has for you is more better than what size his d*ck is!