I am in bad relationship and scared of leaving incase he finds me and my little girl and i have no money he controls everything i have lost touch with most of my family and friends because of him. I confided in a friend who told me i should go to one i wondered what they can help me with and waht refuges are like and how long am i likely to be in one? Thanks.
2007-07-18 05:19:28 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hiya i thought maybe u'd like to hear things from the childs view my mother was battered by my dad and our life was awful we went in2 a refuge with nothing but the clothes we had the refuge helped my mum with everything from housing to money although we had nothing i loved it cos my mum was better there than at home please phone these places for advice they are there to help we only stayed a month but i would have bn happy to stay a year ggod luck xx
2007-07-24 06:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by susan w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should approach your local housing office first as they organise emergency housing or a refuge or whatever and then you can get allocated a house eventually. I was there once myself and was in a refuge overnight which was very good and everyone was great. The next day I rang my parents just to see if they could help. They told me to come to them right away. I wasn't sure they would but they did. Do you think you might be able to get help like that from your family - afterall, they have their grandchild to consider and if you explained things to them? Whatever the case, find out first what your options are, wait until he is safely away to work and busy yourself getting important papers out of the house e.g passports and birth certificates. Give them to a friend to keep along with a few clothes - not so much he might notice but enough in case you have to leave with nothing. You never know, this time next year, you and your little one might be safe in your own home with your ex a nasty memory.
2007-07-22 10:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 years ago i was in the same position as you are in, i waited till my partner had gone 2 work than i fled, i went to another town 2 escape my x and ending up in a women's refuge, it was the most safest and most secure place i have ever been, i was lucky i was only in the refuge approx 8 weeks, but i had such a nice time, i made new friends and they really began to felt like family....its not only the help and support you receive while you are there but once you mange 2 get your own tenancy established again, the outreach support u get is fantastic, theres always sum1 there if you need em, , i think the women that work for those organizations are fantastic, they haven't just learned things out of a book, they've been in our positions and can understand everything you feel..... i urge any1 in the position 2 be able to go, to go immediately, i did and it changed both mine but also my children's lives, we've never been more happier or felt more safer, if you need 2 ask more pr just to talk , plz feel free 2 email me.... and sry kusainezumi you dont have 2 take classes but they are available if required, its completely your choice
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2016-04-27 22:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deuteronomy 33:27
The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms. He will drive out your enemy before you, saying, 'Destroy him!'
Find a Church. They will help you and the kids.
If you prefer A women's shelter, go there. They will assist you and your children.
Try even a family member that lives away from your home. Ask them for some help. Call the police if he threatens you. -You have to get the complaint filed so he will have a record. If you don't, he will just keep coming after you. If you are married, get a divorce. Place a restraining order on him.
-If it were me, I'd make a huge with drawl and flee with my baby to a trusted family member.
I will say a prayer for you and your Child(ren). May God be with you, always. -God Bless.
2007-07-23 08:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about a shelter for battered women, they are place where they do help you, counsel you and help you get back on your feet. Why not call one (they are usually in the phone book or the police could refer you to one) and get all the details? Also, the friend who suggested one to you is someone you confided in - maybe she already has some information to start with.
2007-07-25 12:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to have a valid ID.You need birth records for the two of you.You need to go to the police station.They will have to take you.There are rule at these places also.You can get help to relocate and job training.It depends on where you live on the different groups that can help you.Call United Way or the local hosp.and ask for the battered women's center closes to you.Good luck.
2007-07-25 12:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt actually works at one. She gave us a tour. Basically, you sit with a counselor and discuss your goals in life. Based on those, they will help you find a job, complete school if necessary, and some will actually offer a safe, educational environment for your child. They typically require you to take some classes of their own, which often involve childcare and goal-setting. If you are really worried about your safety, there are even some that are high on security. I may not know you that well, but please, you really sound like you need help. If you need help looking for one, feel free to email me.
Until then, have strength and know that you aren't alone.
May God be with you.
2007-07-18 06:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by kusainezumi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a shelter with your child, The peaple will help you get back on your feet again. Thay will even help you get into houseing if you want your own place. Ide save up as much money with out him knowing it and flee the house.
2007-07-24 12:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by loubell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask a women's refuge. Surely you can use a payphone outside the house?
2007-07-18 06:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by thunderintheheavens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋