Should I punish my son with diapers?

Question

My 12 year old son behaves like an immature toddler, and I've tried all types of punishments. I thought that if he wants to behave like an immature toddler, why not dress him like one?
So, do you think I should punish him by putting diapers on him, or what else can I do?
by the way, I already checked, there ARE diapers that fit him... Huggies size 7!

I though that if I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do it right, with footed pijamas and what not.

Answer 1

NO! You will scar this kid mentally for life. Try seeing a therapist, maybe there's something more to it.

Answer 2

No.

Humiliating your son will not result in the behavior you want.

Instead, talk to him like an adult. Treat him like an adult. Expect him to act like an adult.

Let him know you respect him, and that because you respect him you expect him to act in ways to deserve your ongoing respect.

Talk about the house rules, and the positive behaviors you are wanting.

Set-up a reward system for those behaviors you want.

To do this, make a list of all the things he is doing right now which you are not liking.

Now, write the positive opposite of that negative behavior.

For instance, if he is throwing tantrums like a toddler when he wants something and you say no, the positive opposite might be: When you ask for something and the answer is no, you will accept that answer politely.

Create a chart with all your positive behaviors that you are wanting from your son listed down the left, and the days of the week listed to the right.

Every time your son does one of the positive behaviors, put a point on the chart on that day of the week next to that behavior.

At the end of the week, tally the behavior score and give him rewards that coincide with that tally.

For instance 5 positive behaviors in a week might get a small reward, an hour playing a video game or something like that.

10 positive behaviors would get a larger reward and so on.

Any negative behaviors, tantrums and the like would deduct points.

It has been shown time and again that positive reinforcement and praise are much better motivators than shame and fear.

If you want to save your son from years of therapy as an adult, take this more positive approach. You'll also find that it will help you create a much more fun and rewarding relationship with your child, too.

Answer 3

Well, hello no. Have you tried taking away things? And keeping to your word? I mean come on. Obviously he is acting like this to get attention. so why not take him to the park for awhile? But USE THE PARK AS AN AWARD FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR!!! Pack a picnic. Spend more quality time with him. He's obviously reaching out to you. I know it may seem he's not, but he has only been on this planet for 12 years and he is developing. You need to step up to the palte and let him know hat is ok and what isnt okay. Putting him in diapers will make it clear to him that he cant trust you. So, sit down with him and TALK. Find out whats going on in that head of his. Go to a paernting class to get ideas. There are a ton of things you can do. I wish you luck. Stand your ground.

Answer 4

Huh, Is there a reason why he is acting like this. Does he have a disability is there other underlying issues. If he is acting like this already any kind of puishment along those lines will only make things worse.

I am hoping this is a joke to get a rise out of people and not something seious. If you are serious you need to contact someone for help for the both of maybe a counselor or someone of that nature.

Children are not to be punished like that. No matter what it is that they have done wrong. You are going to do more harm than good. Causing many problems for him for the rest of his life.

Call the local health department, Does he go to school, is there family that can help you, where is his father??

Answer 5

Bad choice with the diapers. Humiliation in most cases with this age child does more harm than good. Find a way to punish him by taking away some of the things he really likes to do, for a short time, to see if this works. If not move on to more serious ones. Let him know that the attitude will have to change. You must know however; that you must be consistent and follow through. good luck

Answer 6

It sounds to me like you enjoy him being your baby again or you wouldn't be the one changing him all the time, you would make him change himself. Is this the case? If it is, that's why we continues to use them because you don't really want him to stop and why should he if he is getting so much attention from you when you change his diaper. That's a normal human reaction.

First of all, you should have taken him to a doctor to rule out any medical conditions that are causing him to wet himself.

Secondly you need to stop changing him and make him do it himself.

Thirdly you should stop buying the diapers for him and if he likes it that much he can buy them himself and change himself. You are conditioning him to grow up as and AB (adult baby) or a DL (diaper lover), two very common fetishes mostly in males.

I know I wouldn't mind having someone change my diaper all the time and give me that kind of attention but I don't have that. I'm incontinent and have to wear diapers 24 / 7 and I have to change my own and buy my own. I'm married and have a loving wife but that's even something she won't do for me.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I would suggest you try Pampers Cruisers size 7 if you are going to use a baby diaper, they don't make a Size 7 Huggies, that is if you plan on punishing him this way. It may be pushing things too far but who knows it may humiliate him having you diaper him and treat him like a baby so he wont misbehave anymore. Best of luck.

Answer 8

Not to be rude or anything, but your idea is really mean! Try talking about the rules with him one day when he isn't liking like a fool; maybe just before bedtime or during a meal where everyone is around.

Putting diapers on him can humiliate him and, he eventually may start hating you.

Don't do that. It's normal for twelve year olds to act like immature children. It's just the way they are.

Answer 9

Instead of paying a lot of attention to the bad behavior, reward the good. When children act out a lot, they want attention most of the time. If you start giving more attention to the good that they do (pick up room, help out with the house, get good grades) focus on that. By focusing on the bad so much, he may think that that's the only way to get attention. If you do focus on the positive and no change, talk to a counselor.

Answer 10

Suggestion, stop understanding why he's behaving the way he does. Set the rules and if he breaks them there are consquences.

Consider mental disorder, is he getting enough sleep, other medical issues that you have not considered.

Talk to you doctor to see what your options are

Don't forget boys can be stupid at this age, as long as he's not hurting himself or others. Let him be a kid. Soon he won't be your little boy who will want to hold your hand or give you a kiss goodnight. and one of these days, you won't be doing any of this!

Sometimes, act silly together! don't be so strict unless you have to.

Good Luck

Answer 11

My guess is his father is not around?.?... Your son is 12 he is perfectly capable of rationalizing things at his age. If you do what you suggest it will do more harm then good. I would recommend having a strong and authoritative man (hopefully his father) work with him a bit and take him to do things that is more for older kids. Also this may be the way he has gotten used to getting attention from you. I would also recommend refusing to acknowledge him unless he acts his age (but be sure you explain to him what you are doing first). And lastly if none of this works I would recommend some professional help as he may have some development issues.