I had met my ex wives first husband on two occasions,they have a son together.They were married 15 years ago.I called him the other day with the hope he maybe able to shine some light on her behaviors while we were married.He is a real nice guy like me.My wife had told me she had caught him in bed with another woman,and that he wanted the divorce..there son was 18 months old...Come to find out she was the one cheating and asked for a divorce on there second aniversery.Why would she have told me he cheated on her?
2007-07-18 03:45:47 · 13 answers · asked by Rodger M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like distrust from day #1. You called her ex to gather news about her past, and now someone has lied, and you don't know who to believe. So, if you love your wife, you have one thing to do and that is to believe he cheated on her.
If you don't do that, kiss the relationship goodbye.
2007-07-21 11:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by franj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just curious why you would take the word of someone you hardly know ( or it appears that you hardly know via your description of him in your question) over the word of your wife? There are always two different sides to every story. I can assure you if you called my exhusband and asked his view on why we were divorced it would be different than mine! Unfortunately this is usually how it goes when people get divorced! Just something to think about!
2007-07-18 11:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be lying and you don't know him very well, how do you know he is a "nice guy" like you? He might be just trying to rain on your parade, and you asked for it by calling him, why would you do that, talk to your wife. Don't call her ex, who is probably bitter about the divoce still. Talk to your wife about her behavior, and then if there is truth to his story, ask him who she was cheating with, and since you want to be all inspector gadget, track that guy down and ask him if it's true.
2007-07-18 10:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because she probably thought you wouldn't trust her if you knew she cheated in the past. . .but how do you know her ex is even telling the truth? I think you should just let it go . . you two are divorced. . move on and don't worry about the past.
2007-07-18 11:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Drew's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if she admitted to you that she cheated, then she knows that would have cast a long shadow of doubt on your trusting her. You know, once a cheater, always a cheater... She never thought you would check her story with her ex husband.
2007-07-18 10:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh. If she had told you the truth, would you have married her or trusted her? If so, then you would have been a fool. Of course she lied! Remember this next time: with the exception of relationships with abusers, 9 times out of 10 the split was a two-way street.
2007-07-18 10:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to turn up the sensitivity on your male bovine excretement meter. It is only human nature to place the blame elsewhere; if you notice any misspelled words here it is computer error.
2007-07-18 10:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because she is ashamed of it...why are you getting with him AFTER youre already divorced....get over it...that would have been good info to have BEFORE you married her...why start stuff now between herself and her sons dad?
2007-07-18 10:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by suitablepenname 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because sometimes women lie. move on dont try and start a support group of ex husbands, its not worth it.
2007-07-18 10:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by j-v 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most women don't like to admit.......... " I'm a WHORE!" -- My ex-wife still thinks she did nothing wrong sleeping around. She has to reassure herself that she is a good person because nobody else thinks so!
2007-07-18 10:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by i know it all! 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋